Hi:
I agree with some of what you say. I personally am not for all these concessions that are to be made to illegal immigrants. The problem is how to, logistically, send 11 million people home. I don't think the government can afford it. Yet at the same time, if they eventually allow them in, there will be another 11 million in a couple of years.
As for family immigration, I disagree. Of course it should not be entirely abolished. But it should be limited. I think a move towards a more employment-based system is what the US needs - a points system would not be a bad idea. Immigration should be seen as a privilege, NOT a right. Family reunification is a nice concept, but something that should be considered when a relative comes to the US. Just because someone came to the US, does not entitle 15 other family members to come in the name of family reunification. Ultimately, we wish to encourage and embrace immigrants who can really offer skills to the US, along with immediate family members (children under 18 and spouses).
I know many disagree with me on this, and that is fine - it is only my opinion. It is just an unfortunate fact that we cannot satisfy everyone's expectations. An immigration system ultimately serves the nation's needs - not the individual's.