A couple of previous posters from both Kenya and Ethiopia, as part of their updates to posters after they have immigrated, have warned their compatriots that while hitting your wife is acceptable at home it is not in the US. Maybe like where I come from, things are different in rural and urban areas, I don't know, but it has clearly been an adjustment for certain immigrants. As for what you consider scant dressing in public, well that is something else you will need to get used to. Men don't get to dictate to women how they should dress, either.