Thank you Sussie for the information. That makes sense. However, do you have any information on the spouse visa,how long it actually takes and what it really takes to pursue the process. I really think Marriage may not be the thing for me right now. Your thoughts please. Thank you.
For the spouse of a green card, you need:
1) a green card - so you can’t start the process before you actually land in the US
2) a filing fee for the i130 of $535 plus the visa interview fee at the consulate of $325 (and then the green card fee of $220 if approved, same as with a DV visa)
3) proof of US income sufficient to meet the public charge guidelines, for a household of 2 (you and your wife) this is currently $21137 per year. Along with this you sign an affidavit of support i864, unlike the Dv one this is legally binding and makes you liable for any public funds your wife might use until she becomes a citizen or until she has worked for 10 years. Note that this affidavit remains binding on you even if you subsequently divorce (and in the scenario if she never becomes a citizen or works that means you could literally be on the hook the rest of your life ... I’m sure it’s not often this happens, but it could )
4) you will need to provide proof of a genuine relationship
5) wait times vary but generally it’s around 2 years, if it’s an embassy that is pretty busy with long wait times for interviews you can add some months on to that. She has to remain at home while this process goes on. Possibly might get a tourist visa to visit you but these are often denied in this situation.
6) if she happens to get her immigrant visa less than 2 years after marriage (unlikely for spouse of green card holder but it does happen occasionally) then her green card is conditional, and you have to go through a process called removal of conditions after your 2nd anniversary (requires another interview and more marriage proof). As I said unlikely this will happen for spouse of LPR but occasionally it does so I mention for completeness. The filing + biometric fee for this process is $680.