indianoverseas
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Hi everyone,
I have a friend who got married about 7 years ago. I think during the early years of her marriage, she had a hard time conceiving and was not have a good marriage. I do not know too many details because during that time, she had become very socially withdrawn and we had lost touch (she stopped receiving phone calls, answering emails, stopped attending social gatherings etc). About two years ago, she saw my mom at a party and got my phone number from her and attempted to get in touch with me. She now lives out of state but we do keep in touch. She has two young kids and recently she opened up to me about her marriage. She told me her husband (who got a green card because of her), just refuses to stay with her here in the United States. He supports her financially (pays rent for her apartment, sends money to feed herself and the kids), but that's about all the support she gets from him. I don't think he was ever physically abusive (I could be wrong), but has caused her a lot of emotional trauma. He is very suspicious of her (even though he lives in India, he keeps tabs on her phone calls, checks her emails, etc), although HE is the one who is acting suspiciously. The reason he gives her for not staying here with her is that he gets bored out of his mind in the United States because according to him, there is nothing much to do here. He is an engineer and works for a company located in the United States, but takes on projects that are in India so he could travel and stay there (as much time away from her and the kids as possible). He doesn't care about seeing his girls grow up. She tells me that his mother is a ruthless woman. Any time she comes here for a visit, all she does is she sits and watches tv at her home and demands to do chores for her (even last year when she was heavily pregnant). When she calls her husband in India, she snatches the phone from her son (my friend's husband) and tells her to stop bothering him. She tells her she has a roof over her head and food to eat and should be thankful for it and not bother her son about coming to live with her in the United States, since he has "nothing to do over there". She fears he already has another woman there.
Her family lives here, but she does not have any moral support from them. Her brothers keep telling her that it's only a matter of time, and things will get better for her. But it's not so simple. Her parents are very old and there is not much they can do. Her brothers are married and her parents live with her brothers. She lived with her brothers for a while, but the setup was getting too inconvenient, so she got her own place now (out-of-state). Only one of the brothers lives in the same state as her, but the rest of her family lives in a different state.
Her husband has an older brother who is married and she told me that his wife refused to apply for a green card for him for 10 years. She knew they were not decent people so she only got him a green card when she felt her marriage was strong. My friend regrets getting a green card for her husband, and feels she should have been a little smarter and made choices like her sister-in-law did.
Her husband is eligible for citizenship now, and he will be here in about a week or so (one of the few reasons he visits is immigration paperwork - he is very diligent about filling out his immigration paperwork on time). The looney is already talking about a third baby and she doesn't want anymore kids with him. She is wondering if anything can be done now. She wants to contact someone in the immigration department to cancel his green card and prevent him from getting his citizenship. Who can she get in touch with?
Any help will be appreciated.
Thanks!
I have a friend who got married about 7 years ago. I think during the early years of her marriage, she had a hard time conceiving and was not have a good marriage. I do not know too many details because during that time, she had become very socially withdrawn and we had lost touch (she stopped receiving phone calls, answering emails, stopped attending social gatherings etc). About two years ago, she saw my mom at a party and got my phone number from her and attempted to get in touch with me. She now lives out of state but we do keep in touch. She has two young kids and recently she opened up to me about her marriage. She told me her husband (who got a green card because of her), just refuses to stay with her here in the United States. He supports her financially (pays rent for her apartment, sends money to feed herself and the kids), but that's about all the support she gets from him. I don't think he was ever physically abusive (I could be wrong), but has caused her a lot of emotional trauma. He is very suspicious of her (even though he lives in India, he keeps tabs on her phone calls, checks her emails, etc), although HE is the one who is acting suspiciously. The reason he gives her for not staying here with her is that he gets bored out of his mind in the United States because according to him, there is nothing much to do here. He is an engineer and works for a company located in the United States, but takes on projects that are in India so he could travel and stay there (as much time away from her and the kids as possible). He doesn't care about seeing his girls grow up. She tells me that his mother is a ruthless woman. Any time she comes here for a visit, all she does is she sits and watches tv at her home and demands to do chores for her (even last year when she was heavily pregnant). When she calls her husband in India, she snatches the phone from her son (my friend's husband) and tells her to stop bothering him. She tells her she has a roof over her head and food to eat and should be thankful for it and not bother her son about coming to live with her in the United States, since he has "nothing to do over there". She fears he already has another woman there.
Her family lives here, but she does not have any moral support from them. Her brothers keep telling her that it's only a matter of time, and things will get better for her. But it's not so simple. Her parents are very old and there is not much they can do. Her brothers are married and her parents live with her brothers. She lived with her brothers for a while, but the setup was getting too inconvenient, so she got her own place now (out-of-state). Only one of the brothers lives in the same state as her, but the rest of her family lives in a different state.
Her husband has an older brother who is married and she told me that his wife refused to apply for a green card for him for 10 years. She knew they were not decent people so she only got him a green card when she felt her marriage was strong. My friend regrets getting a green card for her husband, and feels she should have been a little smarter and made choices like her sister-in-law did.
Her husband is eligible for citizenship now, and he will be here in about a week or so (one of the few reasons he visits is immigration paperwork - he is very diligent about filling out his immigration paperwork on time). The looney is already talking about a third baby and she doesn't want anymore kids with him. She is wondering if anything can be done now. She wants to contact someone in the immigration department to cancel his green card and prevent him from getting his citizenship. Who can she get in touch with?
Any help will be appreciated.
Thanks!