What do you do to avoid anxiety?
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i wish i knew the answer...
'cuz i pretty much do the same thing. not only that, i dream up horror scenarios which might possibly lead to rejection. sometimes, i also lay awake nights, especially when the economy takes a downturn. i guess part of my anxiety springs from the fact that, now a couple of years removed from the old country, there is nothing much left behind to go back to. it's kinda like burning your bridges. and this darn GC process seems to drag out forever.
what burns me up most is that there seems to a lot of sympathy in political circles for illegal immigrants, and they are dreaming up ways of legalizing them. for those of us who came legally, have been productive from day one and, in our own small ways, contributing to the U.S. economy, religiously paying taxes and observing all laws, there are all these legal procedures to contend with.
last year, several hundred laid-off H1B workers who had not received their green cards and could not find other employment had to leave the country. yet the U.S. admitted 55,000 permanent residents (with a minimum of high school qualification) through the stupid green card lottery.
'cuz i pretty much do the same thing. not only that, i dream up horror scenarios which might possibly lead to rejection. sometimes, i also lay awake nights, especially when the economy takes a downturn. i guess part of my anxiety springs from the fact that, now a couple of years removed from the old country, there is nothing much left behind to go back to. it's kinda like burning your bridges. and this darn GC process seems to drag out forever.
what burns me up most is that there seems to a lot of sympathy in political circles for illegal immigrants, and they are dreaming up ways of legalizing them. for those of us who came legally, have been productive from day one and, in our own small ways, contributing to the U.S. economy, religiously paying taxes and observing all laws, there are all these legal procedures to contend with.
last year, several hundred laid-off H1B workers who had not received their green cards and could not find other employment had to leave the country. yet the U.S. admitted 55,000 permanent residents (with a minimum of high school qualification) through the stupid green card lottery.
pork chop..I agree with u 100%
u r right..my sentiments exactly..especially FB based immigration,u see taxi drivers,hair dressers,and their entire families here - dont get me wrong..everyone should be allowed a fair chance...but then why this extra out of the way torture,anti-H1B articles (check computerworld every week - they are totally anti H1-B) for employment based categories..
u spoke out my feelings man...
And I do the same..think abt diff things that might go wrong...
causes of rejection...then get angry,delete all my immigration bookmarks....
and watch folk around me,who cannot communicate properly,have poor technical skills and yet are here becos of some lottery or some such
Let the Lord do what HE has planned for every one of us.
JAck
u r right..my sentiments exactly..especially FB based immigration,u see taxi drivers,hair dressers,and their entire families here - dont get me wrong..everyone should be allowed a fair chance...but then why this extra out of the way torture,anti-H1B articles (check computerworld every week - they are totally anti H1-B) for employment based categories..
u spoke out my feelings man...
And I do the same..think abt diff things that might go wrong...
causes of rejection...then get angry,delete all my immigration bookmarks....
and watch folk around me,who cannot communicate properly,have poor technical skills and yet are here becos of some lottery or some such
Let the Lord do what HE has planned for every one of us.
JAck
Good post..
I was the same as you guys ... Anxiety was eating me alive for all the years I waited.., Now I am happy I got my green card approval notice today via mail... and I no longer give a hoot if the economy goes to hell... I will find a job easier than in my country even with the worst economy.. or if I get fired ...
Illegals have it much harder than us, all of them dream one day they could even be as close as you guys are..!!! Politicians have been talking for years about legalizing ilegals but it is all b.s... they do it just for votes.... They never end up doing anything. You guys will end getting your green cards then your citizenship after 5 years.. but all the poor illegal aliens will continue suffering and hoping and working crappy underpaid jobs... h1b applications have gone down by a huge percentage so don't worry about those H1B haters.... you guys are already in.... Let future generations worry... There has always been anti-immigration sentiment in this country, even after sept. 11, things did not change much...
