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Maylstryx

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Im a 43 yr old male living in Houston, TX. My girlfriend who is 35 yrs old lives in and was born in Belgium. We met and became friends in a chatroom online for people with similiar medical problems. We started doing video chat between just the two of us on our yahoo messenger accounts. We fell in love with each other. We have done video chat and type chat every single day for an average of 6 hours each day for a year now. In 2009 she came here in august and spent 10 days with me and that is what truly cemented our relationship. Our plan is this....she will be coming here in late October and we want to get married and then apply for her to get a green card so she can stay here, our ultimate goal being save some money and in several years move permently to Belgium.

I have searched the internet, read through alot of posts in these forums and to be honest the amount of information is overwhelming, confusing and at times makes our plans seem hopeless. Please help us turn what seems to be a mountain into a climable hill. Im so confused, where do we start, how do we start? If she makes such a huge move and can't stay here it will break my heart. Is getting married shortly after she arrives and then apply for a green card the best way. As soon as we are married I can get her on my workplace insurance plan and want to make her benificiary on my life insurance.

Im not a rich man but I was a single parent for my childs entire life and kept us comfortable and now that my daughter is 20 yrs old and moving out there is no reason I couldnt support me and a wife. Will immigration require me to have a set amount in my bank?

Someone, anyone, please help us. What do we do? How do we start this? We have nothing to hide from immigration and want to do everything properly but I guess what we need to hear from someone is that its possible and everything will be ok. Any information, any help at all will be so immensley appreciated. Thank you very much.
 
From what Ive gathered then is my first step is to file for the K1 visa. So it would be a bad move to just have her come here, get married and apply for greencard? What I read seems to point to that.
 
Thank you dr_rks !!!! After an hour or two of looking at your links and even found a website that allowed me to ask a question to a immigration laywer, you have just saved me what could have been a dire mistake on my part. I aways believed just have her come here and get married, problem solved, but now I know that route carries certain risks we would rather not take. The K1 visa is the way to keep everything on the up and up as far as immigration is concerned and I had no idea. Thank you VERY VERY VERY much for your help, I appreciate it so much. I will keep you posted on how things go if thats ok. Thank you again, I wish you all the best :)
 
The USCIS is a good resource for family based immigration. An in person consultation for an hour or two would be relatively inexpensive and allow you to map out a strategy specific to your situation, If you begin to have problems with the process, please check the AILA website for attorneys in your area.
 
Maylstryx said:
Our plan is this....she will be coming here in late October and we want to get married and then apply for her to get a green card so she can stay here, our ultimate goal being save some money and in several years move permently to Belgium.
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Don't volunteer that last bit of information in the interview. As a green card applicant, they expect her to be moving to live in the US permanently.
 
Maylstryx said:
Im a 43 yr old male living in Houston, TX. My girlfriend who is 35 yrs old lives in and was born in Belgium. We met and became friends in a chatroom online for people with similiar medical problems.
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What medical issues does she have? There may be an admissibility issue.
 
Can she come here on a visitor visa, we start the K1 process and then at the end of her visit, she return to Belgium and let the K1 process finish and return when its approved? This is horrible, I appreciate everyones help here but at the moment the more I learn about all this I get more confused.
 
Would going the K3 route instead of K1 make anything easier or is it all basically the same? If need be I could go to Belgium this year and marry her.
 
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