Lately I have come to realize

my2cents said:
I have developed short to mid term objectives and working on that dilengtly

1) Invest in India (At least make a destination there and buy there )
2) Buy a house here in U.S. if u can ( Buying house a never a bad deal as long as u can easily afford it )
3) Raise the family (Important stuff in life anyway..I mean have kids....)
4) Try that spouse is educated instead of sitting idle. Sitting 5-6 years idle for a person in his/her primetime is really waste.


Remember,
- Nobody has become rich by saving money in bank.
- Time never come back once it is gone
- You can't change destiny
- More than 1 billion people living in India in less than 1/8th of U.S. Area size still living ( don't know if happy :) )

Thanks
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I don't know if 2)
Buy a house here in U.S. if u can ( Buying house a never a bad deal as long as u can easily afford it ) is possible anymore in U.S. Recently Chase rejected my mortgage application because I don't have GC, although I have excellent credit history. I am not sure if living here still makes sense anymore. License Issues/Loan Issues/ In flexibility to change employers....I am thinking if the same thing continues to End of the Year, I would go back to India.
 
The ever experience = REtro + GC

Working as slave + low-salary + being stuck in Retro + non-preditctable of the Visa availibity , that's is the ever experience in your life you would have. Nowadays I evidently understand what "loneliness" means. It's your H4 spouse daily complaint about your incapability to get more income, despite how many thousand times you explain what H1B slave is. It's the bad behavior + pity the collegue citizens look onto you . If even you spouse never sympathize or at least understand the situation, you are alone in dark.

Only H1Bs understand their situation, no one else.
 
songplan......how can spouse complain about low income........is it something like this: "baju waley ka paas bada gaadi hai, uski bibi ab sirf Prada pehanthi hai, aur ek thum ho.....wohi salary laa rahey ho pichale 4 saal sey" :D

where_is_my_gc .....its pretty easy to say that do not worry about GC......but let me tell you....its very difficult not to worry.....because if i was to accept the situation and lower my expectations........i have only three choice.....
1. either live a low quality life being on H1 and not getting bonded for GC
2. live a bonded like life being dependent on employer for GC
3. go back to india.....put up with all that mess over there.....hope that we are able to maintain some quality of life......try to integrate with that society again....

all the above three options are 10 times worst than getting GC.........and thats the reason for all our anguish.......and some people have invested 4-5 years in this process.....you cannot expect them to forget and move to their home country.........and some people will simply not get the same quality of work in india.....eg: doctors, nurses, pharamcists etc.....except for IT nothing else is of the same quality........
 
GC and worries

Techy,

I totally agree with you regarding the extreme stress that is associated with this process. Although I understand that people deal with stress differently and there are some people who can handle this well, I for one have suffered a lot. It got to a point last year that I could not talk about anything in my life or even think about anything without wondering about the crappy GC situation I was in. My case in particular was even more stressful because files were lost and misplaced and my company was going through a merger etc. I had become so unhappy that I was forced to kind of block thoughts about the GC process. It worked for me because I forced myself to look away. It wasn't easy and I'd be lieing if I said that I don't worry about it at all but its at a much better level now.

Currently I have left this whole thing to fate. When my files were missing I did everything in my power to get them back to TSC, I replied to RFEs, I provided all the paperwork etc .. I don't think there is anything more I can do to get this thing so there is no point in worrying.

Another stress relief for me was to answer questions on this forum, make friends and at times just share the frustration with people who are in similar situations. This forum is kind of like an online support group for victims of this process. It defenitely helps to share these thoughts with people who understand eachother better than anyone else can ...

regards,

saras
 
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saras......i totally understand the condition of people who have spent 3-5 years in this process.......its really like fate wants to put you down and make you feel worthless....

i consider myself lucky atleast in this matter....that i did not start this process until last year........it is so easy for me to handle it now....
 
Waiting ..

techy2468 said:
saras......i totally understand the condition of people who have spent 3-5 years in this process.......its really like fate wants to put you down and make you feel worthless....

i consider myself lucky atleast in this matter....that i did not start this process until last year........it is so easy for me to handle it now....
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techy,

Take it from me, its not at all a good feeling when everyone who applied with you has had the greencard for over two years and you are still stuck in this system. Its painful to even think about it. When dates were current I used to pester my lawyer a lot to try and get an update from USCIS, her irritated answer was always .. BE PATIENT .. she also used to add that this process is inefficient but its FAIR and it works so I should just wait .. I wonder what she has to say now :) ? I don't even bother emailing her anymore ... Anyway, its depressing to reflect back .. I have tried to do the best I could over these 4-5 years and have built a life independent of a GC. Currently I am get completing my MBA, my wife is finishing up her Masters and has an EAD so she can work like a PR .. even in this situation there are positives :)

regards,

saras
 
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