Second GC interview and Divorce

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dzulianka

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Hi, my name is Julia. I got married Sep 2006 to USA Citizen and we had our first GC interview in October 2007 and we passed and i got 2 year greencard. however, unfortunatelly we are getting divorced in 5 months before my second interview because of relion issues (he is muslim and i cannot convirt to muslim religion), So what can i do in order to pass my second interview as devirced or what else can be done in order to keep my status and get green card because my green card expires in 2009 and me and my husband will not be able to attend second interview as married couple, so am I in trouble or there is something can be done? please help:(
 
You can try it, but they most likely will deny you. That is the sole purpose of the 2nd interview. If you can prove that extreme hardship will be caused upon yourself they may let you stay but that is hard to prove. The best option would be to work it out with your husband. But - sometimes that may not be a viable option.
 
If you passed your first interview and got your 2 year Conditional GC, why are you getting a second interview?

Or are you assuming you will have a 2nd interview when it comes time to remove your restrictions?
 
If you're sure you want to divorce, you should finalize your divorce asap and then file I-751 (don't have to wait for 2 years) with a waiver request to remove the joint filing requirement, proving that you entered the marriage in good faith, but the marriage was later terminated due to divorce. You can also file an extreme hardship waiver in addition, but don't have to. If you were subject to extreme cruelty, there is a waiver for this also.
 
so you find out you can't convirt to muslim religion just 2 months after got your GC????? GOODLUCK
 
posos said:
so you find out you can't convirt to muslim religion just 2 months after got your GC????? GOODLUCK
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I think the point posos is trying to make here is this... If you got married in Sept 2006 and remained married until your interview in Oct 2007, during that time did you know that you were not going to be able to convert to muslim? If you did know and you knew you were going to divorce because of it, then USCIS might consider this fraud. If you did not know this between Sept 2006 and Oct 2007, but found out immeditately after you got your GC in Oct 2007, then USCIS might be suspicious of the timing. They might ask why you only found out right after you got your GC and not during the 13 months of marriage prior to that.

Just a heads up that USCIS might consider this suspicious.
 
The main point here is that if she can still have an opportunity to stay, so the answer is YES there is the opportunity if it's done correctly. She perfectly can be divorced and file on her own the I-751 with all the evidence necessary same as if you were joint. If after the marriage issues arise that she can't (we don't know if they found out later that she is not able to convert to it...e.g. if you married a Catholic and you think you better live married by the courts but then there are change on minds and this person asked you to convert to Catholic but you were previously married then you can't convert to Catholic)...we really don't know the entire personal issue here and really is not the deal here to critize about it...is to give the advice about the question that she is asking for.

There is the assumption that "most likely" she will be interview and by other posts in other forums normally is what happened, why did not last, and all the rest of the evidence (is not called a second interview, just the interview for I-751) but there are plenty of cases out there that the immigrant is not called for an interview as well. You just need to be prepare and for your own emotional health you can get a lawyer.

Good luck!
 
Just for the recond, I was not criticizing the OP but was just trying to give some items that USCIS might think about.

For example, not only does the marriage have to be entered into in good faith, but I beleive it still has the be a good faith marriage at the time of the GC being approved. So... having a divorce being filed for shortly (a matter of months) after the GC is approved, that might look suspicious. USCIS could content that the marriage was entered into or at least 'continued' to a certain point merely for the purposes of obtaining immigrant benefits.

Gather all your documents to show the marriage was a good faith marriage now while you still have access to all the "joint" stuff.
 
Thank you very very much everybody for you support and answears. Especially thank you to Cherr1980 and austriacus for good truthfull advice and understanding without questioning what i was thinking all these 13 months. Well and the answear is this:

We were together for one year and a half and we broke up for 3 months before we got married because of religious issue--i knew his family is very muslim and strick and never wanted to meet me and even know anything about me--his father never accepted me and it was just because i was Catholic. That was the reason we broke up for 3 months--but I loved him and he loved me and he came back to me proposing and telling me that it was not matter what the rest of the family were thinking and that it is his life and happiness not his parents and that they will have no choice but to accept our marriage and respect that. So we got married, i closed my eyes on our differences and was hopping that our love will be sttonger and will over come our problems. But he started to change and of course his family keept preasure him. We used to go out with our friends every weekend, have a good time , but after 6-8 months, we start changing and start saying that now he wanted me to become muslim and start fasting with him and praying with him 7 times a day and start going to Masque (thank god haven't asked to cover my face yet) and stop going out completelly with friends, he did not wanted to go out with friends at all and if i will have glass of wine at home that would be big no no for him now (while i knew him as a person who alwas was going out ) and now he started to change. and he wanted me to change beause he kept saying it is impossible to grow kids with two religions that the kids would be confused and out of truck while i kept saying that it is possible, we would cellebrate both holidays and we will give kids the chance to be open minded and respectful towards both religion. But it was the biggest NO--his kids must be muslim and i had to convirt, and when he was constatly preasure me-- i even started to get scared of this and the religion because that is not normal to push person towards anything--we need to do that with free will and desire and the only way you can convince that person at least me is with love but he was pushing me and it was only because his family were pushing him. so I could not handle that anymore, beause that means I not only need to confirt but to change my all believes, to ignore my friends and change my life style and i just could not be someone i am not, you just cannot change people completely. of course you can change some habbits but not entirelly. So i just could not stand this anymore and we decided to split. You know there is a good saying: if you want a dog--then get a dog, but do not try to get a cat and treat this cat to act like a dog" it will never happen. and that what exactly he was trying to do, he wanted a dog but get a cat and wanted to change me, but i just cannot be who i am not because i will hate myslef and will be unhappy and will make him unhappy, it is just better ti siparet. so that is what happend and that is the answer to your question what i was thinking for all these 13 months. Of course i knew he was muslim and i accepted him for who he is and respected his religion and cellebrated his holidays, it does not matter for me--god is one and god is love!!!!! but unfortunatelly when we started to have converstatiins about kids he, under his parents preasure, started to preasure me to change religion and started to change completlly and became person i did not know. so that was it.

