I got my temporary green card last July 12, 2006 so I still have to be with him in 21 months. But right now I don't want to be with him anymore. Too much stress for me. It all started when his daughter came in August from our country. She is 20 yrs old and its her first time here. She saw his father (my husband now) twice when she was 14 and 16. I found out that something happened to them during his stay. Now I fear that he will do it again to his daughter and yes he did it again. right now every day we keep on fighting because i can tell his lying i have a proof of that. I have a confessed statement written by his daughter and audio as well about what happened to them. Now i'm so emotionally stress and mentally tortured physically somewhat abused and also verbally. I want to leave the relationship but i dont have no choice. He is still petitioning my 2 kids and still waitng for approval I dont want to jeopardized my green card. but as the day goes on i fear for my life and i fear for my sanity. help me get out of this marriage pleass but not ruining my green card.
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need to divorce my husband ASAP
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I would suggest you involve a legitimate 3rd party to at least verify that there is a legitimate complaint against him. If it is what I think it is, the daughter will need counseling. Perhaps, you should report it to the police. I know this is a sensitive issue, but you must protect yourself. If this situation can be determined as true, you don't have to stay in this marriage and endure that. There are alternatives allowed to you and you will still be able to get your permanent residence. No one has to remain in an abusive relationship!!! There is an alternative with Immigration:
Battered Spouse Waiver but you will have to establish that the claim is true. That is why I say you need a 3rd party to be knowledgeable of this. A police office, a abuse counselor, lawyer, etc... You say you know for sure it happened. Can you preserve the evidence? Please do not put yourself in harms way or your children. OH God! What is the gender of your children? I don't want you to post to these questions but whatever choice you make, consider ALL things. I am certain that you can make it here without him. Get the help you need. Please be safe.
Look into these website:
http://www.uscis.gov/graphics/howdoi/battered.htm
http://www.bibicheff.com/batteredspouse.htm
Also, you would be allowed public benefits for you and your family you would be exempt from certain requirements or penalties) if you are unable to care for yourself and children if this situation is found to be true. The federally funded benefits will not affect your application for permanent residency and I think won't have to be paid back. Please check into these things and leave that man.
FIND THE NEAREST LEGAL AID TO HELP YOU FREE OF CHARGE DEAL WITH THIS PLEASE!!!!!
Battered Spouse Waiver but you will have to establish that the claim is true. That is why I say you need a 3rd party to be knowledgeable of this. A police office, a abuse counselor, lawyer, etc... You say you know for sure it happened. Can you preserve the evidence? Please do not put yourself in harms way or your children. OH God! What is the gender of your children? I don't want you to post to these questions but whatever choice you make, consider ALL things. I am certain that you can make it here without him. Get the help you need. Please be safe.
Look into these website:
http://www.uscis.gov/graphics/howdoi/battered.htm
http://www.bibicheff.com/batteredspouse.htm
Also, you would be allowed public benefits for you and your family you would be exempt from certain requirements or penalties) if you are unable to care for yourself and children if this situation is found to be true. The federally funded benefits will not affect your application for permanent residency and I think won't have to be paid back. Please check into these things and leave that man.
FIND THE NEAREST LEGAL AID TO HELP YOU FREE OF CHARGE DEAL WITH THIS PLEASE!!!!!
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i think you need to report this to the authorities right away, especially if you have a written statement and recorded confesion from the daughter.
The green card seems to be the least of your problems now...take care of yourself and your children first. You can file the petition to remove conditions of your temp green card based as a battered spouse. Talk to a lawyer about this. Sounds that you can qualify for that waiver.
Sorry about what you are going thru. Wish you the best.
The green card seems to be the least of your problems now...take care of yourself and your children first. You can file the petition to remove conditions of your temp green card based as a battered spouse. Talk to a lawyer about this. Sounds that you can qualify for that waiver.
Sorry about what you are going thru. Wish you the best.
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Addie_Goodvibes
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GO To an attorney immediatly! You need to get professional legal advice .
racingdude
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Hopefully you will report this. The two year rule is to address fake marriages and nothing else, yours is legitimate.
One of my colleagues got divorced before two year period but still had his GC renewed cause his marriage was genuine.
One of my colleagues got divorced before two year period but still had his GC renewed cause his marriage was genuine.
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Please, get legal help... You don't have to put up with that. This guy is sick.
Don't worry about the green card - you won't lose it, just take care of the kids and yourself first. There should be non-profits that help abused women and children in your area, they provide a whole range of services free or at a very low cost - counselling, support groups, divorce legal assistance, help with restraining orders... everything.
Trust me - you won't lose your green card if you and your children are being abused. You will get a waiver. If you can afford a good attorney, it would be very helpful, but if not, you can try to find some that provide legal help at a low cost. Normally, a battered women shelter would have a list of these attorneys in your area.
Good luck, and please be safe!
Don't worry about the green card - you won't lose it, just take care of the kids and yourself first. There should be non-profits that help abused women and children in your area, they provide a whole range of services free or at a very low cost - counselling, support groups, divorce legal assistance, help with restraining orders... everything.
Trust me - you won't lose your green card if you and your children are being abused. You will get a waiver. If you can afford a good attorney, it would be very helpful, but if not, you can try to find some that provide legal help at a low cost. Normally, a battered women shelter would have a list of these attorneys in your area.
Good luck, and please be safe!