we can't jump to conclusion ..
Have anybody tried to understand a girl's view .... who sits whole day at home .. 8:30AM - 9:00 PM .. cleaning ... looking after kids ...only to find a demanding husband home (if he can make it before 12:00PM) ...food and physical and his computes ...where is the emotional support she needs ???
Soumi , our grandparents "lived happily ever after" only on our faces ... grandma was "trained" to be very suppressive .... not asking for any of the grandpa's actions and supporting the whole family like a machine without asking for anything, and if she choses not to do so, she has no supporters not even females will support her. She has to derive happiness out of everyone's happiness but she can't dream for one herself (she doesn't dare to). For Grandma's the whole world is only her family... which is not true.. there is lot more to life than just caring for other .. it should be part of life and not the life. All said and done ... this is simply not possible in today's world and changing environment, the reason's can be HUNDREDS.
On the contrary, if we look at the men's point of view ...they have great responsibility (if they want to take) of supporting the family and being in US as an immigrant. and on the top of that work pressure always eats them up if they want to remain competive. They take their other half "for granted". that she being a sati savitri will always be there for me. But they forget that she is a Modern girl and has demands to and she is not "trained" like her grandma... she is a human too.
Marriage being a social alliance reduces to only two person on weekdays and four friends on weekends .. Its a lot of adjusment for a girl coming fresh in America and taking on the marriage responsibilty. Her life turns 180 degrees ... but mens life (schedule) remains the same.
So you never know what really goes wrong behind the closed doors. If you are married for 4-5 years, small differences in the personal nature also begin to show up ... like one like to watch TV while the other wants to go out.
GCFast .... I am really sorry for your friend .... but I don't think we can blame either him or her .... as you "really" don't know what "each" one is going through ..
Any Women/Men would be stupid to leave a "perfect" relationship if there is no problem underlying ... again you will never know those details ... and every person is opportunists if he/she knows that he/she needs to end this episode of life.
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this is solely my opinion and I don't mean to hurt anyone's feeling .. if I do so please excuse me for the same.
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Have anybody tried to understand a girl's view .... who sits whole day at home .. 8:30AM - 9:00 PM .. cleaning ... looking after kids ...only to find a demanding husband home (if he can make it before 12:00PM) ...food and physical and his computes ...where is the emotional support she needs ???
Soumi , our grandparents "lived happily ever after" only on our faces ... grandma was "trained" to be very suppressive .... not asking for any of the grandpa's actions and supporting the whole family like a machine without asking for anything, and if she choses not to do so, she has no supporters not even females will support her. She has to derive happiness out of everyone's happiness but she can't dream for one herself (she doesn't dare to). For Grandma's the whole world is only her family... which is not true.. there is lot more to life than just caring for other .. it should be part of life and not the life. All said and done ... this is simply not possible in today's world and changing environment, the reason's can be HUNDREDS.
On the contrary, if we look at the men's point of view ...they have great responsibility (if they want to take) of supporting the family and being in US as an immigrant. and on the top of that work pressure always eats them up if they want to remain competive. They take their other half "for granted". that she being a sati savitri will always be there for me. But they forget that she is a Modern girl and has demands to and she is not "trained" like her grandma... she is a human too.
Marriage being a social alliance reduces to only two person on weekdays and four friends on weekends .. Its a lot of adjusment for a girl coming fresh in America and taking on the marriage responsibilty. Her life turns 180 degrees ... but mens life (schedule) remains the same.
So you never know what really goes wrong behind the closed doors. If you are married for 4-5 years, small differences in the personal nature also begin to show up ... like one like to watch TV while the other wants to go out.
GCFast .... I am really sorry for your friend .... but I don't think we can blame either him or her .... as you "really" don't know what "each" one is going through ..
Any Women/Men would be stupid to leave a "perfect" relationship if there is no problem underlying ... again you will never know those details ... and every person is opportunists if he/she knows that he/she needs to end this episode of life.
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this is solely my opinion and I don't mean to hurt anyone's feeling .. if I do so please excuse me for the same.
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