I am a USC in a difficult situation, and I am not sure how to proceed, what are my best options? I met (summer 2008) and married my husband (May 2009) while abroad in Korea. He is an Indian citizen. He was so kind and sweet to me, I fell for him hard and fast (leaving a 17 yr marriage). There were times during our courtship I questioned his actions...he lied to his parents about me in part (he said they would not understand)...he had a friend who married a Korean for immigration purposes only (which he condemned). He told me he had overstayed his visa in Korea just a bit, and had his Indian attorney there explain it was no big deal for many long exhaustive explanations. We made plans for the future and just spent time enjoying each other. We filed I-130 2 weeks after our marriage and I had to return to the US in August same year.
After my arrival in the states, we communicated via the internet almost daily. It was a long and difficult process getting everything approved and his visa acquired. There were numerous complications and delays, he said due to the Indian embassy person there who refused to file and forward documents thru India without "pocket money". His visa was finally received July 2010, but he did not come to the US until October 26, 2010.
Immediately after his arrival here, he was a completely different person. He was always angry and yelling at me for completely minor issues. Just a week after his arrival I was so frustrated about his behavior I told him to take his things and go. Life became a daily up and down cycle. He said it was stress because of his inability to work (waiting for documents)...changing his life...his family wanting him to come to India. I tried to be patient. His ss card arrived Dec. 5 and his CGC Dec. 10.
I had introduced him to an Indian family here and he was spending time with them, learning their business to go to work for the man. Christmas we received word his father was in a coma and would likely die. He made arrangements with the Indian family here to travel with them to India Jan 7, his father died and he remained in India "settling" his father's business until March 26, 2011. All during his time in India I called him almost daily, he never spoke to me for more than 5 minutes...he was sick, he was busy, always in a foul mood.
Less than 2 weeks after his return, he went 300 miles away to work with a "relative" recommended by his mother when he was in India. Because of his "despirate need" to start our new life in the new place (which i was not consulted about at all) I sent him my remaining savings to establish an apartment for us, and planned to transfer in my company to that location.
Just a few weeks ago, I found a personal page of his on a social media website with only pictures of him and his ex-gf from Korea IN INDIA. The clothes, sunglasses and haircut prove to me (with other pictures taken when he arrived back here) the pictures were taken this spring while he was there settling his father's business.
I have discovered many lies. The person 300 miles away is no relative. I do not know if he married me for immigration purposes. It is very possible he married me to leave Korea without penalty (I discovered in recent weeks that he was illegal there more than 6 yrs). I have no proof other than these pictures taken in a public place that he has been unfaithful (they are no proof at all). He is constantly yelling and calling me names and turns every question into my somehow being at fault for his choices. I cannot live with a man that is a liar, a cheat, and abusive to me (never physical only a threat). His CGC is up for change of status Oct. 2012. I am flat broke now because of him, he has never contributed to our household (but we only cohabitated in the US 2 months and then 10 days), we have no assets together, no joint accounts, no children thank god, and I have nobody I can borrow from to afford a divorce. And now i learn he owes that local Indian family almost $2000 as he never paid for the flight the procured for him.
What are my options...as to responsibility for his sponsorship (divorce before or after 10/2012)?
After my arrival in the states, we communicated via the internet almost daily. It was a long and difficult process getting everything approved and his visa acquired. There were numerous complications and delays, he said due to the Indian embassy person there who refused to file and forward documents thru India without "pocket money". His visa was finally received July 2010, but he did not come to the US until October 26, 2010.
Immediately after his arrival here, he was a completely different person. He was always angry and yelling at me for completely minor issues. Just a week after his arrival I was so frustrated about his behavior I told him to take his things and go. Life became a daily up and down cycle. He said it was stress because of his inability to work (waiting for documents)...changing his life...his family wanting him to come to India. I tried to be patient. His ss card arrived Dec. 5 and his CGC Dec. 10.
I had introduced him to an Indian family here and he was spending time with them, learning their business to go to work for the man. Christmas we received word his father was in a coma and would likely die. He made arrangements with the Indian family here to travel with them to India Jan 7, his father died and he remained in India "settling" his father's business until March 26, 2011. All during his time in India I called him almost daily, he never spoke to me for more than 5 minutes...he was sick, he was busy, always in a foul mood.
Less than 2 weeks after his return, he went 300 miles away to work with a "relative" recommended by his mother when he was in India. Because of his "despirate need" to start our new life in the new place (which i was not consulted about at all) I sent him my remaining savings to establish an apartment for us, and planned to transfer in my company to that location.
Just a few weeks ago, I found a personal page of his on a social media website with only pictures of him and his ex-gf from Korea IN INDIA. The clothes, sunglasses and haircut prove to me (with other pictures taken when he arrived back here) the pictures were taken this spring while he was there settling his father's business.
I have discovered many lies. The person 300 miles away is no relative. I do not know if he married me for immigration purposes. It is very possible he married me to leave Korea without penalty (I discovered in recent weeks that he was illegal there more than 6 yrs). I have no proof other than these pictures taken in a public place that he has been unfaithful (they are no proof at all). He is constantly yelling and calling me names and turns every question into my somehow being at fault for his choices. I cannot live with a man that is a liar, a cheat, and abusive to me (never physical only a threat). His CGC is up for change of status Oct. 2012. I am flat broke now because of him, he has never contributed to our household (but we only cohabitated in the US 2 months and then 10 days), we have no assets together, no joint accounts, no children thank god, and I have nobody I can borrow from to afford a divorce. And now i learn he owes that local Indian family almost $2000 as he never paid for the flight the procured for him.
What are my options...as to responsibility for his sponsorship (divorce before or after 10/2012)?
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