I still have not seen the "smoking gun" on your case. How old is he? Did you say 20? Most 20 yr old's guys are still pretty much self centered - marriage is the usually the last thing on their minds - unless they are crazy in love or infatuated. Or unless they are after something else. 1. Does he love you? Is he proud to be with you?
2. Are you happy?
3. Does he treat you like his queen given that you are newly weds?
4. Is he working?
5. Does he support you and your child as a man would support his family?
6. How old are you?
-Not telling his family back in Russia that he is with a woman that is older than him is not a smoking gun. Maybe he thinks he
will be ridiculed...who knows.
-How much money did he ask for? and was he himself working when he asked? Poverty is a bad thing to experience. If his folks back in Russia are experiencing poverty, they would not be ashamed to ask for money. As for your husband, he should be sheilding you from his family's problems since you have told him beforehand that you would not be supporting the whole clan. But then, what do you expect from a 20 yrs old kid? Has he ever held a job? Does he know the value of money?
Is he more interested in you, your money or a greencard? To me, it sounds like he might be more interested in your money. The GC is just a bonus for him. Most creeps that marry for GC are usually very loving, very well behaved, very caring etc until when the GC comes through. That's when the borrowing of money, being gone for extended periods of times, etc starts.
Either way, its never a good sign when a newly married woman wonders wheather she is being taken for a ride. Chances are you are... deep down inside, I think you can feel it. Also, did you know that Russia is the number one country when it comes to immigration fraud????