I-130 and Affidavit of Support for WEALTHY and EVIL Mother-In-Law

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ziracote

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I am a citizen of the US and my wife, originally from Mexico, was naturalized a few years after we were married. We are applying for her mother, who lives in Mexico, to get residency in the US. We filled out the I-130 and everything until now has been approved. We just paid the fees for the Affidavit of Support. So, some time soon I will have to show that we can support my mother-in-law (with form I-864). That is the problem.

I don't trust my mother-in-law. She is fairly weathly and owns several homes in Mexico. But, she always tells people how poor she is and needs help. She constantly harasses her children to send her money and uses every psycological trick to make them feel guilty for not sending her more . She has caused so many problems in my wife's family. She is sociopathic ( I know cause I looked it up on wikipedia :) ). I know for a fact that she has at least $600,000 (US dollars) in assets in Mexico and that is just the start. She has cash stashed away all over the place.

I am not wealthy. I may just barely hit the financial limit to show that I can support her.

Knowing my mother-in-law, she would have no problem coming to the US and taking advantage of every government assistance that she could, even though that might hurt me because of the AOS. I really don't want to fill out a Affidavit of Support for her, but I may have to.

Can she use her own assets and cash to sponsor herself?
 
Your question seems to ignore the premise that your mother in law claims to be poor. Why will she admit to having properties and thereby use them for self sponsorship?

You see where I am coming from?

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ziracote said:
I am a citizen of the US and my wife, originally from Mexico, was naturalized a few years after we were married. We are applying for her mother, who lives in Mexico, to get residency in the US. We filled out the I-130 and everything until now has been approved. We just paid the fees for the Affidavit of Support. So, some time soon I will have to show that we can support my mother-in-law (with form I-864). That is the problem.

I don't trust my mother-in-law. She is fairly weathly and owns several homes in Mexico. But, she always tells people how poor she is and needs help. She constantly harasses her children to send her money and uses every psycological trick to make them feel guilty for not sending her more . She has caused so many problems in my wife's family. She is sociopathic ( I know cause I looked it up on wikipedia :) ). I know for a fact that she has at least $600,000 (US dollars) in assets in Mexico and that is just the start. She has cash stashed away all over the place.

I am not wealthy. I may just barely hit the financial limit to show that I can support her.

Knowing my mother-in-law, she would have no problem coming to the US and taking advantage of every government assistance that she could, even though that might hurt me because of the AOS. I really don't want to fill out a Affidavit of Support for her, but I may have to.

Can she use her own assets and cash to sponsor herself?
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ananga73 said:
Your question seems to ignore the premise that your mother in law claims to be poor. Why will she admit to having properties and thereby use them for self sponsorship?

You see where I am coming from?

Best.
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She claims to be poor to all her family and to people she thinks she can get something from, but she will turn around and go on very expensive trips with her rich friends. I have tried to understand that lady, but I can't. If I tell her the only way she can get her green card is by proving to the government that she has assets, she will do it. I just wasn't sure if that was possible. Thank goodness it is.
 
You don't personally need to sign the Affidavit of Support, as your wife's mother is the person being sponsored, not your mother. Only your wife needs to sign it, which would make her the only one liable if her mother becomes a public charge in the US (although if you're still married, the liability would affect your marital assets so in that sense you'd be indirectly liable).

Your mother in law cannot complete the process without the I-864 Affidavit of Support filed by your wife. Note that even if she has sufficient assets of her own without having to depend on your or your wife's income, your wife would still be liable if your MIL becomes a public charge.

There is a section on the I-864 which asks about the assets of the intending immigrant. Your wife can insist that your MIL must provide the monetary numbers and documents for that section before she will sign and submit the I-864. However, apparently your wife doesn't think she's so evil (otherwise she wouldn't want to sponsor her in the first place), so I doubt she would insist on that condition.
 
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Jackolantern said:
You don't personally need to sign the Affidavit of Support, as your wife's mother is the person being sponsored, not your mother. Only your wife needs to sign it, which would make her the only one liable if her mother becomes a public charge in the US (although if you're still married, the liability would affect your marital assets so in that sense you'd be indirectly liable).

Your mother in law cannot complete the process without the I-864 Affidavit of Support filed by your wife. Note that even if she has sufficient assets of her own without having to depend on your or your wife's income, your wife would still be liable if your MIL becomes a public charge.

There is a section on the I-864 which asks about the assets of the intending immigrant. Your wife can insist that your MIL must provide the monetary numbers and documents for that section before she will sign and submit the I-864. However, apparently your wife doesn't think she's so evil (otherwise she wouldn't want to sponsor her in the first place), so I doubt she would insist on that condition.
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Thank you for your comments. I had not noticed that section on the I-864. My wife and I will make her send us proof of real estate and assets. My wife just recommended a possible solution to my worries: that we lie to my mother in law and tell her that they will take her land in mexico if she asks for gov't assistance here.

My wife knows exactly how her mother is, but because my father in law passed away a couple of years ago, it is becoming harder for my mother in law to live alone in Mexico. Even though we recognize all the problems she causes, we don't want to shove her under a bus (well, maybe some times I secretly dream that, but I won't admit to it :)). We will help her in what ways we can, I just don't want to leave myself open for her to hurt us. Nobody else in the family can help her, so that leaves me.

I probably come across as the typical Mother-In-Law hater, but I help her way more than I should and treat her much more nicely than she deserves. I was surprised one day when I read an article on the internet that described the 10 signs of a sociopath and found that my Mother-In-Law had most of those signs. I showed my wife the article and she agreed. But, we feel it is right for her to live in the US and we will help.
 
ziracote said:
Thank you for your comments. I had not noticed that section on the I-864. My wife and I will make her send us proof of real estate and assets. My wife just recommended a possible solution to my worries: that we lie to my mother in law and tell her that they will take her land in mexico if she asks for gov't assistance here.
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I don't think your MIL would believe that.

However, when applying for means-tested benefits, she is supposed to list her assets (both in the US and abroad). If they know about her substantial assets when she applies for benefits, they will refuse her. And if she hides her assets and they find out later, they can jail and/or deport her for welfare fraud. So although they can't take her land in Mexico, they can send her back to her land in Mexico.

In addition, noncitizens are not eligible for means-tested benefits in the first 5 years (other than a few limited categories such refugees). So if she gets any in the first 5 years, she would have to falsify information, which could lead to jail and/or deportation.
I probably come across as the typical Mother-In-Law hater, but I help her way more than I should and treat her much more nicely than she deserves. I was surprised one day when I read an article on the internet that described the 10 signs of a sociopath and found that my Mother-In-Law had most of those signs. I showed my wife the article and she agreed. But, we feel it is right for her to live in the US and we will help.
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Why are you bringing a sociopath to America? :eek:

If she has a criminal record, she may be refused the green card on that basis.
 
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