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xenias

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Well, I did my interview at the Embassy, it went fine I think, but I have a problem. I'm an only child and it's just me and my mother in my home country, no other relatives. My mom is a bit run down currently and doesn't want to be left on her own back home for the duration of 5+ years (or even for 3-6 months) it's gonna take me to become a citizen and sponsor her afterwards. She's quite young still and she has no serious health problems, plus she's a retiree.
I've asked some lawyers and they're telling me there's no way she can come with me to the States until I can become a citizen. I haven't contacted USCIS yet or the embassy about this matter, I'm relying on my personal research and on what the lawyers told me. Can't there be an exception?? The States will basically earn 2 incomes if she comes with me now, but because she's not considered ''1st degree relative'', I can't bring her with me?? How unfair is that?? I have no one else at this point in my life except for my mother.

I've been waiting for this opportunity for years, I was educated in the US, had to leave without me wanting to, for family reasons, I finally get my wish, and now I will be denied this opportunity, again?? Because, if she's crying and pleading with me not to leave her, I can't leave her. I realize it's the law, but since when is a parent not a 1st degree relative, my flesh and blood, and a spouse or even an adoptive child for others, are?? And why can't there be an exception to the rule, if the government won't be burdened?? I've been racking my brains to find a solution and I can just see my dream getting away from me day by day again. I'm sorry for the long post, I've just been so frustrated. If anyone has any input about this, it's more than welcome.
 
The law is the law, no exceptions can be made. A parent cannot be a derivative beneficiary. You and your mom either have to suck it up while you go ahead and pursue what you've always considered a dream opportunity which will hopefully lead to your providing her with a 'better' life some years down the road, or you forgo your selection, stay back at home and make the best of what you currently have there.

This may sound harsh, but there's no nicer way of putting it.
 
Because if there's an exception for you they have to make an exception for everyone else. The law is to be applied without fear or favor. You're asking for favor.

Apart from mom thinking she sounds harsh (I don't, I think she sounds fair) there are people out there who would think you're being very ungrateful. Some people wait years on end to get a green card - here you are lucky enough to win a chance and to get one way faster than most and then you complain it's unfair you can't take a parent with - when this is clear from the start, I believe it's in the DV entry FAQs somewhere. (There mom, that's probably a harsh rejoinder!)

Bottom line: if you want the opportunity, go. If you feel unable to leave your parent behind for any length of time then you need to give up your dream of living in the US, because there is no situation under which you can take her with immediately no matter what type of green card you get.
 
SusieQQQ said:
Apart from mom thinking she sounds harsh (I don't, I think she sounds fair) there are people out there who would think you're being very ungrateful. Some people wait years on end to get a green card - here you are lucky enough to win a chance and to get one way faster than most and then you complain it's unfair you can't take a parent with - when this is clear from the start, I believe it's in the DV entry FAQs somewhere. (There mom, that's probably a harsh rejoinder!).
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I realize it is the law, and exceptions DO happen. And I am searching for LEGAL ways to help with my problem. And I am certainly making sense and my frustration is justified. And with all the illegal things happening with immigration in the US, with fraudulent weddings and illegal aliens and such, I believe I have every right to be frustrated for something that makes absolute sense to anyone in my situation, and there a lot of people in the world in my situation and are as equally frustrated as I am.

I've always followed the law, and more than often in the past I've received the short end of the stick while I did everything right trying to make my dream happen while I watched others get in and get ahead with devious ways and while they didn't deserve it. I've lost way too much for too long. So don't tell me to ''suck it up'' or that I'm ''ungrateful''. You don't know me or know anything about me. How dare you pass judgement and act like you know me or my entire situation? I asked for some positive feedback in case someone knows another legal way or a precedent. And you give each other compliments on acting all tough like instead of providing possible options? Well, I hope that boosted your egos a bit! Sleep well tonight!
 
So sorry you didn't hear what you wanted to hear. Yes, immigration law can certainly be frustrating but there are very many people who have patiently waited for years to get an immigrant visa. If your mom is as you say young and in good health and capable of earning an income (you say she's a retiree yet talk about 2 incomes if she comes with you) then maybe you should both take the long term view of what is best for all of you in the long run.

