Just Got Married Need Help!

TheRealCanadian said:
The only situation where this out of status period would be an issue is in a family-based category. The EB categories have 245k relief available to them, which allows an alien to be out of status for up to 180 days since the last entry and still file the I-485.
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Thanks for the additional info, it always helps to learn something new. Plus, now I can make my EB buddies feel more at ease too! :)

kenny1982, good luck and feel free to ask any questions you have about the forms and supporting documents when you get to that point.
 
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hi i was reading some of the other topics in this forum and one that came up that could cause a problem is that my parents and her parents does not know of the marriage. I do not plan on telling my parents anything about the wedding until half a year later. I do not live with my parents, I live with my older sister who will not know of the marriage either. Will that pose a problem in this situation? Thanks.
 
I assume you are legally an adult? If so, why are you hiding a material fact from your family???

kenny1982 said:
I do not plan on telling my parents anything about the wedding until half a year later. I do not live with my parents, I live with my older sister who will not know of the marriage either.
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The reason I am keeping it a secret for now is that I know my parents would not approve of the marriage. My parents are really old school. They prefer someone that is the same nationality as me. But I do not care what my parent thingk. As an adult I can marry whom ever I want. Yes, I am legally of age. I figure I get marrried for awhile and half a year later I'll let them know about it. It will probably takes some time for them to accept it. Does the immigration officer really cares what "Our" parents think of us being married or not? Why would that play any role in determining whether my wife will get a GC or not? I have plenty of evidence that our marriage is a bonafide marriage. I am just concern now if they ask me what our parents thought of the wedding?
 
This forum has accounts of several AOS interviews where the married couple was asked if both sets of parents were at the wedding or not. Why would it play a role? It shouldn't. However the adjudicating officer can use whatever he/she deems fit to determine if the marriage is genuine or not. Upon learning that your parents are not even aware of you being married, the officer may suspect of you having a spouse in your country of nationality and thus you are hiding your US marriage from your parents. This is just one realm of possibility. Think about it!!!

kenny1982 said:
Does the immigration officer really cares what "Our" parents think of us being married or not? Why would that play any role in determining whether my wife will get a GC or not?
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Triple Citizen said:
Upon learning that your parents are not even aware of you being married, the officer may suspect of you having a spouse in your country of nationality and thus you are hiding your US marriage for your parents. This is just one realm of possibility. Think about it!!!
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That's one possibility.

There's a broader problem that you face - your goal in an interview is to convince the officer that you are honest, truthful people and that your marriage is genuine. By concealing the marriage from your family, you are indicating that you have no issue with deceiving the people closest to you - from there it's not a stretch for the officer to conclude you are capable of being deceitful in other areas. Bad idea.

Seriously, you're an adult. Part of being an adult is the freedom to make your own decisions, and to live with the consequences of your independent decisions. If you were marrying one of my daughters, I'd seriously question your maturity and readiness for marriage with such an approach.
 
Just out of curiosity, what nationality are you and your wife? The reason I am asking is, USCIS/DOS has a list of nationalities which indulge in more visa/immigration fraud on average when compared to other nationalities. I am not saying you are doing just that, but by sheer association (holding the same nationality) with those people, your AOS interview may start off with you (as a couple) being a little less neutral than the rest.

kenny1982 said:
They prefer someone that is the same nationality as me.
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kenny1982, for the sake of immigration and your future relationship with your family, perhaps you should at least inform them of your decision to get married and seek their approval, even if they don't approve. At least, then you can answer the IO's question about parents' approval (which we were also asked, it's a pretty common question) with that you sought their approval but they just couldn't accept the fact that your spouse is a different nationality, and it's not something you could do anything about to get their approval. But, you know your parents best so handle the situation as you wish.

Is it absolutely required to have the family's knowledge of your wedding to be approved for permanent residency? Of course not. It's just one of the things they look for because a typical married couple would get their families involved. However, the IO will look at your evidence in its entirety. Having the families involved in some form, and being able to claim to know each other's families just improves your chances for approval and reduces the risk of being denied.

To give you an example, they also look for the married couple living together, which was not the case for my wife and I. Instead of a typical 15-20 minute interview, we had a 45 minute interview and our living situation and plans to live together was the central part of our interview. We were ultimately approved, but it was certainly an uphill battle, missing one of the elements they look for in every marriage.
 
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i am vietnamese and my wife is korean.

I guess i messed up? Because i already got married and none of our parents was there. The only person present was my two younger brother and my two older sister. my gf is from NY and i am from MA. She comes down to MA every WEEK to visit me for the past 2 years. I met her family once wen i went on a vacation to korea. she obviously is no stranger to my family at all. you can even say she basically lives with me right now. My parents/family has never met her side of the family since they are in korea and they there is no way of communication due to difference of language. I have vacation pictures with her and many other pictures I took with her during our relationship. About 90% of her received/outgoing calls on her phone call log statement is from me. I even open up a joint charge card with her. She uses my address as her mailing address. With all these facts, am i still going to have a hard time at the interview? I guess I should tell my parent of the wedding then and get scold at for a couple of months.

Thanks for everyone's response.
 
If she spends a lot of time with you around your family, perhaps it won't be so difficult for your parents to approve of her as you think it is. I mean, if they approve of her being your girlfriend of 2 years, obviously they need to expect it can lead to marriage some day, especially if she's making the effort to travel every weekend it should be a sign for them that it's a serious relationship.
 
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Triple Citizen said:
Just out of curiosity, what nationality are you and your wife? The reason I am asking is, USCIS/DOS has a list of nationalities which indulge in more visa/immigration fraud on average when compared to other nationalities. I am not saying you are doing just that, but by sheer association (holding the same nationality) with those people, your AOS interview may start off with you (as a couple) being a little less neutral than the rest.
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Hey Triple. Is there public access to this list?
 
Hi Guys-
I am starting to fill out the necessary forms but I have one question before I send it in. Can i send form I-693 separately from the rest of the forms? Is that a good idea or should i send it ALL at the same time?
Thanks
 
kenny, you should send a complete application with all required initial evidence if you can. Otherwise, what will most likely happen is that you'll be sent an RFE for the I-693 which delays your case by a couple of weeks at least, and it technically even resets the clock for receiving EAD and AP to 90 days from when they receive your RFE response. (When I say "most likely," the other possible outcome is that your case will be denied if it's missing substantial initial evidence, although this is very unlikely if all you're doing is leaving out the I-693.)

There are some specific instances when you might send a less-than-complete application ... for instance if your legal status in the US is about to expire the next day, or the filing fees go up 200% the next day. If you have all your vaccinations, the I-693 shouldn't take that long that it's worth sending an incomplete application. There's also the risk that the RFE will give you limited amount of time to respond, and you'll then be in a hurry to get the I-693 done by a certain deadline.
 
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