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cregan

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I have not left the country since 2000 – haven’t seen Grand-Maman since 9 years. I need opinions, not really immigration related, but your opinions have been so helpful throughtout my citizenship application.

My Grand-Ma will be 90 yrs old. We use to be very close. Like in some movies, I have an evil uncle. When he learned that my aunt and I would be visiting her he went crazy and started threaten my aunt via email and phone. She said that the things he said are unbelievable and that we should really think twice before visiting Grand-Maman. It’s a small town in the North, so the crazy uncle has a lot of power, yep corruption in 2009 still exists. Didn’t want to go into that much crazy detail, but I feel bad of even thinking twice of not visiting. With her health and age, it might be the last time I could see her. But I really don’t want the drama we ran away from. My town is about a full day drive North of Montreal, so a surprise trip is difficult.

I don’t know what I’m looking for … I want to see her, but can’t afford an expensive trip to risk myself, my husband or my aunt.

I can travel in the summer, so I have time to think about it :) but this guy has been crazy and getting crazier with years.

Your advice/opinion is much appreciated
 
Have you tried to contact the appropriate law enforcement agency in Montreal or Québec to inform them of the threats of this person?
 
My aunt has a restraining order against him (the brother). However, it's a little town and money can buy anyone. He's been like this since my grand-father passed away leaving a large inheritance. My father and aunt did not see much of it. Last year I had to get the law involved for a small property they sold, for my father to get peanuts.

I know what the responsible thing to do is ... is not visit, but geeze that guy has always won. Last I visited Grand-Maman, I was suppose to be there for a week and after one night, he went insane, so I left. That's the last time I saw my Grand-Maman.

Maybe by remembering how crazy he is :( I'm answering my own question

Thanks
 
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Hmm, I don't know how to answer this, but maybe you should go above the local police and contact the Quebec provincial police or something like that?
 
Thanks for your concerns :)

TheRealCanadian, lol SQ that reminds me that I would never receive any help with this or protection
 
Why wouldn't you never receive any help though? I know it's a small town and he knows people, but this is a genuine threat to your and your aunts safety and the authorities should do everything in their power to stop this guy.
 
Ya, I'll check into filing a restraining order for myself and see how it goes. I'm a chicken, lol. But I don't think law enforcement cares about restraining orders there and they take forever to get to a problem. I don't want to go into details, but my friends and I found a dead swimmer at a lake. We called the authorities, their response was "we'll get there within 48 hours". That happened a summer when I visited from the US and then I realized that place was off the map

Mr Vertigo, my home town is nowhere and goofy things can happen. I miss my friends, but really don't miss the weird drama ;) with a crazy relative in a small town.

Even if I decide to pay a surprise visit, the news will spread over a few hours.

Hey, I have a few months to plan, so the restraining order woudl be a good start :) thanks
 
I know it sounds extreme ;)
Beautiful vegetation there in the summers :)
 
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I would go. You only have one grandma. Unless Canada has changed very radically since I left, you shouldn't need to fear for your life. I don't think I've heard of a town in Canada that will not enforce restraining orders.
 
I do miss her and it's goofy that I haven't visited for 9 yrs due to me being scared of USCIS issues or crazy uncle :) I'll keep you posted on the restraining order thing. I'll talk with my aunt too about the restraining order

Thanks
 
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