Fiance Visa but, urgent help needed!!!

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demante

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Hi,I am new to this forum and I have read so much on this forum and felt I might get help here. I came on fiance visa to the US just a month ago but the marriage did not work out because my guy said he was not ready again to settle down to be a husband. I have wailed so much and has nobody to talk to. I feel so ahamed to go back as he has told me that I have to go back home. My whole life has been shattered. I honestly did nothing wrong to him which he confirmed but just that he said he was scared of the responsibilty.
Please, I would like to know if I have any option at all of staying legally here. I do not want to go home. Can I be a student? although I do not have means of paying for the fees. I am just confused, I do not even know of any option to suggest, please somebody help me, I have less than 60days left on my visa. I wait for a reply. What if I stay for a long time and fortunately find someone that will love me and ready to settle dowm and marry me, can I still be allowed to stay here and let the person change my status?. Please help me to think of any possibility. Thank you.
 
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Sadly I do not think there is much you can do.

You can on a K-1 visa, requested by him. You ought to marry him within 90 days of your arrival or you must leave the country.

I do not think that you can even marry someone else, in order to stay.

I think you should go back home and be with your family as you go through this hard time. They will understand... or should, and you should not make any decisions in a rush.

Maybe other more knowledgeable members may share other insights, but I do not think there is much you can do.

Except for getting some friends to kick that guy's butt. :mad:

Cheer up, there is someone better out there.
OP.
 
demante said:
Hi,I am new to this forum and I have read so much on this forum and felt I might get help here. I came on fiance visa to the US just a month ago but the marriage did not work out because my guy said he was not ready again to settle down to be a husband. I have wailed so much and has nobody to talk to. I feel so ahamed to go back as he has told me that I have to go back home. My whole life has been shattered. I honestly did nothing wrong to him which he confirmed but just that he said he was scared of the responsibilty.
Please, I would like to know if I have any option at all of staying legally here. I do not want to go home. Can I be a student? although I do not have means of paying for the fees. I am just confused, I do not even know of any option to suggest, please somebody help me, I have less than 60days left on my visa. I wait for a reply. What if I stay for a long time and fortunately find someone that will love me and ready to settle dowm and marry me, can I still be allowed to stay here and let the person change my status?. Please help me to think of any possibility. Thank you.
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Since you came here on a K-1 visa you can only adjust your status with the original sponsor of the K-1. Marrying someone else would not help you. USCIS will deny any AOS application submitted on your behalf by anyone other than the person who sponsor your original K-1.
 
NewlyMinted said:
Since you came here on a K-1 visa you can only adjust your status with the original sponsor of the K-1. Marrying someone else would not help you. USCIS will deny any AOS application submitted on your behalf by anyone other than the person who sponsor your original K-1.
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Not true. They could marry another person who would then have to file I-130 on their behalf, and adjust that way. Of course USCIS would most likely see that kind of marriage for what it is, for immigration benefit, and deny a Green Card.

However if the marriage was geniune the fact that they came here with the intention to marry someone else on a K-1 is not in itself a reason to deny AOS.

To the OP: Just go home. However I'm guessing that as your first response is "how do I remain in the USA" rather than "how can I forget this guy and go back home" the marriage was most likely so you could get a Green Card anyway, right?
 
nope, she will not be able to adjust status through marrying another US citizen. SHe'd still have to leave and do consular processing. However, to do that she cannot accumulate more than 180 days of illegal presence.

You have to go home.
 
I was under the assumption that if a new I-130 is filed for the person, it doesn't matter if they came under a K-1 originally. However it sounds like that's false, although I'm pretty damn sure I've read of cases where people did exactly that and successfully filed AOS, albeit after a substantial period of "out of status".
 
