I need some advice

I'm sorry but it doesn't sound like he cares much for you. He walks ahead of you and won't even touch you? Sounds like he's not attracted to you and sees you as an inconvenience. He makes you feel bad about yourself and tells you he'd still be with his first wife if she hadn't dumped him? That right there should tell you he doesn't love you, you're just someone who lives with him and who obviously is a bit of a burden since he won't do anything for you personally. He buys food and soap or whatever you said you might need, big deal, that's needed for the household, he uses it too, it's not like he's doing you any special favors. NeShawn suggested some good advice but I don't see how you can get someone who puts you down all the time and doesn't respect you to even talk to you about this. Was this an arranged marriage? Since you said you saved a little bit of money, why don't you take some of that money and make an appointment with a lawyer without him knowing about it and discuss that with him. You'll never get anything that's as good and precise from here as you would get from a lawyer. And don't let him put you down liek that, have something prepared when he makes sarcastic comments. When he asks if you know how to use the ATM ask him if he knows how to wipe his behind.
 
NeShawn said:
I dn't know what type of advice these people on the forum are giving you but they sound utterly ridiculous.:eek: No man if he really cares for his wife would treat them the way you say he is doing.

One thing I think is the problem is he has problems with himself. A person who does not feel good about himself cannot treat another person with the love and respect they deserve. He is a 'CONTROLLER'!!! Do not anyone strip you of your self-esteem!! your self-image. He is not treating you as an equal. Pretty soon I bet he will have a problem with the educated friends you have. Watch and see!! There was definitely an issue there before you married him and you are not responsible for that. The best thing you can do is maintain yourself. Prove to yourself that you are more than capable of TCB (taking care of business).
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My husband already told me that when I make new friend they need to be women and not men.
 
So what would happen if you don't do what he says? Essentially, if you insist to be an equal partner in the relationship? He did make statements about your future child together and how he tried to work things out in a previous relationship. Would he try to work things out if you don't do everything he wants you to do? What happens if you do or suggest something different from his idea of family?
 
Have you considered either a good faith or battered spouse waiver to self-petiton? I'm not sure if your situation rises to the level of battered spouse, in the legal sense. Maybe someone can comment on this.
 
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