I was the same as you guys ... Anxiety was eating me alive for all the years I waited.., Now I am happy I got my green card approval notice today via mail... and I no longer give a hoot if the economy goes to hell... I will find a job easier than in my country even with the worst economy.. or if I get fired ...
Illegals have it much harder than us, all of them dream one day they could even be as close as you guys are..!!! Politicians have been talking for years about legalizing ilegals but it is all b.s... they do it just for votes.... They never end up doing anything. You guys will end getting your green cards then your citizenship after 5 years.. but all the poor illegal aliens will continue suffering and hoping and working crappy underpaid jobs... h1b applications have gone down by a huge percentage so don't worry about those H1B haters.... you guys are already in.... Let future generations worry... There has always been anti-immigration sentiment in this country, even after sept. 11, things did not change much...
I completely agree with each and every word posted here. I just keep my fingers crossed praying and waiting to hear those golden words 'This case has been approved....'. One thing which I could not understand with my little brain is why in the world would INS need 450 days to make a decision on a 485 application once they receive the paper work... Can't think of any valid reason guys! Help me here if I am missing some thing. The point made in this thread is real valid. When lawmakers are looking for means to legalize illeagal immigrants why are these road blocks placed in front of the legal immigrants who are btw productive and yes we are contributing in our own little ways to the U.S Economy. There may be exceptions, but I bet almost all the legal immigrants are law abiding, disciplined, productive people. Give them a chance to be more contributing to the society which they chose to live in and welcome them to be a part of the society is a decent and reasonable way.
If not anything this forum helps to atleast vent off what they feel. Good luck guys! Hang in tight. Good days are almost there.
If not anything this forum helps to atleast vent off what they feel. Good luck guys! Hang in tight. Good days are almost there.
if u guys are interested,or have the inclination
http://www.elirich.com/I-485-ins.pdf
the entire system is so archaic I tell u...
and Marc,Pork Chop,etc...let's hope we do not fall into the labyrinth of 2 yr waits...also..when will the wait time change from
420-450 to 450-480 days..eventually they will be slower than even TSC...it's sad,as CSC folks dont face this problem,and neither do vSC folks..its we ,the wretched NSC folks.
I am so upset...as every day brings no damn change.
this Xmas will be bleak - as now the GC is so impt becos of the economy
Take care guys.
Jack
http://www.elirich.com/I-485-ins.pdf
the entire system is so archaic I tell u...
and Marc,Pork Chop,etc...let's hope we do not fall into the labyrinth of 2 yr waits...also..when will the wait time change from
420-450 to 450-480 days..eventually they will be slower than even TSC...it's sad,as CSC folks dont face this problem,and neither do vSC folks..its we ,the wretched NSC folks.
I am so upset...as every day brings no damn change.
this Xmas will be bleak - as now the GC is so impt becos of the economy
Take care guys.
Jack
contributing in a little way???
that's understatement friend..
we pay Social Security,State,Federal Taxes...
U DONT Get any of that money back...(unless u agree to stamp on ur ppt while leaving US that u wont return for some X years..I am not sure what the X is)
and ,U cannot reap the benefits of that money..u CANNOT claim unemployment,u CANNOT claim any benefits whatsoever,which is fine,since we r not permanent residents..BUT...then,why persecute us...I mean I pay a lot of money every month out of my paycheck in taxes...so that's not little..and everything u buy,u r contributing to the economy my friends...so dont say "little way"
there r tons of people in the US claiming unemployment,and other benefits....so r contributions amount to a lot,and help others who are P.Residents/Citizens...which wd be fine,provided we got r GC without being treated one step away from criminals...
Jack
that's understatement friend..
we pay Social Security,State,Federal Taxes...
