marriedtoanut
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Thank you for trying to help.
I didn't cheat on my wife.
Seriously, what kind of a forum is this? "Brah"...
I didn't cheat on my wife.
Seriously, what kind of a forum is this? "Brah"...
MY ADVICE TO YOU IS VERY SIMPLE... Get back with your WIFE.. That save you from all your problems. Bill Clinton cheated on Hill, she never left him. They are still together and right now plotting ways to choke ObraBAMA.. but they are failing... I digress..
BAck to issue.. i hope you get my point that try to save your marriage. CHeating doesn't mean it should end there. get back with the woman you love, and you shall feel better and your life will resume like it never stopped. Good luck!!
No it wont cause problems when u leave the country , but u shud learn from ur mistakes ...
That was an incredibly nice post. Thank you.
The reason I am holding on to the Green Card so much at this point is because it's all I have to show for what I've done with my life for the past three years. I'm estranged from my parents since the marriage. They asked me to choose between them and my girlfriend at the time and I chose her. My country exists within a claustrophic and paranoid culture that is driven by greed and academic success, all of which I stopped pursuing when I thought I'd found "The One". For me, it is not merely a question of going back home, but failing. I have no degree, no money and nowhere to go. People may say "oh suck it up and get over it", but it's easy to say that when you've lived your life in a country where you can succeed with no help from your superiors whatsoever. If I had my degree I wouldn't feel so bitter about the situation. But the way I look at it, from a personal (not legal) point of view is that I am being punished for marrying the wrong person by having my life destroyed. I don't expect any of this to hold up in a court of law. There are certain forumgoers who are much too eager to offer criticism without realizing that all the personal things I post here do not warrant a response. I might rant and rave for a while but I always cut to the chase and end with procedural questions.
This turned into a highly personal post, but I appreciate what you're saying and I'm coming to terms with the fact that in the US, aliens really don't have any rights whatsoever. My wife is back on the "we're still working things out" track. You have to realize that the reason I'm not even concerned about the marriage is because I have been taken on the ride of my life in the past two months. From finding out about the infidelity, to sliding into a month long bout of depression and drinking while being threatened by her family, to moving away, finding out my possessions (some of which I've had since I was a child) have been thrown away and that my dog has been sent to someone else's house and that she won't give me the address. After all this... how can I entertain the notion of salvaging this marriage? And yet... how can I not.
I don't know. It's not worth all this though. This isn't the forum for such discussions. I would have preferred not to have gone there, but Al Southner's attitude really irritated me. I accept the fact that I am screwed, but it doesn't mean I agree with or that I'm going to pretend to at the risk of attracting Al Southner's criticism.
I'm going to see an attorney on Friday. She wants to move forward with the Battered Spouse Petition. I really don't know how effective it's going to be, but what else can I do at this point. I don't know if she's merely suggesting this because it's "something we can try" but at least it's better than nothing. I've already told her I have no doctor reports or anything. There was a psychiatrist I was seeing during the time when my wife would leave the house sporadically claiming that she was "confused" but that's about it. This attorney seems to think that we can still find other methods of dealing with it. Maybe she's hardup for cash. I really don't know.
I'll try to keep everyone updated. I don't know if my job can help, but that's also something I'm going to look into.
Thank you everyone for the advice and support.
My inital interview took place a year and five months after we were married.
Wish me luck.
Hey guys, just a quick question:
My case was assigned to an IO on Apr 25 08. I have my Infopass on May 29, 08. How long should I wait before making any more inquiries, i.e., Infopass appointments, Service requests? Or should I just wait and let luck take care of itself (if it can) at this point?
And Praetorian X, assuming that somehow the card gets approved and mailed to me... wouldn't it be a 10 year card?