Wedding Rings Question

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Boston2009

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How important is it to have wedding rings during the I-485 Interview?
What if you never bought one for your wife (economic hardship) during these times?
Would you buy a pair just for the interview ?
Or Would you tell the truth?
We did a civil ceremony but plan to have the wedding back in our home country.
 
Trying to figure out what's the best approach here. Its hard for us to lie - and coming up with answers as to 'where we bought the rings, do we have receipts'.
We've been together for 15 years and just got married at the end of last year. I wonder if we would get into trouble for saying we didn't buy rings.
 
Boston2009 said:
Trying to figure out what's the best approach here. Its hard for us to lie - and coming up with answers as to 'where we bought the rings, do we have receipts'.
We've been together for 15 years and just got married at the end of last year. I wonder if we would get into trouble for saying we didn't buy rings.
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Don't worry my friend. There are hundreds of wedding that never follow the social customs as wedding ring. If you think you are qualified in other sectors so go ahead and tell the office always truth. It's funny, only for wedding ring IO reject your application. I did my marriage 4 years before and have not given my wife any wedding ring or didn't do any wedding ceremony. But we have lots of prove that we are bonafide couple. I am going to interview wihtin couple of months.

Thanks.
 
If you have a marriage certificate, live together, have some financial stuff together, have (or having) a kid (helpful, though not necessary), IO would not care about a ring.
 
Boston2009 said:
We've been together for 15 years and just got married at the end of last year. I wonder if we would get into trouble for saying we didn't buy rings.
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After 15 years together, you should have more than enough evidence to show you have a bona fide relationship and marriage, so the rings won't matter.
 
Thanks for the responses! Appreciate the advise. Our interview is on the first week of April and we'll just go without rings. We do want to feel comfortable during the interview so its always good to not have to pretend.
 
We did not have any rings and were not asked about them. If asked I would have told that I do not believe in rings :)
 
I was just logging into the forum to ask the same question! My husband and I have been together for over 7 years, had a civil ceremony in November 2009. We are planning on having a wedding next summer with all family and friends in attendance (this way his family members that live in his home country can attend.) I have an engagement ring but we do not currently have wedding rings... we are going to exchange rings at our "real wedding." I suppose we could have exchanged rings at our civil ceremony and could have been wearing them since then, but we don't generally publicize the fact that we already had a civil ceremony. I feel like we have plenty of other evidence of our bona fide relationship: pictures, lease agreements for the past 3 years, insurance policy, travel itinerary from my visit to his home country, etc. I also don't feel right getting rings just for the sake of the interview (April 20) If asked, I would want to tell the truth about our plans to have a wedding next summer but I'm not sure how they look at this sort of thing!
 
PP, Since you do not publicly announce yourselves as married, you are unnecessarily creating potential problems and confusion. You are married; you cannot have another "wedding" in the connotation that is usual in the US. You can have a ceremony, but you already have a legal marriage. Since "wedding" ceremonies in the US performed by proper religious officiants have the same legal standing as those "weddings" performed in a government official and a person cannot "get married" twice, having a "real wedding" next summer after which you are willing to wear wedding rings indicates that you do not consider yourselves to be "married" in the US sense. I suggest that you find better terminology to describe your plans to emphasize that your civil ceremony was indeed your "marriage" ceremony. As you present your case, you have documents of a married relationship - which are are also typical of two people "living together without benefit of a legally binding arrangement" - but not the emotional commitment due to your stated refusal to wear a "wedding ring" until after the religious ceremony. The vast majority of Americans -who are unlikely to be familiar with your religious customs - would find it very odd to hear that you are having a "wedding" next summer but have filed for a GC based on your "marriage"; should they be interviewed about your relationship, they would relay their impression of your relationship to be that of two people "living together" outside of a "marriage" until the date of your "wedding". Consider the problem of explaining invitations to a "marriage" ceremony after the date you specified you were "married" for your GC application to a typical American (like your boss or HR rep).
 
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PP, Since you do not publicly announce yourselves as married, you are unnecessarily creating potential problems and confusion. You are married; you cannot have another "wedding" in the connotation that is usual in the US. You can have a ceremony, but you already have a legal marriage. Since "wedding" ceremonies in the US performed by proper religious officiants have the same legal standing as those "weddings" performed in a government official and a person cannot "get married" twice, having a "real wedding" next summer after which you are willing to wear wedding rings indicates that you do not consider yourselves to be "married" in the US sense. I suggest that you find better terminology to describe your plans to emphasize that your civil ceremony was indeed your "marriage" ceremony. As you present your case, you have documents of a married relationship - which are are also typical of two people "living together without benefit of a legally binding arrangement" - but not the emotional commitment due to your stated refusal to wear a "wedding ring" until after the religious ceremony. The vast majority of Americans -who are unlikely to be familiar with your religious customs - would find it very odd to hear that you are having a "wedding" next summer but have filed for a GC based on your "marriage"; should they be interviewed about your relationship, they would relay their impression of your relationship to be that of two people "living together" outside of a "marriage" until the date of your "wedding". Consider the problem of explaining invitations to a "marriage" ceremony after the date you specified you were "married" for your GC application to a typical American (like your boss or HR rep).
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Then what would you suggest to the OP? It seems we are in a similar situation except that they don't plan on wearing wedding rings at all. I'm just not sure what we're going to say that the interview.
 
Just wanted to give you an update. Looks like rings are not important as the interviewer didn't even ask for any thing other than the stuff we had sent in during the application. He began the conversation by saying "Wow, you've been together for 15+ years " and the interview took less than 15 minutes. He said he just needs us to send in a form (after two finger print attempts, it still didn't go through so we need to send in a policy report history from our town) and didn't find anything wrong with our application.
Its not over till we get the greencard approval but I think we're close.

Thanks all who had responded. Hopefully this thread will help those out in the future.
 
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