spartanfan
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I am a U.S. citizen and have a girlfriend I have been seeing when in China off an on over the last six months. Currently she has been approved for a B1/B2 visa and will be coming to the U.S. to visit with me and to sightsee in mid-December. I like her a lot but we both believe any thought of marriage should be after we get to know each other better. This essentially is due to our being cautious about the subject of marriage as there is about a 15 year age diifference between us with my being just over 50. Additionally we do not want to rush into anything as it would be the second marriage for us both.
I have read the 30-60-90 rule that is posted on other threads so I do understand the issue about entering under the right intent into the U.S. and how rushing into a marriage could cause complications on an AOS request. To be very clear on this, she is coming for a visit and there is not currently any thought of marriage. because as I stated earlier we need first to get to know each other better and ensure we are fully compatable and that she finds the U.S. a place she can accept. (She comes from Shanghai which is very modern and I live in the far west tip of Texas which in comparison to what she is used to very undeveloped.)
My question is with regards to if while she is here, I do find that I desire to marry her (as we continue to get to know each other better) and there is a mutual desire for marriage, what is the process for converting her status, how long does it take and can she stay in the U.S. with me while this process takes place? (Most especially this last question). I am only asking these questions so that I understand the process up front so that I can then ensure that we do not do anything stupid that could cause grief later on as we go through the AOS process.
Final note, due to information on the 30-60-90 rule, if I do find that I have the desire for marrying her I will not be speaking of that desire to her until after at least 90 days has passed and any marriage would likely be sometime after that (if she were to say yes to my marriage proposal). This is so if asked she can then truthfully answer that she cam e to visit and it was after 90 days that I proposed.
I have read the 30-60-90 rule that is posted on other threads so I do understand the issue about entering under the right intent into the U.S. and how rushing into a marriage could cause complications on an AOS request. To be very clear on this, she is coming for a visit and there is not currently any thought of marriage. because as I stated earlier we need first to get to know each other better and ensure we are fully compatable and that she finds the U.S. a place she can accept. (She comes from Shanghai which is very modern and I live in the far west tip of Texas which in comparison to what she is used to very undeveloped.)
My question is with regards to if while she is here, I do find that I desire to marry her (as we continue to get to know each other better) and there is a mutual desire for marriage, what is the process for converting her status, how long does it take and can she stay in the U.S. with me while this process takes place? (Most especially this last question). I am only asking these questions so that I understand the process up front so that I can then ensure that we do not do anything stupid that could cause grief later on as we go through the AOS process.
Final note, due to information on the 30-60-90 rule, if I do find that I have the desire for marrying her I will not be speaking of that desire to her until after at least 90 days has passed and any marriage would likely be sometime after that (if she were to say yes to my marriage proposal). This is so if asked she can then truthfully answer that she cam e to visit and it was after 90 days that I proposed.