He is 20 - I am 10+ yrs older - 2nd marriage for me
He is working FT, albeit min wage - not enough to cover his part of expenses
We have agreement on money and he has held his end of deal
Since last post, he has been accumulating clothes/sport stuff from other people we mutually know to send back home to Russia. I told him this is embarassing to me and no funds in budget to be mailing 10lb care packages back home just because. It feels like i'm married to a scavanger who's riding on the backs of others. He's borrowed money from others we mutually know in past to send back to Russia and now they're asking me to borrow money... 5K.
I'm not into caretaking for anyone, believe in self-responsibility, and his fam is not living on skid row - they work and own home and likely just getting by like the rest of us. His US relative told me he was sent to this country to earn money and support the family back home. How pathetic to put on anyone, much less a young adult. Again, another major cultural difference. To your other question, being that he attempted to cheat on me prior to marriage, which I forgave and we went to counseling over, I hardly feel like I'm a queen or he's madly in love with me. I, however, don't think he's cheating any more. This week, he had a tantrum over something stupid and bit me. I went to police to report - no arrest/charges filed. He has not been in home this week and withdrew all his money that I was supposed to receive to pay bills. Funny how that was forefront to him to do after incident.
I'm too old for this BS, have worked to hard in my life, college educated, and need to move in new direction. I can't honestly say what his motives are, but no, I am not happy.