Deportation due to lies

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JoeDowney

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Hi everyone,
Here is some background from me.
I'm a US citizen and work 4 days work/one day off shifts. I don't come home those 4 days due to my work. I'm a strait forward guy - never lied to people around me. More that six months ago I met a great girl on a tourist visa- nice, quiet, lovely. We spent great time together - about 6 months. She was so shy and lovely. I fell in love with her because she was an example of a great wife. When it was about time for her to leave the US, I asked her to stay and marry me. She agreed (she said she loved me) I was afraid she will never come back if she leaves. She was visiting her grandma in US. Then... to make her presence in US legal - we filed for a green card based on marriage. After marriage she didn't move to my place and stayed with her grandma - (to help) I was surprised that when I visited her grandma - her grandma was cooking for my wife and cleaning the house. A few days later I noticed that my wife LIES.... about many things in her life. So that was a first signal for me.
My wife got her conditional green card two weeks ago. After that she stopped being so nice and I met a coldblooded woman in her body. She didn't even let me to hug her. One day a guy (from her "old friends") showed up at her grandma's house. My wife was flying around preparing tea and almost jumping onto his laps (never did it to me.. heh). Then she started flirting with him in front of me - I was so embarrassed and asked her to stop. Her grandma told me that guy was like her son and was married and visiting my wife to "take her to a restaurant".... After one shift I came home from work at night (about 11 pm) and found that guy leaving my house. I asked my wife what he wanted but got a nice smile and a kiss (dahhhh). I told her about divorce if she acts like that. It looked like she didn't care about divorce. I'm sure they have sex in my office when Im at work - and it makes me sick. I understood that im only A GREEN CARD SUPPLIER for her. May be because she just wanted to be with that guy but couldn't marry him. She still lives with her grandma most of the time. I want to finish my embarrassment. Can I withdraw my affidavit of support? I feel so betrayed and used. I know I can not hit her. I don't have any proof of what they do when Im not at home - and that looks like a "good faith marriage". Should I start recording in my office? What do I do? Please help - this is becoming a nightmare... I want to send her back to where she belongs.
 
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All those stories scare the hell out of me - as a result I am not married. All my friends are married and I dream of meeting a sweetheart from somewhere and marrying here - but I am scared to death on what would happen if she would do similar thing on me.


My advise is to divorce her - get a lawyer and visit her alongwith your lawyer to sign papers.

DO NOT go to her alone - she may accuse you of assaulting her. After this is finalized, go to USCIS and inform them of the divorce.

Her green card cannot be made permanent without you- unless she wants to marry the other guy.

If you have proof that she misbehaved, you can try to sue her and get money you spent for her for green card, for example.
 
I feel sorry for you first. Your wife doesn't move into your house living with you after marriage, why you still can say that looks like a good faith marriage?

I think it is not helpful being suspicious your wife marry you only for green card. It was you want marry her, not her force you, correct? That thought will ruin your marriage. Talk to her to see what she is thinking and you will have your judgement.

Good luck to you.
 
I feel so sorry about this situation, people where is human in you...

You can file for divorce and do all meetings in the presence of an attorney.You can also write to USCIS fraud department about all this as well.Assuming divorce is done She can still file I-360 and I-485 on the grounds of an abusive marriage, so try to avoid not to produce any legal grounds during divorce process etc. Please keep the following documents in a safe place i.e. not in her access

-Marriage certificate
-Your Copy of passport
-Wedding pictures
-Utility bills

Anything that she can use later on to show this was a bona fide marriage and that ended due to battered relations.

I hope this information will help!!

Jugnu
 
What to do now

Thank you all for all input you gave me. It helped to know people hate lies. What should I do first? With so many lies from her I think she will tell she takes care of he grandma and I abuse her.
Is it legally possible to withdraw affidavit of support? I have nothing to prove my allegations - only when I come home. Should I take photos of my wife on top of that guy and say - "for our family album!!!", I hate to wait till I see them in my bed or in my office having sex.
My guess is my wife would want me to support her if I divorce her now. Convenient for her - paid vacation with lover hext to her.