U DONT Get any of that money back...(unless u agree to stamp on ur ppt while leaving US that u wont return for some X years..I am not sure what the X is)
and ,U cannot reap the benefits of that money..u CANNOT claim unemployment,u CANNOT claim any benefits whatsoever,which is fine,since we r not permanent residents..BUT...then,why persecute us...I mean I pay a lot of money every month out of my paycheck in taxes...so that's not little..and everything u buy,u r contributing to the economy my friends...so dont say "little way"
there r tons of people in the US claiming unemployment,and other benefits....so r contributions amount to a lot,and help others who are P.Residents/Citizens...which wd be fine,provided we got r GC without being treated one step away from criminals...
Jack
Ah! I found a support group
Aug22RD/Sep26ND '01
Ditto the feeling guys!
My problem with this is, we have done everything perfectly. Right from gathering documents from Tax filing to Birth Cert. But we dont have any control over the adj process. Plus INs doesnt seem to be answerable or responsive about any questions that arise. And there is a long list of people whose cases dragged on for years for 'nothing'! I am pretty scared to see pople posting this forum and others about 2000 dates and still waiting. 3rd EADs and second FPs and what not. God bless these people. But since this process is so gray and we have such an indifferent and bearucratic body responsible for this, it is very depressing.
the progress, the rate of approvals dont seem to have any pattern at all and each center has its own pace in doing things. INS NSC has only one answer each case is different and each center is different.
It is pretty dificult to swallow this indifferent/incomprehensible situation after being in the US for 4-5 years.
God bless you all friends.
We are being held up for no fault of ours. and we shall come out in flying colors. And we would have longer tempers after undergoing this process.
Regards
Aug22RD/Sep26ND '01
Ditto the feeling guys!
My problem with this is, we have done everything perfectly. Right from gathering documents from Tax filing to Birth Cert. But we dont have any control over the adj process. Plus INs doesnt seem to be answerable or responsive about any questions that arise. And there is a long list of people whose cases dragged on for years for 'nothing'! I am pretty scared to see pople posting this forum and others about 2000 dates and still waiting. 3rd EADs and second FPs and what not. God bless these people. But since this process is so gray and we have such an indifferent and bearucratic body responsible for this, it is very depressing.
the progress, the rate of approvals dont seem to have any pattern at all and each center has its own pace in doing things. INS NSC has only one answer each case is different and each center is different.
It is pretty dificult to swallow this indifferent/incomprehensible situation after being in the US for 4-5 years.
God bless you all friends.
We are being held up for no fault of ours. and we shall come out in flying colors. And we would have longer tempers after undergoing this process.
Regards
Nayblahscar
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can I complain the same here? I came to the US 9 yrs ago with a master degree, and got another graduate degree here. Every year I paid tax, much more than average. I even bought a house thinking I got a right to live here. I don't even have a speed ticket in my record. So what? My waiting time is 2 yrs and am still waiting. Nothing funny with my application, no problem with my job, no problem with birth certificate, not 140-CP, nothing wrong.
can I complain the same here? I came to the US 9 yrs ago with a master degree, and got another graduate degree here. Every year I paid tax, much more than average. I even bought a house thinking I got a right to live here. I don't even have a speed ticket in my record. So what? My waiting time is 2 yrs and am still waiting. Nothing funny with my application, no problem with my job, no problem with birth certificate, not 140-CP, nothing wrong.
Hi All,
None of you are alone. There are scores of other who are sailing in the same boat. But instead of worrying so much, just look at the pattern of approvals, compare your case with those at various stages and calculate an approximate time frame with in which you can expect to get your approval.
Once you know the approximate time of your approval, your anxity levels will come down considerably untill you come close to your estimated time. Once you are there, then it is a matter of time before you reach the `D' day.
Pray everyday instead of checking the status.
May god be with us !
None of you are alone. There are scores of other who are sailing in the same boat. But instead of worrying so much, just look at the pattern of approvals, compare your case with those at various stages and calculate an approximate time frame with in which you can expect to get your approval.
Once you know the approximate time of your approval, your anxity levels will come down considerably untill you come close to your estimated time. Once you are there, then it is a matter of time before you reach the `D' day.
Pray everyday instead of checking the status.
May god be with us !