Dear desperate waiters,
As a previous desperate waiter, I have a lot of thoughts about this green card stuff. Let's start with the emtional change after gc.
When I first got my gc on hand, I felt nothing but a bit released and comfortable. There was absolutely no excitement since my emotion was dried up during the long long waiting game. A few days after gc, I started to feel depression since my brain then had a chance to re-visit what I had done over the previous few years. I started to question me "what the hell I have been doing",
"is this stupid green card worthy such an effort", "is immigration to this country really a good decision", "to get this stupid gc earlier, i dropped my Ph.D program. How stupid I was!", "why should i get stucked in every step of the immigration journey while so many others have much easier life", "IFFFF I had this card eariler, I would be .........!!! Why a lot of oppotunities had to be wasted!!!" .... a lot lot lot of questions.....
Quite-frankly, I could not even answer any single question and thus started to feel deep depression! Oh, boy, it was indeed not a good one and I hated it.
After a few weeks of grueling feelings, I then came to be calm. I have to use phrases which are only used in hopeless situation such as "let it be, let it be", "anyway, it is life, what you can do" ....
The only immediate benefit with this gc is that I am ABLE to go home to see my family there. In my innermost heart, I am very shameful of this fact!
So, my dear despeate waiters, you could take it easy also. As you can see, you are not necessary happier after you get green card.
For my indian folks, you guys are fortune enough to travel to your home without much worry, which is a luxury thing for your chinese counterparts. You should feel blessed in this matter.
Take it bit easier, folks. Just let life roll although some of issues are beyond of your control.
Warm holiday wishes to all my friends here!
Ric
As a previous desperate waiter, I have a lot of thoughts about this green card stuff. Let's start with the emtional change after gc.
When I first got my gc on hand, I felt nothing but a bit released and comfortable. There was absolutely no excitement since my emotion was dried up during the long long waiting game. A few days after gc, I started to feel depression since my brain then had a chance to re-visit what I had done over the previous few years. I started to question me "what the hell I have been doing",
"is this stupid green card worthy such an effort", "is immigration to this country really a good decision", "to get this stupid gc earlier, i dropped my Ph.D program. How stupid I was!", "why should i get stucked in every step of the immigration journey while so many others have much easier life", "IFFFF I had this card eariler, I would be .........!!! Why a lot of oppotunities had to be wasted!!!" .... a lot lot lot of questions.....
Quite-frankly, I could not even answer any single question and thus started to feel deep depression! Oh, boy, it was indeed not a good one and I hated it.
After a few weeks of grueling feelings, I then came to be calm. I have to use phrases which are only used in hopeless situation such as "let it be, let it be", "anyway, it is life, what you can do" ....
The only immediate benefit with this gc is that I am ABLE to go home to see my family there. In my innermost heart, I am very shameful of this fact!
So, my dear despeate waiters, you could take it easy also. As you can see, you are not necessary happier after you get green card.
For my indian folks, you guys are fortune enough to travel to your home without much worry, which is a luxury thing for your chinese counterparts. You should feel blessed in this matter.
Take it bit easier, folks. Just let life roll although some of issues are beyond of your control.
Warm holiday wishes to all my friends here!
Ric