True words ... I have not seen my family since 2003. There have been a bunch of new kids born to my sister (whose husband I've never met) and my cousins who's spouses also I've never met.
and we also have been doing it all on one income for far too long. My hubby says that the reduced stress load once I get a job will probably cause him to retire and run the house for a year or two while I work

and he will totally deserve that priviledge too! Until he is fully rested and the happy camper that we all deserve to be.
It's incredible the amount of stress that these laws place on couples. We would have married back in 2004 if the rules weren't so terrible for F-1 marrying Green Card. By the sound of it you also went that route. You held a GC while wife & son couldn't reasonably apply for AOS because of silly rules imposed on GC holders!? My hubby got his Oath on January as well!

Was a huge happy day.