Husband Remarrying Ex-Spouse

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Jyoti05

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My husband of ten years has filed for divorce. He became a citizen through marrying me. He applied for his two children to come here after he became a citizen. I helped him with the affidavit of support for them thinking that they were going to come to our home to live. Long story short, they did come to the U.S., but never came to our home like they were supposed to. My husband had them living in a state 2 hours away with his ex-wife's brother. They were in the U.S.,without my knowledge, for 9 mos. and in the 9 mos. that they were here they became U.S. Citizens.

They returned to their home country for the summer and that is when he filed for divorce from me. They have now arrived back in the U.S. for the school year and he has moved out of our house upon their arrival and is now living with them (we also have a child together).

The big "problem" in our marriage since he applied for his kids to come here was their mother, other than that we had a very "so-called" normal marriage-or so I thought. He kept telling me that she didn't want them to come to the U.S. without her and vice versa. He has even asked me in the past to divorce him so that he could remarry her to bring her into the country for the sake of his kids. Of course, I refused.

I have since learned that after our divorce is final that he is planning on remarrying his ex to bring her into the country and that he has been having an intimate relationship with her on his visits to India (verbatim-from his mouth). What a kick in the teeth!

I guess I'm at a loss. I mean yes, I'm angry, but should she really be allowed to come here in that manner. Would our U.S. Immigration system pick up on him remarrying his ex-wife or would they even care? He is a U.S. Citizen now and very well can marry or remarry whomever he wants after the divorce.

So, I guess the question to myself is "to do or not to do". Shall I let "sleeping dogs lie" and let whatever will be-will be or should I pursue this with Immigration and make them aware of the information, if in fact he does remarry her.
 
If he's a US citizen there's really nothing you can do to stop him petitioning his ex once he divorces you and marries her. Even if he did come here and marry you under false pretenses, the fact he is now a citizen, and I don't think that can be taken away from him (or at least, very likely will not).

My advice: Get the divorce and get a good lawyer and f*** his ass up in court so badly he can't afford to file for a Green Card for the rest of his life. Then move on.
 
Sorry to hear about what's happening to you. If you think he married you only to get a green card and didn't love you then you should report him. They can do a lot in these kind of cases. You are the best judge of his character. Do whatever you think is best for you and your kid.
 
Move On...

Sorry for you misfortune. However, it seems as if your husband played you big time.

However, immigration officials aren't involved in issues which could be classified as a "woman-scorn". You were deceived by your husband, but it has nothing to do with immigration.

For him to remarry his ex-wife is for the USCIS to decided if he is able to sponsor her, and the relationship will be under examination. So, if you feel USCIS should not process this benefit to your new husband ex-wife, very very rare that you have any evidence that their marriage is a sham.

My advise, move on and leave him alone.
 
Jyoti05 said:
My husband of ten years has filed for divorce. He became a citizen through marrying me. He applied for his two children to come here after he became a citizen. I helped him with the affidavit of support for them thinking that they were going to come to our home to live. Long story short, they did come to the U.S., but never came to our home like they were supposed to. My husband had them living in a state 2 hours away with his ex-wife's brother. They were in the U.S.,without my knowledge, for 9 mos. and in the 9 mos. that they were here they became U.S. Citizens.

They returned to their home country for the summer and that is when he filed for divorce from me. They have now arrived back in the U.S. for the school year and he has moved out of our house upon their arrival and is now living with them (we also have a child together).

The big "problem" in our marriage since he applied for his kids to come here was their mother, other than that we had a very "so-called" normal marriage-or so I thought. He kept telling me that she didn't want them to come to the U.S. without her and vice versa. He has even asked me in the past to divorce him so that he could remarry her to bring her into the country for the sake of his kids. Of course, I refused.

I have since learned that after our divorce is final that he is planning on remarrying his ex to bring her into the country and that he has been having an intimate relationship with her on his visits to India (verbatim-from his mouth). What a kick in the teeth!

