Not very helpful at all. Pro Bono lawyers only help non contested divorces. No other lawyer will help without payment up front. Work is out of the question, as I am disabled and have been on disability pension since 2002 and cannot work because of my health, otherwise Denmark would never have given me the pension at all. No, it does not cost anything to sue in Federal Court. The fact is that my husband needs to learn to take responsibility for his actions and decisions. There is obviously a lot more to my situation which would be too much to write here, but I am sick and tired of being the abused ill treated party and being told that I just need to accept it, and "fix it my self. I am sick and tired of the fact that there is so much focus on "the poor American spouse who marries an alien who just is out to use him for a green card and what not" and that when I do research online on how to get my husband to live up to the signature he placed on the contract with his own government, all I can find is posts, explanations and advice for the American spouse on "how to get out of" supporting his alien spouse, even when he is the culprit who messes up the marriage! Where is the advice for a woman like me who was deliberately manipulated into coming here and became his emotional punching bag from the very first day of the marriage? Who loved him with all my heart, but to the narcissistic "BLIP" I was just a game? Where is the help for me? Nowhere.
No. For me, being an alien wife, it's all a question of "how do I/we get rid of her again, so she does not become a liability!" No, there is no option of food stamps, or other SS help, because I am not a "qualified alien". All in all, I see it this way; An American man brought me here, married me just to have someone to torment and when I grew wise to what he really is about, he stands there with all the power with money to pay an attorney to rip me apart and get out of taking responsibility. I may as well just pack up and leave the country, because I am obviously not welcome here!