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jimgreener

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Hi
I have a strange situation. Need some advice
I have a question. I have interview on dec 9.
I am collecting all the information to prove the legality of the marriage.
We have Cablevision phone and cable. My wife is "Authorized User" (whatever the hell that means)
on the account.
I called cablevision last week and they added her name to the account. I now have a printout of
the website account showing both our names on it.
Same story with ConEd.

My question is since I am going to show only last bill(cablevision and coned) to the immigration
officer,is that wise?
If he asked me to show previous bills, should I explain him that I had to add my wife's name to the
bill recently and she wasn't on it in the past?

I do have other docs like joint mortgage, life insurance, joint dental and health insurance,joint bank accounts,wife's voter registration on the joint address,
joint All State car insurance, benefiary on 401K etc. and so on.

Any advice?
Thanks
 
Provide all the evidence you have and only divulge specific information when asked. The last thing you want to do at the interview is to volunteer more information that you need to.
 
Thanks for the response. I agree with you that I shouldn't volunteer anything but my question is what if he asked for older bills. Then what do I do?
 
jimgreener said:
Hi
I have a strange situation. Need some advice
I have a question. I have interview on dec 9.
I am collecting all the information to prove the legality of the marriage.
We have Cablevision phone and cable. My wife is "Authorized User" (whatever the hell that means)
on the account.
I called cablevision last week and they added her name to the account. I now have a printout of
the website account showing both our names on it.
Same story with ConEd.

My question is since I am going to show only last bill(cablevision and coned) to the immigration
officer,is that wise?
If he asked me to show previous bills, should I explain him that I had to add my wife's name to the
bill recently and she wasn't on it in the past?

I do have other docs like joint mortgage, life insurance, joint dental and health insurance,joint bank accounts,wife's voter registration on the joint address,

joint All State car insurance, benefiary on 401K etc. and so on.

Any advice?
Thanks
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voter registration by your wife who is not US Citizen????
 
I think wife is the citizen, I guess he go the green card through marriage and has applied based on the three year rule. That's my guess. I don't know what the fuss is about those bills, as it seems the original poster seems to have a lot of additional documentation.

PS: In my humble opinion the best proof of a bona fide marriage is having kids together. It is not the only proof, but one of the best ones. Anyway, three years of marriage is good time to start having kids, otherwise it looks suspicious that the marriage was done only for the purpose of immigration. I am not judging or recommending people what to do, or to say that the only purpose of marriage is procreation. It is just that I am mildly amused that I seem to have seen quite a few posts lately about proof of bona fide marriage and none of them seem to mention children. So, the high level of anxiety and the lack of children makes the whole thing a bit suspect.
 
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Hurcan:
man that's an unfair and unfounded statement; my marriage is as real as it can be, and we're still in love with each other just like when started dating 8 yrs ago; My wife just graduated from Pharmacy school, and I'm still in college...it will be really crappy if we had kids with 2 people in college.
And, my whole process and interview was smooth as can be; interview lasted just 10 min's, no problems at all, and the IO even commented on what a nice couple we're. (and didn't ask for a single document that I took as proof)
I'm glad that they're not narrow minded to think that if a marriage is good, there has to be a bunch of brats running around; of course there can be if that's the only goal of a marriage (which I know you didn't mean, but some idiots do). There's (and there should be) absolutely nothing "funny" or suspect about not having kids. There are plenty of modern young married couples that have high ambitions, career or otherwise, and who don't think that parenthood is the only important thing in a marriage; that's a very outdated and rather non western way to think, IMO (i'm sure different cultures think about that differently)...and usa being a western country, i'm glad that the IOs here don't think that narrow minded. Thank god we didn't have to have unwanted kids just to show our marriage is bona fide !!!
 
