letmeflooru
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I Was on h1B for 4 years from 2003 while dating my US citizen wife married in Mid 2007 applied in early 09 got my temp gc in June without hassles I had 3 bags of material as proof.
My wife USC is a house wife by choice and I am only one with job till
recently where I lost my Software job due to economy. Now I work at almost half the pay I used to get.
Due to which I wanted to cut down on expenses and my wife has been treating me like shi** ever since saying that I married only for the green card and I am not buying her stuff as I used to when I had a decent job.
She threatens to leave me everytime there is an argument or she wants something and I don't oblige.
She is constantly threatening to inform INS that I married only for a green card she threatens to be physical and says that
she can beat me but I can't or my *** will be deported .. I don't know what changed in her.. its her parents I think who are feeding her ears who were a little opposed to the wedding but later agreed.
Also she has been taking prescription pills and other drugs I don't know where she has been getting them.
My question is Green card or no green card I don't want to live in an unhappy marriage where her contribution is absolutely zero lately she does'nt even do chores at home anymore.
I cant say anything without being called names as a cheat or selfish bastard while I was the sole bread winner for more than 4 years now .. We were living together too . .I loved my wife to death but there is no more love anymore ..
If she cannot adjust to these bad days inspite of I taking care of everything what lies for me in future. Things were good when i had lots of money to spend on her.. But I just dont want to leave a slave life jsut because she signed soem documents for green card which I would have got anyway through my h1b consulting company albeit a year or two later.
Can I go ahead and file the divorce ? It will take 1 year for anything to happen atleast is my thinking .Will the person applying for divorce matter during I 751 waiver adjudication?
Will my date of separation say 6 months from my initial gc will be an issue if I want to apply for I 751 waiver ??
What are my chances at I 751 waiver approval if I get my divorce one year to 15 months of my initial gc I have loads of supporting documents and 1000s of pictures and I can get 10s of affidavits from friends.
I know anyone would think this is one side of story but thats the truth I want her to go for counseling with me for which her answer is "why do I need some *****! say that I take drugs and treat my husband bad its non of her/his f**ing business."
I loved her but she needs medical/psychiatric help as she is staying up all nights and sleeping all days but she is very adamant of not going to doctor and I dont want to ruin my chances of I 751/waiver by forcing too much and getting into complicated situations.
Please all do not judge me please guide me.
Thanks,
SS
My wife USC is a house wife by choice and I am only one with job till
recently where I lost my Software job due to economy. Now I work at almost half the pay I used to get.
Due to which I wanted to cut down on expenses and my wife has been treating me like shi** ever since saying that I married only for the green card and I am not buying her stuff as I used to when I had a decent job.
She threatens to leave me everytime there is an argument or she wants something and I don't oblige.
She is constantly threatening to inform INS that I married only for a green card she threatens to be physical and says that
she can beat me but I can't or my *** will be deported .. I don't know what changed in her.. its her parents I think who are feeding her ears who were a little opposed to the wedding but later agreed.
Also she has been taking prescription pills and other drugs I don't know where she has been getting them.
My question is Green card or no green card I don't want to live in an unhappy marriage where her contribution is absolutely zero lately she does'nt even do chores at home anymore.
I cant say anything without being called names as a cheat or selfish bastard while I was the sole bread winner for more than 4 years now .. We were living together too . .I loved my wife to death but there is no more love anymore ..
If she cannot adjust to these bad days inspite of I taking care of everything what lies for me in future. Things were good when i had lots of money to spend on her.. But I just dont want to leave a slave life jsut because she signed soem documents for green card which I would have got anyway through my h1b consulting company albeit a year or two later.
Can I go ahead and file the divorce ? It will take 1 year for anything to happen atleast is my thinking .Will the person applying for divorce matter during I 751 waiver adjudication?
Will my date of separation say 6 months from my initial gc will be an issue if I want to apply for I 751 waiver ??
What are my chances at I 751 waiver approval if I get my divorce one year to 15 months of my initial gc I have loads of supporting documents and 1000s of pictures and I can get 10s of affidavits from friends.
I know anyone would think this is one side of story but thats the truth I want her to go for counseling with me for which her answer is "why do I need some *****! say that I take drugs and treat my husband bad its non of her/his f**ing business."
I loved her but she needs medical/psychiatric help as she is staying up all nights and sleeping all days but she is very adamant of not going to doctor and I dont want to ruin my chances of I 751/waiver by forcing too much and getting into complicated situations.
Please all do not judge me please guide me.
Thanks,
SS
