Miserable Infopass Appt.

[pianoplayer]

AMEN!!

I am always amazed at the mentality some people have. The USCIS has to re-arrange their rules, regulations and laws around to suit them and not the other way around.

Hi all:

Let's be nice. I agree 100% with you that the IO has the right to ask questions from the beneficiary. However, bear in mind that USCIS also has its own code of conduct to follow. It has to be respectful and courteous to the public in general, which includes the USC petitioner. While it is certainly reasonable to have the question answered by the beneficiary, the USC does have the right to ask questions, and to politely offer answers if the beneficiary does not know, or to explain(within limits of course ---- there are certainly situations where this would not be appropriate e.g. in separate interviews where the bona fide element of the marriage is questioned).

Also, there is a way to approach these things. e.g.

1. Did I talk to you? If I want questions/comments from you I will ask you.

2. I need to get some answers from the beneficiary himself/herself. Thank you for your imput, but it is very important that I have these questions answered by the beneficiary himself/herself.

#2 seems by far more reasonable. Somehow --- and I may be wrong ---- I think #1 was what the officer used. Now, I agree that under the circumstances, it would probably be best to remain silent, do the best to please the officer and move on, but I don't think the officer's conduct is reasonable.

A certain standard of conduct is expected from both parties ---- I do not think that Kyones was completely unjustified in feeling insulted and mistreated, given the situation.

 

[NeShawn]

Just a note to cheer you on. I,too, have played a significant role in this experience being the US Citizen and showing concern for my husband. Don't let this stress you out. This forum is a very informative place. As always in this world, we take the good with the bad. We are only responsible for our behavior. Also, a lot of people are so stressed with this (i keep a headace), so try to understand their feeling. But most importantly, take care of your self and your spouse and save some of that energy for the rest of this ride.

 

[candyattitude]

i think kyounes is completely justified in feeling the way she does. just because we are asking uscis for a favor (to immigrate or grant our loved ones immigration rights) doesn't mean we have to put up with their rudeness and other crap. we are entitled to courtesy and respect. especially since kyounes stated that she was always respectful to the IO. one shouldn't sacrifice due respect for the supposed "laws and regulations" of USCIS.

 

[kyounes]

Hi all:

Also, there is a way to approach these things. e.g.

1. Did I talk to you? If I want questions/comments from you I will ask you.

2. I need to get some answers from the beneficiary himself/herself. Thank you for your imput, but it is very important that I have these questions answered by the beneficiary himself/herself.

I definitely agree and I try to make a point of not answering questions for anyone in my life, especially my husband and I don't think I did in this situation. I, by nature, am rather reserved and prefer "to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt." I was shocked by her attitude throughout the entire process, but I was more shocked and scared that she took his physical card before it even expired. That's why I was posting. I was panicking/upset about that.