Thank you all. Of course i will try fill I-751 as divorced and will pray that i will pass it but i was also just wondering what else can be done as a back up plan? can i be sponsord by company, just in case if i will get denied with I-751.

thank you again for all your help ;)
 
dzulianka said:
Thank you very very much everybody for you support and answears. Especially thank you to Cherr1980 and austriacus for good truthfull advice and understanding without questioning what i was thinking all these 13 months. Well and the answear is this:

We were together for one year and a half and we broke up for 3 months before we got married because of religious issue--i knew his family is very muslim and strick and never wanted to meet me and even know anything about me--his father never accepted me and it was just because i was Catholic. That was the reason we broke up for 3 months--but I loved him and he loved me and he came back to me proposing and telling me that it was not matter what the rest of the family were thinking and that it is his life and happiness not his parents and that they will have no choice but to accept our marriage and respect that. So we got married, i closed my eyes on our differences and was hopping that our love will be sttonger and will over come our problems. But he started to change and of course his family keept preasure him. We used to go out with our friends every weekend, have a good time , but after 6-8 months, we start changing and start saying that now he wanted me to become muslim and start fasting with him and praying with him 7 times a day and start going to Masque (thank god haven't asked to cover my face yet) and stop going out completelly with friends, he did not wanted to go out with friends at all and if i will have glass of wine at home that would be big no no for him now (while i knew him as a person who alwas was going out ) and now he started to change. and he wanted me to change beause he kept saying it is impossible to grow kids with two religions that the kids would be confused and out of truck while i kept saying that it is possible, we would cellebrate both holidays and we will give kids the chance to be open minded and respectful towards both religion. But it was the biggest NO--his kids must be muslim and i had to convirt, and when he was constatly preasure me-- i even started to get scared of this and the religion because that is not normal to push person towards anything--we need to do that with free will and desire and the only way you can convince that person at least me is with love but he was pushing me and it was only because his family were pushing him. so I could not handle that anymore, beause that means I not only need to confirt but to change my all believes, to ignore my friends and change my life style and i just could not be someone i am not, you just cannot change people completely. of course you can change some habbits but not entirelly. So i just could not stand this anymore and we decided to split. You know there is a good saying: if you want a dog--then get a dog, but do not try to get a cat and treat this cat to act like a dog" it will never happen. and that what exactly he was trying to do, he wanted a dog but get a cat and wanted to change me, but i just cannot be who i am not because i will hate myslef and will be unhappy and will make him unhappy, it is just better ti siparet. so that is what happend and that is the answer to your question what i was thinking for all these 13 months. Of course i knew he was muslim and i accepted him for who he is and respected his religion and cellebrated his holidays, it does not matter for me--god is one and god is love!!!!! but unfortunatelly when we started to have converstatiins about kids he, under his parents preasure, started to preasure me to change religion and started to change completlly and became person i did not know. so that was it.

Thank you all. Of course i will try fill I-751 as divorced and will pray that i will pass it but i was also just wondering what else can be done as a back up plan? can i be sponsord by company, just in case if i will get denied with I-751.

thank you again for all your help ;)
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Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers. 2 Cor. 6:14
 
VivaLasVegas said:
Why should someone be forced to convert? Everyone has the right to practise the religion they want to.!!!
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No one is suggesting that one be forced to change religions. Triple Citizen is simply making the valid observation that a lot of folks here seem to confuse the terms can't and won't.
 
Triple Citizen said:
Not to take anything away from your post, Muslims pray 5 times a day, not 7 :)
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Hi Ghauri
She might be talking about Tahajjad and any surplus nafals. But I personally believe these forums are to sort immigration related issues not detailing the personal life and issues. People get frustrated of their private life and still these forums are not good to share these problems.
This is my personal view..............not intended to hurt anybody. Advance apology if somebody get offended
 
VivaLasVegas said:
Why should someone be forced to convert? Everyone has the right to practise the religion they want to.!!!
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Absolutely not!!! In America, you can only practice the religion which has been sanctioned by the government...Christianity... sorry...:p

The OP knew of the husband's family situation, they disliked her and her father-in-law never accepted her. :rolleyes:So, her husband became more convinced of his muslim faith while married to her...Christian. So, it is a simple issues, she converts or he does, but he's not interested in the good news of Jesus, only for Mohammed. Hence, they have a big conflict leading to hell's gate: divorce.

The OP was naive to think their differences will make them stronger, because you can only be strong if you have the same values...:(

How can the two walk together unless they agree... As a Jew, I cannot marry a non-Jew...simple... and you convert before the kosher union or not..:o
 
OK, it seems to me based on the description of events that dzulianka and her husband had entered into a good faith marriage to begin with but then found they had personal differences in how they'd like to live their lives and raise their children. Be sure to collect a lot of proof of your shared life 1 1/2 years before your marriage.
 
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