Will USCIS care about deporting her?
 
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JoeDowney said:
Thank you all for all input you gave me. It helped to know people hate lies. What should I do first? With so many lies from her I think she will tell she takes care of he grandma and I abuse her.
Is it legally possible to withdraw affidavit of support? I have nothing to prove my allegations - only when I come home. Should I take photos of my wife on top of that guy and say - "for our family album!!!", I hate to wait till I see them in my bed or in my office having sex.
My guess is my wife would want me to support her if I divorce her now. Convenient for her - paid vacation with lover hext to her.

Will USCIS care about deporting her?
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There are other similar cases reported on these forums. Search and read them if you are interested in varying opinion of folks. The following is short list

0. Forget 'revenge' , 'withdrawing affidavit of support' and 'family album'. Although the 'family album' is your personal choice :rolleyes:.

1. Make sure you go through proper divorce proceedings. Aim for annulment, if possible, protect your financial assets.

2. Do not give out any evidence of your "happy times" that may help her prove that marriage was legit.

3. Send copy of result from #1 to USCIS.

Unless you have strong, incriminating and documented evidence that she got into marriage for sole purpose of immigration benefit, there is little USCIS can do.
 
OMG, whats the sh*t!!!! Are you a man or what?! Did you marry only her p*y.
You never ever ever loved her neither she, dude! All of these f*k advises are too stup`d.

If no love, as other said, get properly divorce but not now. File or send nothing to immigration, be a MAN, not a girl! Help her to get her papers no matter what, show her that you are a citizen and not a f*k ash`l, and next time get married after you live at least several years with the girl.

Sex wont last long, but honesty and respect will.
 
To USCBPGUY

USCBPGUY,
I never talked about sex. And that is the second for me. I LOVED her. Do you get it?
And my advice to you - never do or suggest what you suggested. Im here for help - not rude statements. I have a friend who did what you suggest - now he is living in a trailer and paying for a wife support and a child support (the kid is not his)
But I love the statement about sex is short and honesty forever
 
Is this gal from Russia? I say dump the bitch. Send a letter to Immigration withdrawing your support, but I must warn you, she can still file without you, this will require her to make you look like the bad guy.

Your wife is making the mistake in thinking that that conditional green card is all she will need, you two will still need to appear for a interview in the future.
Dump her, use a condom, cancell her credit cards, change bank accounts and be done with her. If you're too much of a pussy to do that, then get one of the motion activated camera's that are hidden in a radio and tape her with another man, hire a private detective to investigate her.




JoeDowney said:
Hi everyone,
Here is some background from me.
I'm a US citizen and work 4 days work/one day off shifts. I don't come home those 4 days due to my work. I'm a strait forward guy - never lied to people around me. More that six months ago I met a great girl on a tourist visa- nice, quiet, lovely. We spent great time together - about 6 months. She was so shy and lovely. I fell in love with her because she was an example of a great wife. When it was about time for her to leave the US, I asked her to stay and marry me. She agreed (she said she loved me) I was afraid she will never come back if she leaves. She was visiting her grandma in US. Then... to make her presence in US legal - we filed for a green card based on marriage. After marriage she didn't move to my place and stayed with her grandma - (to help) I was surprised that when I visited her grandma - her grandma was cooking for my wife and cleaning the house. A few days later I noticed that my wife LIES.... about many things in her life. So that was a first signal for me.
My wife got her conditional green card two weeks ago. After that she stopped being so nice and I met a coldblooded woman in her body. She didn't even let me to hug her. One day a guy (from her "old friends") showed up at her grandma's house. My wife was flying around preparing tea and almost jumping onto his laps (never did it to me.. heh). Then she started flirting with him in front of me - I was so embarrassed and asked her to stop. Her grandma told me that guy was like her son and was married and visiting my wife to "take her to a restaurant".... After one shift I came home from work at night (about 11 pm) and found that guy leaving my house. I asked my wife what he wanted but got a nice smile and a kiss (dahhhh). I told her about divorce if she acts like that. It looked like she didn't care about divorce. I'm sure they have sex in my office when Im at work - and it makes me sick. I understood that im only A GREEN CARD SUPPLIER for her. May be because she just wanted to be with that guy but couldn't marry him. She still lives with her grandma most of the time. I want to finish my embarrassment. Can I withdraw my affidavit of support? I feel so betrayed and used. I know I can not hit her. I don't have any proof of what they do when Im not at home - and that looks like a "good faith marriage". Should I start recording in my office? What do I do? Please help - this is becoming a nightmare... I want to send her back to where she belongs.
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dont listentoo much these internet folks. They are right saying you must divorce her, however what she gonna do is accuse you in rape etc and you will end up in prison. Would you like this scenario?!
I know THOUSANDS cases like yours and trust me you have ZERO chances to win, no matter what you do and how.If she will get pregnant even not from you it would be even worst for you......

