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rahulromeo

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I fell deeply in love and got married in 2009.
I lived with my girlfriend for a few months before I got married.
Then I got my conditional green card in around three and a half months and looked for jobs in her state.
After searching for two months in her state, I moved to another state to work.
Since then we have been living in separate states.
We have kept in touch every single day, and made visits whenever money has allowed us to.
I still have not been able to get a job that allows me to support us both and hence cannot find the confidence to tell her to quit her part time job and move in with me.
I am due to apply to remove conditions this year, and this keeps bothering me, even though all documents are jointly under our name, she has changed her last name, and met my family (I flew them here from overseas so we could all meet up).
We just spent vacation together a week ago, but now we are living in different states again.
Is there any hope for couples where the love is true, and the commitment is genuine?
Or do all marriages that lead to adjustment of status need to be "perfect"?
 
You are going to run into problems and will invite unwanted attention.
I don't know your case or have your A-file infront of me but just your statement here has lot of holes in it, first your family is affluent enough to fly to US but cannot help their son financially to re-unite with his spouse. Second you afford to have a vacation but can't afford to live together?
Here I am just a average Joe and pick these few things in your story and am not satisfied myself imagine a immigration officer who are much more trained and experienced as they interview multilple couples in just one day.
Goodluck !
 
I am slightly confused. She has a part-time job in her state and she cannot find another part-time job in your state? What kind of part-time job is it that is exclusively found in her current state? USCIS, not me, will be interested to learn this.

rahulromeo said:
I still have not been able to get a job that allows me to support us both and hence cannot find the confidence to tell her to quit her part time job and move in with me.
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You may have a little difficulty but you'll probably still get approved if you prepare well. Take pictures of your vacations (with both of you in the picture and recognizable landmarks in the background), keep gathering the joint documents, keep filing taxes together, and bring her to the interview (if there is an interview) and you should be approved.

But you need to keep looking for a job in her state, and/or she should be looking for a job in your state, and keep proof of the correspondence with those companies, so you can show that you're trying to end the separation and haven't permanently accepted the status quo of living apart.
 
Namecheckvictim is right dude. Your story has all sorts of holes and questions.
There are a lot of folks out there that have been affected by the economy, but there are not living in different states.
Other than the part time job, Is there any other reasons why your wife cannot join you? Like kids in school or ailing family member?
To play it safe, you might want to consult a lawyer.
 
There isn't any reason to live in different states if you're working part time jobs.... Just make whoever makes less, move!
 
Manalive is right, Wayne57 is right too, and namecheckvictim raised legit concerns...
 
rahulromeo said:
I still have not been able to get a job that allows me to support us both and hence cannot find the confidence to tell her to quit her part time job and move in with me.
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I am starting to grow more suspicious like the others in this thread.

Is she living with her parents or another relative without paying rent? Or some other arrangement for very little rent? Otherwise, that means her expenses will go way down if she quits her part time job and moves in with you, and yours won't go up very far. So I find it strange that she can afford to live separately with a part time job, but you make more money than her and you can't afford to support her temporarily if she moves in with you.

Unless she's living nearly rent-free or making a lot of money at that part time job, you're going to have hell in the interview if you don't start living together again soon. That may result in denial and deportation, or having to pay thousands of dollars in lawyer fees to fight deportation (you don't get a public defender in immigration court). You need to explain to her how SERIOUS this is.
 
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rahulromeo said:
I fell deeply in love and got married in 2009.
I lived with my girlfriend for a few months before I got married.
Then I got my conditional green card in around three and a half months and looked for jobs in her state.
After searching for two months in her state, I moved to another state to work.
Since then we have been living in separate states.
We have kept in touch every single day, and made visits whenever money has allowed us to.
I still have not been able to get a job that allows me to support us both and hence cannot find the confidence to tell her to quit her part time job and move in with me.
I am due to apply to remove conditions this year, and this keeps bothering me, even though all documents are jointly under our name, she has changed her last name, and met my family (I flew them here from overseas so we could all meet up).
We just spent vacation together a week ago, but now we are living in different states again.
Is there any hope for couples where the love is true, and the commitment is genuine?
Or do all marriages that lead to adjustment of status need to be "perfect"?
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You are going to invite hell into your life, USCIS will be very much interested in the sordid details of your married-but-separate lives. Unless you have huge "cajones" this case is going to be extremely difficult for you, plus you are likely going to be called for an interview, which is one thing you never want to fool with. Only a small % of I-751 filings are called for another face-to-face grilling with USCIS, primarily because there is something suspicions about their petitions. Unless your wife is a stripper and lives above the nightclub to save rent, then she should move and stay with you. The idea that you don't make enough money to support the two of you is a lot of double-talk, men find solutions to the complex of everyday issues, work 3 jobs to care for your woman dude. It is best for you to see her on the weekend under the same roof, unlike in another state somewhere and should I assume you have sex via skype? This are issues which USCIS will be interested in. Whether you get laid or not is irrelevant to me, but another man who is evaluating your case and is married and get to be high on his wife night-in-night out, will be greatly trouble by your long-distance marital relations....:(
 
IF I were the interviewing officer I would want to know if she was just a friend who was doing you a favor or if you paid her to marry you to get a greencard.
 
This story is like a strainer to me, what says the USCIS officer reviewing the case?
You fell deeply in love, yet you move to another state and leave your wife you're so deeply in love with?
Come on start this thread again with a different line.
 
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