I have met my fiancé now for little bit over a year now. We met each other throught a singing app, and fell inlove fairly quickly. We both didn't believe online romance let alone long distance relationship. But everything seem to happen very naturally. Last time I went there to see him, he introduced his entire family to me, and proposed. Since the last trip, we had been talking about where we want to live our lives...
Even tho I never seen any " red flags" but I wondered if would know what would a red flag look like even if I seen one... Also..
My family never liked the idea of me moving so far away, and since he's from the country that had one of the most illegals( China), they are very quick in questioning his intentions..
Let me just list all my concerns and also counter these points for argument sake, please help me to get my mind straight ...
Concern.1. He did expressed his love for me pretty early on ( about a month after we were " together")
Counter.1. He seem genuine, he acts like a man madly in love, he gets jealous, sad, emotional, happy, spent a lot of time with me.
Concern.2. The few time I went to see him I was the one that paid for the tickets, he has an ok job in China, but nothing compared to what I make here. (Airfare takes about 1 month for me to make, where takes him about 4 months)
Counter.2. He always offered to pay me back, also everytime I go there, he take care of all expenses.( hotel, food, everything)
Concern.3. I m 10 years older than him ( I m 38, he's 28) with 2 kids from my previous marriage.
Counter.3. I look very young for my age, and not to be conceited .. I m pretty. He did mentioned if I want to, he is willing to raise my kids together with me. (My kids are with their dad and his family, they live a very stable, and good live, and I would never take that away from them), he also want a kid of our own, once we are married, he want us to try.
I don't want to end up heart broken and humiliated one day, please help me sees more properly. Thanks!
Even tho I never seen any " red flags" but I wondered if would know what would a red flag look like even if I seen one... Also..
My family never liked the idea of me moving so far away, and since he's from the country that had one of the most illegals( China), they are very quick in questioning his intentions..
Let me just list all my concerns and also counter these points for argument sake, please help me to get my mind straight ...
Concern.1. He did expressed his love for me pretty early on ( about a month after we were " together")
Counter.1. He seem genuine, he acts like a man madly in love, he gets jealous, sad, emotional, happy, spent a lot of time with me.
Concern.2. The few time I went to see him I was the one that paid for the tickets, he has an ok job in China, but nothing compared to what I make here. (Airfare takes about 1 month for me to make, where takes him about 4 months)
Counter.2. He always offered to pay me back, also everytime I go there, he take care of all expenses.( hotel, food, everything)
Concern.3. I m 10 years older than him ( I m 38, he's 28) with 2 kids from my previous marriage.
Counter.3. I look very young for my age, and not to be conceited .. I m pretty. He did mentioned if I want to, he is willing to raise my kids together with me. (My kids are with their dad and his family, they live a very stable, and good live, and I would never take that away from them), he also want a kid of our own, once we are married, he want us to try.
I don't want to end up heart broken and humiliated one day, please help me sees more properly. Thanks!