First, TALK TO HER. This is the firsth thing you must do. Explain what do you think and listen what she will tell you. For cs she is your wife man. Dont threatening her, it wont help, say no words about her status etc.You both might tape this conversation, but I dont see any reason for that.

Second, say you dont love her and wanna divorce her, see how she will respond it.No threatening again.
Then go from there, you got more then enough advices.Even if you will go thru the process let her stay, be a man.

When we get married we usually dont think with the di*k dude, there are something more then sex. Also each couple will have problems from time to time. You must adjust yourself to different culture and it is not easy dude. If she needs only papers she finds a way how to get it from you.


Daf..-> why she must be russian, not chinese, black or yellow etc...are you a nazi...
 
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These kind of cold hearted folks, just be careful. Get your ducks in order. Like dafortycal said get your ducks in order.

Get a private investigator and tape and even if not you have a right to divorce. Yes she may make up allegations, which is why it is better to have proof. Document everything and make sure you don't get any oops pregnancies and such. Even if it is not yours, we do have DNA tests. Time to move on. When you get hurt, it may be natural to lash out-but now is the time to be cold, logical and get the heck out of there with as little damage to yourself as posssible. The more it prolongs, the worse it gets .

people get married for different reasons-love maybe one, for some it is money(rich guy/girl-Britney spears and kfed??) others to get a greencard-so many reasons. The thing is when you realize you made a mistake, you rmake amends and get out. No one who loves and is married to you will stay with her grandma.


Looks like she played with your heartstrings and you just are realizing that-dump her before it gets too complicated and talk to an atty, a P.I and just be calm and logical. But get out..
 
new_LPR said:
All those stories scare the hell out of me - as a result I am not married. All my friends are married and I dream of meeting a sweetheart from somewhere and marrying here - but I am scared to death on what would happen if she would do similar thing on me.


My advise is to divorce her - get a lawyer and visit her alongwith your lawyer to sign papers.

DO NOT go to her alone - she may accuse you of assaulting her. After this is finalized, go to USCIS and inform them of the divorce.

Her green card cannot be made permanent without you- unless she wants to marry the other guy.

If you have proof that she misbehaved, you can try to sue her and get money you spent for her for green card, for example.
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Not true. She can get the 10 year GC without him, and without the new boyfriend.
 
just curious ... what kind of ethnicity does she have?

Also is she very young - like she is of partying age? I had a friend who met an Argentinian chica who was only like 19 and she ditched him within 1 yr of marriage as she wanted to live a party life and not a serious married one.
 
Thank you all

Thank you all for your help. Now I know what to do and how to deal with it. Some of you ask about her nationality. Im not a nazi but yes - she is Russian.
 
OUCH MY CONDOLENCE - watch out -those girls are dangerous !!!-divorce ASAP and move along -if she was that cold to hook you up like that imagine what she would do if cornered by threats !! keep the distance and never meet with her without a witness(this is from experiance ) -I think if you try to tackle that problem thinking you can win by informing immigration about the whole case she can set you up with "spouse abuse " and court will support her 100% you will even end up with criminal record or worse (she got all angles covered ) -trust me you are not the first one ;best course of the action is avoid beign with her alone and divorce ASAP
 
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