abtoaajaa, goodsaint is right. I don't know about this case, but the other 3 .. I saw, had no connection with USA, but just a wild fantasy, fascination.
Consider this, a damn sexy, educated, hot lookin' girl, is damn sexy because she concentrates on things besides computers and money. (Like preen herself .. keep in shape?). She is totally fantasized by USA, but she and her parents don't express it, because .. "oh we're just fine here". Their view of USA is what they've seen in Movies, and they expect the boy to drive her from the airport in a mercedes convertible, to this big bunglow .. with butlers etc. .. where as the boy even though with a responsible a job and possibly a wonderful husband .. works for a desi consulting company, owns a laptop, a bed (maybe), clothes, and ironing board. Tries not to buy anything because he is saving for a house once he gets a GC, and tries not to do too much partying because, you know .. these dollars are worth a lot in India, plus he has parents to support, sisters to marry, and brothers to help.
But the girl, who hasn't seen the struggle here, hasn't been thru the fire to shine like gold, or the pressure to turn into a diamond, so she fails to understand his point of view. Whats more, life in America isn't all thats made out to be, she comes here on H4, the boy is trying to save his job by working long hours. Plus the boy is extremely happy and glazed by finally having a partner in life, and the girl gets too much attention from one guy, and nothing else. Over time, frustration mounts. She decides, America is good .. and America is what she wants, but with this dude stuck in her life for the rest of her life, she will never get the America she dreamed of .. unless .. she finds it on her own... and that is what she does.
Mind you, she fails to see his viewpoint because she hasn't been thru our struggle. Not that she is weird, but we are weird since this kind of struggle is unreal and not typical in most people's life. But it ends up making us so much better, but alone at the top.
... Conversely, (since you asked for marriage advice), you have the option of an ABCD...
ABCDs in 99% cases are here because their parents showed up here thru relatives or what not. Immigration used to be a LOT easier then. So they have NO CLUE what it takes to get a green card today. Again, we are talking about a group that hasn't seen struggle, even lesser than a desi girl has. Plus, it is sad to see that most of them are given to extremely mundane considerations like what kind of aftershave does he wear, versus his general attitude towards life. This is a generalization mind you, but y'know .. generalization because it fits the most. Most ABCD girls have a set idea about desi guys in their minds, and somehow it isn't cool to hang around with one in their friend circle. ..... again ..... they haven't been thru the struggle we have. Might I also mention, the dice is heavily loaded against Indian guys in numbers.
Then is the option of marrying an non-indian american. Hard to fit in our families, and in our culture and mindset. Thats a hot rock to hold, and I am not sure I can do that. But I'd be open to that idea, if someone nice comes along, but really not counting on it.
Silly advice: If you have the option, go to India, and lay it clearly in front of the girl that this is what America is, this is what you can expect. Try finding a girl who is not too glitzed by USA (Though they hide it well). Not too many will satisfy this criteria, but if one does, marry her and bring her here before GC. Remember, the number of cases that work .. are far greater than the ones that didn't.
.. IF NOT .. life is more than just marriage, just be rich and single and buy that mercedes S500 you've always wanted while your friends drive around in mini vans wiping dirty bums and tossing diapers. (Not to mention there's always mail order russian bride) Either way it's a win win situation, ...
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I gotta share you a peice of advice 140 gave me. Marriage is lifelong, this GC struggle is temporary. Don't make a mistake now that will bother you for the rest of your life by being pressurized by a struggle that is temporary. In other words, whoever you marry, try thinking and evaluating her .. without GC on your head ( I know thats hard to do which is why I am gonna marry after I get a GC ).
I'd really like to hear other's views on this too.
This isssue has been brought up many times, you are welcome to do a search on the archives. If I am not wrong there is little that can be done.