assur - Oh did you mean in queue you got gender changed?
I thought due to INS backlog your host is not showing up(strange but if u say - I belv it) for some party. Further that you did some research and found out that his/her gender is continuously changing due to virus. For this reason - undecided of what to wear - he/she is not showing up.
I admit my understanding was wrong. Sorry about that. But what is happening to you is no reason for host not to turn up - it is bad manners.