dr lha. no offence but i feel that once someone immigrate , she has to plan and choose the right options for herself. when we come here we leave our jobs. quit oppurtunities in our home country plan for things that will be more beneficial here in usa. and suddenly when u r asked to leave . u surely are shattered. and there is social stigma too. so its not right to think that if someone tries to stay here after coming here has just came for green card. you think that the person should happily say oh yeah i gotta go back because someone denied marrying me though initially promised. u need to understand that so much is at stake for a person who immigrates. it is matter of life and death for most of people. i feel your assuming that she married for green card a bit hurtful. if you are taken to other city for a better job and you quit your job that you have already.. and when u reach the another city someone tells you to leave the city .. what will you do.. wont it cause u to think about what to do now since u already quit the job u had and now u dont have anything left. wont u try to somehow try to make things right. i just tried to give u example , to make u understand the kind of betrayal a person feels. no offence to u
 
beltrain said:
dr lha. no offence but i feel that once someone immigrate , she has to plan and choose the right options for herself. when we come here we leave our jobs. quit oppurtunities in our home country plan for things that will be more beneficial here in usa. and suddenly when u r asked to leave. u surely are shattered.
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Unfortunately, our original poster hasn't immigrated. She came on a temporary visa in order to get married. While I'm not unsympathetic to the original poster, the fact remains that there are plenty of engagements that do not lead to marriage and this is unfortunately one of them.
 
beltrain: I just don't get the attitude that a jilted fiancee should get a green card. They gave up everything to be with their fiancee, not specifically to move to America. Surely in such as devastating situation the first thought would be to return to one's family and friends?

As it happens it would appear that USCIS agrees with me.
 
Agreed

That is what I said.

I couldn't agree more with Dr.

Go home, where people love you? :eek: where you got your family?

I know it is hard and that our answers seem harsh and like just going back is easy... we know it is not. But doing the right thing is not always easy.

OP :cool:
 
it's not just the right thing to do. It's the only thing to do in this situation. That's that catch that comes with K-1 visa.
 
No way out but to leave USA!!

Thank you all for responding to my question. Since it is obvious that no other person can adjust my stay here legally, I still find it hard to believe this hard truth. I loved my fiancee and left everything back home to come and be with him only for him to tell me that I have to go back home. I have prepared to go home because I do not want immigration officcials to send me home.But I had wished that I could stay here and get a better life.
Does anyone think that i can get admission and become a student legally?. Does anyone have a suggestion or have heard any similar situation in which the person later changed his status without the original sponsor?.It is very hard to think about going home although I have heard from this forum that I do not have a choice but to go home.
I am still waiting paitiently for any hopeful way out tostay here, people talk to me. I always feel like dying when I think of going back home.
May God help me. I will not wish my enemy to go through this at all. It is a horrible experience.
 
No way out but to leave USA!!

Thank you all for responding to my question. Since it is obvious that no other person can adjust my stay here legally through marriage to a citizen, I still find it hard to believe this hard truth. I loved my fiancee and left everything back home to come and be with him only for him to tell me that I have to go back home. I have prepared to go home because I do not want immigration officcials to send me home.But I had wished that I could stay here and get a better life.

Does anyone think that i can get admission and become a student legally?. Does anyone have a suggestion or have heard any similar situation in which the person later changed his status without the original sponsor?.It is very hard to think about going home although I have heard from this forum that I do not have a choice but to go home.
I am still waiting paitiently for any hopeful way out to stay here, people talk to me. I always feel like dying when I think of going back home.
May God help me. I will not wish my enemy to go through this at all. It is a horrible experience.
 
There is always hope

I think it would be very hard, if not impossible to adjust your status from a K-1 to anything else.

But I am sorry about your situation, something similar happened to me a couple of years ago. Do not worry though, there is always hope for something better.
 
demante said:
Does anyone think that i can get admission and become a student legally?. Does anyone have a suggestion or have heard any similar situation in which the person later changed his status without the original sponsor?
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By and large, if you want to be legally in the US in some other status, you'll need to return to your home country, get a different visa and then come back to the US.
 
Demante,
One thing I do not get. Given all the heartbreak and perhaps the feelings of betrayal, hurt, etc, why would you want to stay in the US and be reminded daily of what/who brought you to the US? I came here on a K-1 in 2002 to get married. Had the relationship failed even before we got married, I would have driven back to Canada the next day. I came to the US to be with my wife. Had that reason disappeared, I would have had no need (and desire) to stay in the US.
I guess we all grieve differently.


demante said:
I have prepared to go home because I do not want immigration officcials to send me home.But I had wished that I could stay here and get a better life.
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