Hello, this is my first time to post something. I just came back from my second interview with INS, and it was the worst interview I could imagine. I felt that she was exaggerating things to make us look fake. I want to know what you guys think-- or maybe I just want to share this to get out of my system.
First, my background: I have been married to my husband for four years. I was here with H1B, and my company offered to sponsor for my green card three years ago. I was going to take the offer and get the card through employment. But two years later, I chaged my mind, because I didn't think it was going to take years. Plus my company didn't want to let me go, so I had an impression that they were trying to delay on purpose. Both my husband and I want to move to another city eventually, and I really didn't want to be tied to my company forever. We are both kind of cut off from our families. I was cut off because they found I was dating someone of a different race. My husband just didn't have a good family, and is parents have passed away anyway.
My husband and I were interviewed separately. My interviewer, from the beginning, was suspicious, because she said "you two don't have ANY evidence of shared life." She told me she called my husband's work and got a different address on his W-2 form from what we had in file. I knew that he never reported his new address to his work. But when I applied for the green card, I did include tax return information, which she had in her file. So it is not like we do not have ANY evidence of shared life.
Then she asked about my family stuff and his family stuff. When she found out we don't talk to our family, she said that makes us suspicious. She went on and on about fake marriages that she knows. She said "MOST PEOPLE do this and that, but you guys don't. That makes think your marriage is fake." (One of the thing we said was we were not planning to have kids. She said MOST couples would want to have kids, and thus we aren't normal, etc.) When she found out my husband has never been to my home country, she again said she is suspicious. Basically, she said many things we said sounded suspicious, and she will call more places to get more evidence. For one question, I said I can't remember because it was such a long time ago. She said "you have to remember it." I thought saying "I don't know" or "I don't remember" is an option. She also asked me if I went over questions with my husband yesterday. I actually did a little bit, so I said yes. I know it make them suspicious, too, but by then, I thought it wouldn't make any different (plus I didn't want to lie.)
When she asked me for some proof of evidence of shared life, I brought a few bills, tax return stuff, medical insurance card with both of our names and auto insurance card. I also brought bunch of pictures and some letters. After she went through the bills, she asked me if she could keep those, so I said yes. (She even took my medical insurance card, by the way... I forgot to ask her to return it.) Then I tried to show pictures of us together, she said she didn't want to see. During my husband's interview, she told him that she "can't believe" that I brought little evidence of a shared life, even though she's the one who refused to see those pictures. I was very confident that the pictures would prove that we are in love. Actually, the fact I didn't apply for green card right after marriage also proves I didn't marry for green card, I think. Plus we pretty much gave the same answers for questions about each other or how the apartment looks like, etc. But apparently, we do not have enough evidence, according to her....
So anyway, she is going to send out a mail requesting more evidence. (She also asked what I would say if a private investigator follow us. I said "go ahead.")
Thank you for reading. If you have any kind of advice or opinion, let me know. My application is still not turned down yet, so I guess I am just going to wait for the request or whatever.
First, my background: I have been married to my husband for four years. I was here with H1B, and my company offered to sponsor for my green card three years ago. I was going to take the offer and get the card through employment. But two years later, I chaged my mind, because I didn't think it was going to take years. Plus my company didn't want to let me go, so I had an impression that they were trying to delay on purpose. Both my husband and I want to move to another city eventually, and I really didn't want to be tied to my company forever. We are both kind of cut off from our families. I was cut off because they found I was dating someone of a different race. My husband just didn't have a good family, and is parents have passed away anyway.
My husband and I were interviewed separately. My interviewer, from the beginning, was suspicious, because she said "you two don't have ANY evidence of shared life." She told me she called my husband's work and got a different address on his W-2 form from what we had in file. I knew that he never reported his new address to his work. But when I applied for the green card, I did include tax return information, which she had in her file. So it is not like we do not have ANY evidence of shared life.
Then she asked about my family stuff and his family stuff. When she found out we don't talk to our family, she said that makes us suspicious. She went on and on about fake marriages that she knows. She said "MOST PEOPLE do this and that, but you guys don't. That makes think your marriage is fake." (One of the thing we said was we were not planning to have kids. She said MOST couples would want to have kids, and thus we aren't normal, etc.) When she found out my husband has never been to my home country, she again said she is suspicious. Basically, she said many things we said sounded suspicious, and she will call more places to get more evidence. For one question, I said I can't remember because it was such a long time ago. She said "you have to remember it." I thought saying "I don't know" or "I don't remember" is an option. She also asked me if I went over questions with my husband yesterday. I actually did a little bit, so I said yes. I know it make them suspicious, too, but by then, I thought it wouldn't make any different (plus I didn't want to lie.)
When she asked me for some proof of evidence of shared life, I brought a few bills, tax return stuff, medical insurance card with both of our names and auto insurance card. I also brought bunch of pictures and some letters. After she went through the bills, she asked me if she could keep those, so I said yes. (She even took my medical insurance card, by the way... I forgot to ask her to return it.) Then I tried to show pictures of us together, she said she didn't want to see. During my husband's interview, she told him that she "can't believe" that I brought little evidence of a shared life, even though she's the one who refused to see those pictures. I was very confident that the pictures would prove that we are in love. Actually, the fact I didn't apply for green card right after marriage also proves I didn't marry for green card, I think. Plus we pretty much gave the same answers for questions about each other or how the apartment looks like, etc. But apparently, we do not have enough evidence, according to her....
So anyway, she is going to send out a mail requesting more evidence. (She also asked what I would say if a private investigator follow us. I said "go ahead.")
Thank you for reading. If you have any kind of advice or opinion, let me know. My application is still not turned down yet, so I guess I am just going to wait for the request or whatever.
Some people have so screwed it up hence the reason people who are genuinely in love and have legit marriages are put under such scrutiny. This is not far 
Hopefully things will work out for you. Do you mind if I ask what country you are from?
