What if your spouse dies?

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token_ranger

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I have yet to get my green card and my wife has just gone into the hospital for the 2nd time in as many weeks, what happens if i lose her, apart from the loss.
What happens with regards to CIS?
I dont want to seem really callous like i want her out of the way i just have to start thinking about it, she has a kid who needs to be taken care of and other stuff.
 
Do you think that is too soon to ask about it? I don't want to sound rude but I mean gosh, is not like your wife has been diagnosed for terminal cancer, does she?
 
now how do you know that?
as a matter of fact she is about to go on the heart transplant list.
She has had problems all her life and she was great when i met her but she is slowly going downhill.
If i had known this i wouldnt have married her to save us both the heartache but thats the way it goes, i don't know.
she could possibly die any day in reality so a little more tact please until you know the facts
 
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That is why I said at the end..."does she?" mean that if it was true...then it come out probably another answer. And that is why I asked...and even said "I don't want to sound rude" meaning that do not take in the way you just took it before read carefuly what I just said...you did not explain anything and you just said that she had several times to the doctor. Just to clarify, many people go to the hospital (several times) and is nothing serious or can be serious but does not mean that the person can die. Actually more people die for lightning than other thing, so is not that I was out of tact.

Now, I can consider that your reaction/disgust can be because you and only you knew the trully answer and probably are under stress with your wife situation and I am sorry for your situation...but let's check the entire facts here, this is an immigration forum which I have been quite awhile and I have seen many weird posts and I am not saying that yours is one of those but I just make my assumptions in what you said, so do not make then assumptions that people are rude with you when you just ask something about "if" spouse dies and your USCIS status. Believe me...there are quite amazing posts time to time...

Anyway, answering your entire post, the first to do now is that she should make a Power of Attorney in your behalf and she must arrange who will take care of her child or if you can adopt s/he to avoid other circumstances. Is not necessarily that you do this because of your situation but for example in my case that my husband can be call again to Iraq we have everything ready "just in case". About your immigration status, you are cover but if something happens (God prohibit) before your interview then you must get another sponsor for your Affidavit of Support. Hope that helps.
 
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In situations where the USC sponsor dies then you can usually sponsor yourseld, you need a death certificate and all the proof that your marriage is bonafide.. just like a real interview and the officer at the interview will ask you the basic questions or ask for more evidence... joint docs, pictures etc.. since she has a kid and you agree to take care of him/her after your wife and have the adoption paper/ power of attorney/life insurance .. who paid the hospital bills.

Hope this helps and best of luck.. when is your interview.
 
ok cherr1980 i apologize i never gave the facts and i apologize.
you better believe i am stressed though today she collapsed in the kitchen and i watched in the hospital as she fell unconscious.
I apologize again.
Obviously i do not want to lose my wife but as much as i hate to think about it i need to be prepared for her daughter i can sponser myself now since my work permit was approved.

Thats why i asked, i want to be prepared i really hope with all my heart she gets better and we have a great life together but there is always what if, like you with your husband i really hope he doesn't have to go to Iraq because i kinda know that dread and worry about someone i love.
As for staying here i don't really care to be honest, i only moved here to be with her and i am fine with going home if it comes to that.
I have a great family back home and i don't have to deal with the cis stress thing.
thanks for the responses guys
I apologize again if i was rude.
Oh and my interview is may 11th 8:30 in the morning, Rush hour in philly baby :(
 
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Hey you don't need to apologize...like 4 times, but thanks to understand that I wasn't rude or against you...:) xoxoxo

Anyway, in situation like this as I said, make a Power of Attorney and do you know if her kid have a father I mean remember that in this cases, the father is still a parent over the kid even do not have the custody...so you and your wife must check that out and now.

And as for your interview, well is almost there, few weeks...you will be fine. Hope your wife feels better, if she is getting treatment? I think she probably will be have to rest and put her in O2 for a while. Did she has family near by or knows what is going on? Well probably you can write me in a private message since anyway is a public board.

Good luck, hang in there.
 
token_ranger said:
ok cherr1980 i apologize i never gave the facts and i apologize.
you better believe i am stressed though today she collapsed in the kitchen and i watched in the hospital as she fell unconscious.
I apologize again.
Obviously i do not want to lose my wife but as much as i hate to think about it i need to be prepared for her daughter i can sponser myself now since my work permit was approved.
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It's a terrible subject and we feel for you, hopefully your fear for the worst may never happen.

Cherr is a nice girl, she never meant to hurt or offend you, I'm glad you understood that, but often words in writing, if not chosen carefully, can be easily misunderstood...and if she sounds like a bitch sometimes, she isn't, she's just a little puppy with a big mouth and...a big heart :p :D

Good luck and I hope your wife will get well soon :)
 
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