I guess I'm at a loss. I mean yes, I'm angry, but should she really be allowed to come here in that manner. Would our U.S. Immigration system pick up on him remarrying his ex-wife or would they even care? He is a U.S. Citizen now and very well can marry or remarry whomever he wants after the divorce.

So, I guess the question to myself is "to do or not to do". Shall I let "sleeping dogs lie" and let whatever will be-will be or should I pursue this with Immigration and make them aware of the information, if in fact he does remarry her.
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Hi Jyoti05,

I really feel for you - I can't even imagine how much pain all this must be causing you :( It sucks how life treats us at times :(

I also think that if you were married for 10 years, it's very unlikely that it was some kinda fraud on the part of your husband (I don't claim to know the truth - it's just my thoughts...). People who trick U.S. citizens into green card marriages usually try to run away as soon as they can - even before they get an unconditional green card. Although, you never know...

Finally, since your husband is already a U.S. citizen, and you want to prove he married you for a green card, you will need a ton of compelling evidence. If you can collect it - it's great, but if you can't, immigration fraud - if there was any - will be absolutely impossible to prove... :(

I really wish you all the best, and if he's making you go through all this... just think about it: is he really worth it? There are better men out there...

Best of luck to you! :) :)
 
Thank you to all who have responded.

I guess I'm in a "Catch 22" situation. I know that my husband could have left after becoming a citizen and I would like to think that our marriage was bona fide. I thought that it was. I mean we've been married for 10 years.

My problem now lies in whether or not his possible remarriage to his ex-wife is a bona fide marriage-(probably hard to prove that it's not). Her son is 18 years old and can bring her here when he turns 21. She pretty much has her "ticket" to the U.S. in her back pocket, she's luckier than most. But they didn't want to wait for that. They want to skip the line and get her here faster and I think that that is an injustice. An injustice not only to me, but to all who are applying the correct way and waiting-sometimes for much longer. But, then again maybe he actually does love her--I don't know, but I would tell you that that would make him a person who truly doesn't understand the true meaning of the word "love".

I do have a good divorce attorney and I have explained to him the whole situation. Just like the rest of us he said that our marriage seemed to be bona fide b/c of the length and it would be hard to prove otherwise, but the new situation with the kids coming here without my knowledge and the filing of the divorce and possible remarriage to his ex has the "smell" of fraud all over it. Another little tidbit is that last year my husband wanted to file our taxes separately-which we have never done in the past. He didn't really give me an explanation, but I now know that he did this so that he could claim his two other children on his return and if he would have filed jointly with me-I would have known that they were here in the U.S.

Thank you for letting me vent.
 
Jyoti05 said:
Thank you to all who have responded.

I guess I'm in a "Catch 22" situation. I know that my husband could have left after becoming a citizen and I would like to think that our marriage was bona fide. I thought that it was. I mean we've been married for 10 years.

My problem now lies in whether or not his possible remarriage to his ex-wife is a bona fide marriage-(probably hard to prove that it's not). Her son is 18 years old and can bring her here when he turns 21. She pretty much has her "ticket" to the U.S. in her back pocket, she's luckier than most. But they didn't want to wait for that. They want to skip the line and get her here faster and I think that that is an injustice. An injustice not only to me, but to all who are applying the correct way and waiting-sometimes for much longer. But, then again maybe he actually does love her--I don't know, but I would tell you that that would make him a person who truly doesn't understand the true meaning of the word "love".

I do have a good divorce attorney and I have explained to him the whole situation. Just like the rest of us he said that our marriage seemed to be bona fide b/c of the length and it would be hard to prove otherwise, but the new situation with the kids coming here without my knowledge and the filing of the divorce and possible remarriage to his ex has the "smell" of fraud all over it. Another little tidbit is that last year my husband wanted to file our taxes separately-which we have never done in the past. He didn't really give me an explanation, but I now know that he did this so that he could claim his two other children on his return and if he would have filed jointly with me-I would have known that they were here in the U.S.

