Looking for Help on Metally retarted brother - Please help with an answer

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sirs

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I am a neutralized US citizen. I need following advise and really appreciate if some expert or someone who are in similar situation can help with answers.

I have aging parents and one mentally and physically retarded brother (age 38 years). My parents are alone in india taking care of my brother. This is becoming increasing difficult on everyday basis. Looking forward for an advise or solution to

1. How should I move by brother in USA. Can I apply for his Visa or GC on basis of my citizenship and on grounds of his illness. He cannot talk, walk or eat on his own. This is a very concerning issue for me and looking for a solution.
2. I assume my parents can apply for visa and get in USA along with my brother. And are eligible for GC.

Really appreciate an answer. Should I schedule some time with lawyer to discuss the legal work required.
Thanks
 
Not to sound uncompassionate, but how will their moving ease their situation? Help for your brother's situation will prove to be very costly in the US.

sirs said:
My parents are alone in india taking care of my brother. This is becoming increasing difficult on everyday basis.
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sirs said:
Can I apply for his Visa or GC on basis of my citizenship and on grounds of his illness. He cannot talk, walk or eat on his own.
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Mental retardation alone doesn't make one inadmissible but I fear he's inadmissible because he's likely to be a public charge.
 
It would also be impossible to get any kind of medical insurance for your brother in the US for his specific condition.
 
sirs said:
I have aging parents and one mentally and physically retarded brother (age 38 years). My parents are alone in india taking care of my brother. This is becoming increasing difficult on everyday basis.
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The US is not a magical country that solves all the problems of the people who live in it. It will be 1000% more expensive to take care of him in the US; things will likely get harder here, not easier.
 
At less than 10% cost of what you will pay here, you can get full time support for your brother in India.
Meanwhile, you can apply for your parents, they will get GC in 5-8 months.
Brother's GC will take at least 8-10 yrs, and may be denied on the grounds other posters have cited.
 
Why would parents want to leave their disabled child just to move to the US? If OP is so concerned, he is free to live anywhere he wants now that he is a USC. He needs to decide which is more important - his family or his life in the US. If he chooses the US, he will have to live with the consequences of that choice. It may very well be that his brother will be left alone to fend for himself after their parents die. The US cannot take in every disabled person in the entire world, and remember it was OP's choice to leave him in India many years ago.
 
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Why would parents want to leave their disabled child just to move to the US? If OP is so concerned, he is free to live anywhere he wants now that he is a USC. He needs to decide which is more important - his family or his life in the US. If he chooses the US, he will have to live with the consequences of that choice. It may very well be that his brother will be left alone to fend for himself after their parents die. The US cannot take in every disabled person in the entire world, and remember it was OP's choice to leave him in India many years ago.
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Thanks for the concerns and side comments, I felt like an idiot not knowing basic rule of life. Everyone has different situation and I am seeking exp of members here, is there any easy way to get the family and live together (parents are easy part) in US. I would rather not respond if do not have answers or directions.
Urge members who may have gone through similar situation or dealing with like now.
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sirs said:
Everyone has different situation and I am seeking exp of members here, is there any easy way to get the family and live together (parents are easy part) in US.
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No. Sibling sponsorship involves a 10+ year wait, and that's just how it is. And the US is very lacking in government support for new immigrants, and private assistance is much more expensive in the US than almost anywhere else in the world, so taking care of him is likely to get more difficult if he moves to the US. You don't want to accept it because it's bad news, but such is the reality of life in the US. You can keep asking until the cow jumps over the moon, but you're still not going to get an answer you like to hear.
 
I had the likely only answer. If you want to care for your brother, you will have to return to your home country.

The US people cannot take care of everyone who wants to move here; if we took in everyone, the population would be such that the life would be so bad that we would be living in fourth world conditions.
 
sirs,

I can understand your situation. It's a very difficult situation you are in currently.
As others said, bringing your parents on GC is just 4-6 months process whereas sponsoring brother will take > 10 years.
If your parents are very old, it will be difficult for them to take care of your brother going forward. If you don't have any other brother to take care of them, then You will have to take a major decision......
Since you have become a USC, you can go back and come back very easily anytime you want. Get a nice job back home, take care of your parents and brother.
One of my friends was in exact situation last year. He went back to India to take care of his brother.

I don't see any other option other than going back to take care of your family.

Good luck.
 
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