Incidentally, you might want to stop ranting at everyone else for you getting the "short end of the stick" - as you said it, the choices have been yours - to leave the US originally, and if you choose not to go now. Yes we realize it's not easy - just about every person on this forum has had to leave beloved family members behind in their home country. That's what happens when people emigrate, and it's a choice one has to make if one wants the opportunities that are on offer.
 
xenias said:
I realize it is the law, and exceptions DO happen. And I am searching for LEGAL ways to help with my problem. And I am certainly making sense and my frustration is justified. And with all the illegal things happening with immigration in the US, with fraudulent weddings and illegal aliens and such, I believe I have every right to be frustrated for something that makes absolute sense to anyone in my situation, and there a lot of people in the world in my situation and are as equally frustrated as I am.

I've always followed the law, and more than often in the past I've received the short end of the stick while I did everything right trying to make my dream happen while I watched others get in and get ahead with devious ways and while they didn't deserve it. I've lost way too much for too long. So don't tell me to ''suck it up'' or that I'm ''ungrateful''. You don't know me or know anything about me. How dare you pass judgement and act like you know me or my entire situation? I asked for some positive feedback in case someone knows another legal way or a precedent. And you give each other compliments on acting all tough like instead of providing possible options? Well, I hope that boosted your egos a bit! Sleep well tonight!
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Please calm down. There is no need for all the angry comments. The people you are angry at (for telling you the truth) are all volunteers here who spend their time here helping others. Sometimes that help means telling someone reality that someone might not want to hear.

The previous posters gave you accurate advice - and in the scenario you are talking about there are no exceptions. None.

Now, the rules of the lottery were clear - right? Did anyone/anything give you any impression you could sponsor your mother? As Susie pointed out, this was actually made clear in the FAQ when you entered where it says, very clearly, - "Parents and siblings of the entrant are ineligible to receive DV visas as dependents, and should not be included in your entry.".

Moving to another country is hard. It isn't for everyone. Each person who is lucky enough to have that opportunity has to decide whether that is what they want to do. If you don't want to go, someone else will happily take your place. It really is your choice.
 
Well, for starters I definitely do plan on sleeping well tonight and I Will!

If you're looking for someone to sugar coat how fruitless your endeavor is, it's definitely not going to be from this end. You've clearly stated of the response you got from lawyers which is more or less in line with what we've said here. There are countless others who equally believe their situation is unique and the law should be accommodating of that, unfortunately the US immigration laws do not work like that.

Yes, there's what's known as humanitarian parole - certain grounds in which a foreigner may be temporarily allowed into the US. You and your mom definitely do not qualify for that! Your mom crying and not willing to let you go on and pursue your dream simply doesn't cut it. So again, I say suck it up or forget about moving over to live in the US!
 
Britsimon said:
If you don't want to go, someone else will happily take your place. It really is your choice.
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On that subject, should you choose not to go please make your embassy aware of this so that a visa number is freed up for someone else.
 
xenias said:
I realize it is the law, and exceptions DO happen. And I am searching for LEGAL ways to help with my problem. And I am certainly making sense and my frustration is justified. And with all the illegal things happening with immigration in the US, with fraudulent weddings and illegal aliens and such, I believe I have every right to be frustrated for something that makes absolute sense to anyone in my situation, and there a lot of people in the world in my situation and are as equally frustrated as I am.

I've always followed the law, and more than often in the past I've received the short end of the stick while I did everything right trying to make my dream happen while I watched others get in and get ahead with devious ways and while they didn't deserve it. I've lost way too much for too long. So don't tell me to ''suck it up'' or that I'm ''ungrateful''. You don't know me or know anything about me. How dare you pass judgement and act like you know me or my entire situation? I asked for some positive feedback in case someone knows another legal way or a precedent. And you give each other compliments on acting all tough like instead of providing possible options? Well, I hope that boosted your egos a bit! Sleep well tonight!
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Green Card holders can sponsor their children and their spouses. US citizens can sponsor their parents, siblings, spouses and children. You ask for a legal way, this is the (only) legal way - it just requires time and patience (and sufficient income or financial assets): https://www.uscis.gov/family/family...arents-live-united-states-permanent-residents. In the meantime, provided your mother documents strong links to her home country, she may be eligible for a B visa and then can visit you on this basis. Good luck!
 
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