Thank you for letting me vent.
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Sorry about your situation... :( Its unfortunate that things happened the way they did, but I have a little advice for you. I dont think you have played like some of the other people here think. CHRIST, YOU WERE MARRIED FOR TEN YEARS! Thats a very long time to stay married and you know most american marriages dont last that long.

Cherish the time you had together and try to let go of the anger, even though you have a right to be. Unfortunately, people 'can' love out of love after ten years, it happens.

As to his motive for the divorce and his new marriage, you really cant tell if it is bonafide or not. My suggestion is to just let it go. You seem to be in that anger stage of divorce but that'll pass. You really dont want to prolong the anger and heartache for yourself and more importantly, for your child. Focus your energy on making sure you and especially, your kid dont remain emotionally scarred and try to let the anger go. Getting back at him through the USCIS will prolong it.

My two cents...
 
Jyoti05 said:
Thank you to all who have responded.

I guess I'm in a "Catch 22" situation. I know that my husband could have left after becoming a citizen and I would like to think that our marriage was bona fide. I thought that it was. I mean we've been married for 10 years.

My problem now lies in whether or not his possible remarriage to his ex-wife is a bona fide marriage-(probably hard to prove that it's not). Her son is 18 years old and can bring her here when he turns 21. She pretty much has her "ticket" to the U.S. in her back pocket, she's luckier than most. But they didn't want to wait for that. They want to skip the line and get her here faster and I think that that is an injustice. An injustice not only to me, but to all who are applying the correct way and waiting-sometimes for much longer. But, then again maybe he actually does love her--I don't know, but I would tell you that that would make him a person who truly doesn't understand the true meaning of the word "love".

I do have a good divorce attorney and I have explained to him the whole situation. Just like the rest of us he said that our marriage seemed to be bona fide b/c of the length and it would be hard to prove otherwise, but the new situation with the kids coming here without my knowledge and the filing of the divorce and possible remarriage to his ex has the "smell" of fraud all over it. Another little tidbit is that last year my husband wanted to file our taxes separately-which we have never done in the past. He didn't really give me an explanation, but I now know that he did this so that he could claim his two other children on his return and if he would have filed jointly with me-I would have known that they were here in the U.S.

Thank you for letting me vent.
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Hi:

I am sorry for your situation. From an immigration point of view, on the face of the facts as you provided them, you almost certainly have no case against him. I dare mention that actions to strip the naturlized citizen of USC are rare and seldom successful. These are NOT conducted by USCIS, but in federal court and the court requires a very high burden of proof.

Best would be to let it go and take care of yourself.

Best wishes.
 
So can a Naturalaized citizen marry their ex-spouse from their native country after being devorced with USC wife?
 
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of course. If a person is single, he/she can marry whoever they want to. THey just can't apply for their GCs unless 5 years have elapsed since they got their GC through their American spouse.
 
so if someone remarries after getting devorce from USC the new remarried wife has to wait five years for her green card?
 
if it has been more than 5 years since the husband got his GC based on marriage to a USC, and he is a USC himself, then the "new" wife doesn't have to wait for 5 years.
 
fiance visa question

Hi everyone first of all wanna thank you all knoledgeable people here.I have a question, my good friend met a women in January 2007 in his native country
( he is US citizen),and he wants to marry her, when can he file a fiance visa pettion? does he have to wait two year from January 2007 or can he file now.Your answer would be appriciated.Thankyou in advance.
 
As long as both parties have met once in the last 2 years and are free to marry, the USC can file I-129F immediately.

gosaikunda said:
Hi everyone first of all wanna thank you all knoledgeable people here.I have a question, my good friend met a women in January 2007 in his native country
( he is US citizen),and he wants to marry her, when can he file a fiance visa pettion? does he have to wait two year from January 2007 or can he file now.Your answer would be appriciated.Thankyou in advance.
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