Fort_User said:
What's wrong in keeping kids in that situation?
There is nothing wrong (it's not black and white), as long as your kids appreciate your decision to send them in India when they grow up.
Fort_User said:
Now, Your parents are happy about your status.. right?
I sounds to me only parent's (you) happiness matter, not what kids wants or whether they will appreciate in future.
Yes, my parents are happy, not because I came to USA as immigrant earning lots of $$$$,
but because I am happy.
Fort_User said:
Had my dad settled in USA, i might have already divorced Sarah and Julie and dating Maria with my diploma in Pharmacy or High school certificate. (I am quoting based on average statistics not on individual exceptions).
Here is another "average statistics" - India being mainly a patriarch society, women do not enjoy that much freedom as they do in western world. Many women live without dignity, respect and not having ability to make decisions of their lives under the control of husbands and in-laws. If you have a daughter, I guess you want your daughter to live in the domain of "average statistics", right?
If you do not like a society and it's not your own society (or cannot adopt it as your own), I think you have an option to leave that society.
On the other hand, if your dad settled in USA, atleast you don't have to work (working with boss!
) to get GC or citizenship (I am assuming you are happy and satisfied without work). That would have made your life lot easier.
Fort_User said:
Can you select a girl from the following list to marry.
1. American Girl
2.ABCD girl
3.Educated girl with good family back ground from your home town.
Your selection is my answer.
Well, in reality I got married to a girl whom I met and loved. It really does not matter if she has label of "American", "ABCD" or something else. She is a "girl". I did not plan my partner in a certain mould, qualification or with certain eligibility criteria. I hope you don't too. This my answer. I would like to hear if that is your answer too (as you mentioned).
Fort_User said:
I never said he is a genius Technology wise.
Technology is not the only scale to measure "genius". Every people in society doesn't need to be Einstein to be successful member in a society (or to make that society successful). Genius is defined by achivements, success and ability to apply his/her idea/concept and get result out of it. There are many people with highter qualifications and better knowledge could not achieve anything. I would not call them "genius".
Fort_User said:
I have visited rich Middle East Countries. Their Governments have several Engineering colleges/Universities Across country. Driver of the student drove the car up to the class room. Another servant carried the student's cell phone and kept it on his table. So Luxury. Very good infrastructure. All the faculties are from leading Universities. But, students are miserably failing quality wise.
First of all, those students came from rich families. Education is extra-curricular activities for them. They will still be living in luxary if they don't go to college/university. There is no reward in society for being engineers or doctor. In India this reward is getting a good job and possibily coming to USA. In USA the reward is having higher middle class family and able buy afford home, cars and go to vacation anywhere in the word. In middle east, are those students going to get super-luxary (from luxary) if they get get quality learning in college? The answer is NO. And that's why they fail. It's not a mistake of teachers or students, but it's the way those societies are. To be frank, those kids don't need engineer/medical degrees. They go to college because it's timepass for their youth-life (when their parents are managing the businesses). I guess 10th grade education, able to read and learn certain languages (like English) and a few courses in Economics (so that they can manage their parent's business better in future) - that's all they need.
Fort_User said:
So, the bottom line is, as you said don't show the Luxury while studying...put them in competitive atmosphere along with good culture. This is my strong opinion.
Define luxary. Cellphone, car? Oh, nowadays those things are affordable for students in India too - as long their parents are rich. Competitiveness? There India has an edge in certain colleges (not all). It has no relation with luxary. But it is due to lack of jobs in India and lack of of enough higher-education opportunities in India. Keep in mind, IITs and other good engineering colleges can take only a small fraction of aspiring students compare to total number of students in India. It's lots tougher to get admission in IIM or IIT than in MIT or Harvard.