Sm1smom
Super Moderator
What about emergency AP? Once your I-485 is filed, if you can show a good enough reason that you need to return to your home country, you can pay to file an expedited request for AP at your FO, which would allow you to leave the country with a pending I-485. I have no idea if your situation will be considered urgent enough to get the emergency AP approved, though. And this will probably mean you loose all possibility of returning in F1 status and using your OPT in the future, because you'd have to return into the country as an advance parolee.
What do you think Mom?
I feel what I think about pursuing this doesn't really matter, the OP can give it a shot if she thinks it's worth it. The truth is having an approved AP card (be it an expedited or a regularly approved one) doesn't guarantee re-admission back into the U.S., admission is still at the discretion of the IO at the POE. Plus getting an expedited AP approval is not as easy as it sounds. And like you rightly noted, if admitted back and for some reason the AOS petition is denied, she obviously can't revert back to her OPT status.