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There are also plenty of young married couples that don't think that simply because some people are married and have kids - that that was their only goal. Kids are a product of a relationship; they are the fruits of it. They are but one way to get those fruits - others simply have different goals (which are neither better nor worse). To say that married couples with children only married to have those children is making the same (wrong) blanket statement as did Huracan.
 
agreed; but I didn't say all of them thought that, Mr Vertigo; if you read my post again, you'll see that I said some think like that.
and I apologize if my tone was over the top.
 
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No, no, no need for apologies. We're just discussing. :) I guess we can agree that kids are important but so is one's career or other plans in life. Choices... and the freedom to have them! :)
 
Well said;
I think kids, career...they should all be there for the right reasons, and at the right time...not just to have them for the sake of having them.
 
Just to clarify
My wife is a US citizen and I have been married to her for last nine years and we have a 5 yr old.
She became citizen in 2002 but we were married in 1999.
I got my GC in 2005 (marriage based).
 
jimgreener said:
Thanks for the response. I agree with you that I shouldn't volunteer anything but my question is what if he asked for older bills. Then what do I do?
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The documents you already have are sufficient to show that you have a bona fide marriage. Don't dwell on a cable bill that your wife wasn't previously on and focus your attention on the documents you do have. I doubt the IO will fixate on a single utility bill.

* Proof that your spouse has been a U.S. citizen for more than three years, such as birth certificate, naturalization certificate, certificate of citizenship, or U.S. passport.

* Your marriage certificate.

* Proof of termination of ALL prior marriages of both you and your spouse (if any).

* Evidence of bona fide marriage - bring any documents which would assist in establishing the validity of your marriage such as (but not limited to) lease agreements or home ownership documents, joint bank and credit accounts, joint tax returns, proof of joint ownership of other property such as investments, automobiles, life insurance, health insurance.

* Birth certificates of your children.

http://library.findlaw.com/2004/Jan/27/133404.html
 
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Washburn27 said:
Hurcan:
man that's an unfair and unfounded statement; my marriage is as real as it can be, and we're still in love with each other just like when started dating 8 yrs ago; My wife just graduated from Pharmacy school, and I'm still in college...it will be really crappy if we had kids with 2 people in college.
And, my whole process and interview was smooth as can be; interview lasted just 10 min's, no problems at all, and the IO even commented on what a nice couple we're. (and didn't ask for a single document that I took as proof)
I'm glad that they're not narrow minded to think that if a marriage is good, there has to be a bunch of brats running around; of course there can be if that's the only goal of a marriage (which I know you didn't mean, but some idiots do). There's (and there should be) absolutely nothing "funny" or suspect about not having kids. There are plenty of modern young married couples that have high ambitions, career or otherwise, and who don't think that parenthood is the only important thing in a marriage; that's a very outdated and rather non western way to think, IMO (i'm sure different cultures think about that differently)...and usa being a western country, i'm glad that the IOs here don't think that narrow minded. Thank god we didn't have to have unwanted kids just to show our marriage is bona fide !!!
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You've hit the nail on the head with that one. My wife and I have been dating for 3 years before we got married. We don't have any kids, nor are we planning on having any for at least the next 5 years or so. Career ambitions aside, we'd like to enjoy our marriage and travel the world (I'm dying to collect some stamps in my new U.S. passport), before we take the dive and commit ourselves to having a kid. In my opinion, the most important thing about marriage is love. Everything else is secondary.

Also, after I got married, quite a few of my older co-workers asked me if there will be a child in 9 months. They looked at me like I was from Mars when I explained my views on marriage to them and said that the main purpose of marriage is to have a child. I guess some people still live in the 19th century.
 
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Vorpal said:
Career ambitions aside, we'd like to enjoy our marriage and travel the world (I'm dying to collect some stamps in my new U.S. passport),
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My wife says "ditto !!!" :D
That's one of her biggest interests...probably the biggest: traveling ...that will be our main activity as soon as I get out of college, pay off our student loans, and start to "kick back" and enjoy the hard work we put into studies/career.
 
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