Need Help!!!!!!

[constructus]

constructus, I think we should be glad some people keep it as a hobby to come back here and give immigration advice. I don't think you should question people's motives, whether they find it entertaining, if it challenges their thinking, or if they simply feel like passing on the knowledge they have obtained; fact of the matter is they try to come here and help, and help can sometimes mean telling someone about options that are not open to them. If everyone just came here for the duration of their particular immigration issue and then left again, the community would constantly have to learn immigration issues all over again.

Austriacus, my friend, you did not understand what I meant. The way that individual referred to all this was as if it was "fun and games".

I am glad that good people come here and offer FREE GOOD advice sometimes. I found a lot of good advice here from you, PRAE, TRINIGIRL, AMIDT, B.robot,...and many more. Those are just the first few that pop up in my head.

What I am saying is that sometimes the news cannot always be good. But why be so cold?

If this individual I am referring to (the culprit) went to her womens Dr appointment and the Dr detected something in her chest.

Would she like the Dr to come back and coldly just say: "We detected something in your chest, you most likely have cancer. Goodbye. NEXT!!!"

Or would this person rather have the Dr say: "we have found something unusual in your tests. It may be cancer. But go see a specialist for a second more precise evaluation and opinion. But don't worry, even if it is cancer, you should be able to find a treatment."

Personally I am sure that the individual in question would rather like to hear response number two. So why is it that with other people's risks of family separation the individual gives people response one?

 

[trinigirl]

Trinigirl, or should I say Mrs Trinigirl, you did not get my point. I was merely showing sarcastically how that individual was ridiculous. Since she pointed out that the kids were fine, ALL that would happen was that the kids would just stay with dad, and lets just all forget about mom.

I found that so cold, I was just adding things on there to show how ridiculous this individual who proudly gives her free advice here sounded sometimes.

I was just wondering what if this individual's AOS or spouse's AOS was difficult would she have just gone and left without a "fight"?

If you love your spouse and kids, and if you are a nice loving individual in general, that's not something you want to do yourself, and that's something you understand so usually that prevents you from throwing such BS to someone who is facing such a tough situation. Only one with NO heart can find all this ENTERTAINING. I used that word (ENTERTAINING) because the individual referred to all this as being a HOBBY to her.

My Hobbies are: hanging out with my wife when she is not at school or working, watching baseball, hanging out with friends, playing video games, going out, watching movies,...

Going to school (not anymore), working (not yet) coming to this forum are not hobbies but serious stuff. Its not fun, its to learn and share REAL LIFE experiences, help and be helped. These are real people facing separation from family members, not fake MBA case studies.

So even if people who think that they have pasted their degree in legal affairs because they reached the 300 posts mark, if a case is REALLY difficult, they should just redirect the people to REAL LAWYERS. If they have not been taught the art of sugar coating even bad news, they should find another HOBBY. This is NOT A GAME.

I did get your point, but I was saying it as the peas would. You are so right in what you were saying I agree with you 100%, I was being sarcastic not not to you. You and I are on the same page. I missed a lot I went to my son's football game

 

[austriacus]

constructus,

I think the reason someone would not like to hear this answer from their doctor is because the doctor is a professional, is an expert in the field, and it is his or her job to serve his or her patients. The counterpart to immigration would be to get such an advice from an immigration attorney, "You can't adjust status. Goodbye. NEXT!!!" ... and this would truly be inappropriate, especially if one paid for this attorney.

However, we're all individuals here who participate in the forum for a variety of reasons. Some of us may be highly qualified to give advice, some highly unqualified. None of us is paid or selected by any criteria, so we can basically voice our opinion about whatever we want, provided someone is not personally attacked.

The best that the OP can hope for here, really (and this is how I use the forum too, or any other forum for that matter), is to hear someone's answer and then to either go verify it, or wait if someone else agrees or disagrees, and see if there is general consensus. The power of this forum is in the knowledge of the masses, but putting any significant weight on any individual's advice here is meaningless. Therefore, nobody should get devastated or euphoric by any single answer.

About the quirks any members may or may not have, as long as they provide useful advice I think those quirks should be accepted. You may have had teachers in school with some specific weird behavior, yet you learn to accept it because, well, otherwise you don't have the opportunity to learn. So if for instance someone's tone is not serious, or perhaps what you would think is "cold", well then try to look beyond that and just focus on the content of what they have to say. Again, I think this is appropriate here strictly because we're not in the immigration profession but immigration amateurs.