Nisha,
It's very easy for us "educated folks" to think that we should live in harmony and all religions r good etc,. etc.
But on practical grounds, given the population of country like India and their level of education, it is easy said than done.
Sitting in the comforts of our homes and in the company of like level people, we can hope for anything our peaceful mind and body want, but poverty, lack of education and lack of guarantee of very existence can mould people's beliefs in any wrongful directions by self proclaimed religious and political leaders.
What, rather is needed, is mass education and standards upliftment. RSS is one body which has been doing that for last more than 50 years upspoken. It is our duty to do our bit in educating people or atleast leading them thru the right path so that they have standing and thinking power of their own. Then, they won't need mob herder leading them to violence. They'll have a mind of their own to judge the right and wrong.
It's a matter of percentages. At this time it might be only 5-10% populace thinking along the lines that u and I might endorse and acknowledge. But unless the rest of 80-90% people r with u, in their thoughts and actions, communalism and violence can't be stopped.
And until, that happens, all that u would have to discuss ur case with would be handful of people with inconsequential arguments.