I did take the comments to be pretty rude. I came here for help, maybe this is why many people don't bother posting to ask for help if judgemental/sarcastic responses are what they get in response. However, i accept the apology. NO ONE knows my situation except me so no one can really comment on it. He has one felony and a few misds. The felony was not violent or sexual, i have looked into the IMBR law and he doesn't fall within those specific crimes. He is 23 and has a chance to straighten out his life.
However, do except the worst of these comments/thinking to come from the Interviewing Officer him/herself. They can be very very rude (from general public perspective) sometimes - and more frequently with marriage based GC apps specially when they smell things. If you are applying in US, you are probably better off talking to a lawyer and taking one with you.
So imagine, Al is your IO and be ready to support your case with solid answers and documents.