I think this topic is too complicated for this forum. We (at least I) don’t know the details in the pending divorce case. Was it fraud, abuse, or simply irreconcilable differences. No need for us to jump to conclusions. I will say this. One my friends got divorced a year ago, and it is a long drawn out process. Alimony, child support and visitation, division of assets, it’s very tedious. It is best your friend get a good divorce lawyer pronto and explain the situation to her/him. He can then proceed from that point. But I doubt if any of the posters here (maybe even Pork Chop!) have much if any experience in this area.
As for the rest of us, let us nor quarrel over this topic. If we’re busy fighting each other, we’ll forget who the real enemy is. BCIS! Just kidding.
Best wishes and I hope everything turns out well for the parties involved.
sadiq