Sunshine515
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Hi, I'm an American that recently got engaged to an Indian graduate student, and I want to be sure that his intentions are true. I have not had any red flags (at all! He's an absolutely wonderful, kind and caring guy - which is why I'm so happy to marry him), but all the same, I am aware that I would not necessarily know what those flags look like. I lived in China for a couple years, and I saw many Chinese girls snag unwitting American men for the sake of a greencard (I also saw just as many happy lovers, so I'm not disparaging Chinese girls or American guys!). So suffice it to say that I may be a bit paranoid. I just want to be sure I go into this clear eyed (unlike my compatriots in China!).
Anyway, I have two questions, and I hope someone could share their wisdom with me.
1. Given the trend I noticed in China, I was wondering if this is common or occurs between Indians and Americans. I'm well aware that the circumstances are totally different, as Indians are professionals and their families will be so resistant that it's probably often easier to just work in the US for a several years and wait it out. Despite that, though, does this sort of thing occur frequently?
2. What kinds of signs in our relationship or in his actions might reveal less than sincere intentions regarding our marriage?
Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated! I'm so happy and excited to be marrying him, and I love him more and more every day, but I don't presume to have infinite wisdom. I don't want to end up heart broken and humiliated one day because I lacked the wisdom to see the situation properly.
Anyway, I have two questions, and I hope someone could share their wisdom with me.
1. Given the trend I noticed in China, I was wondering if this is common or occurs between Indians and Americans. I'm well aware that the circumstances are totally different, as Indians are professionals and their families will be so resistant that it's probably often easier to just work in the US for a several years and wait it out. Despite that, though, does this sort of thing occur frequently?
2. What kinds of signs in our relationship or in his actions might reveal less than sincere intentions regarding our marriage?
Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated! I'm so happy and excited to be marrying him, and I love him more and more every day, but I don't presume to have infinite wisdom. I don't want to end up heart broken and humiliated one day because I lacked the wisdom to see the situation properly.