Bobsmith,
The point you are making here is that a WITHDRAW ( writing a letter to a local office, infopass or not showing up at interview) ls equal or leads anyway, to a DENIAL;
So then why other posters argued that
WItHDRAWAL and DENIAL are two different outcomes;
What they mean is that on paper a withdrawal is better than a denial under certain circumstances. For example, a withdrawal will lead to a denial without prejudice, whereas a denial for something like committing a crime or lying will lead to denial based on poor moral character. The latter denial can be used against you in future applications, although each application is judge on its own merits.
In your case, you wouldn't be denied based on poor moral character unless you lied about divorce(or something else) . You'd be denied based on no longer meeting basic eligibility requirements (if the divorce wasn't withdrawn).
One thing I know for sure is I have to TELL them NOW I'm in divorce proceedings : will this be considered/intended a withdraw? Don't know
and also: SHOULD I GO at the interview or not?
I still don't have a clear valid answer to my case
The way I see it really depends on the status of your marriage.
Here are your choices based on that:
1) Divorce has been filed, wife will not withdraw it, you go to interview,update IO on divorce, get denied based on ineligibility. Whether you inform USCIS before or during interview won't make a difference in outcome.
2) Divorce has been filed, wife will not withdraw it , you go to interview, but not tell IO abut it. Potential denial based on poor moral character (lying) or approval with potential of denaturalization later.
3) Divorce has been filed, wife agrees to withdraw it, you go to interview, but don't show sufficient cause that you are reconciling with wife. Denial based on ineligibility (break in marital union).
4) Divorce has been filed, wife will not withdraw it, you decide to withdraw application. Denial with no prejudice.
5) Divorce has been filed, wife will not withdraw it, you decide not to go to interview, not notify USCIS and not withdraw case. Case will eventually be put on administrative hold and closed. Not really a good idea since USICS may require you to withdraw an old pending case put on hold first before adjudicating a new one.
5) Divorce has been filed, wife agrees to withdraw it, you go to interview and show sufficient cause that you are sincerely reconciling. Approval.
6) Divorce has been filed , wife does not withdraw. You hire someone to get rid of her and decide to go to interview and tell IO that wife has expired. Denial based on ineligibility. Also potential for deportation if they connect her disappearance with you (foul play).
Ok, option 6 is just to see if you're paying attention and really shouldn't be an option. But you get my point.
In the end , no one but you and your wife can show that your marriage still has a chance to survive. If you're both willing to make it work then go for it. If not, cut your losses and move on until you can reapply based on 5 years.