Husband Thinking Of Bringing Ex-Wife To U.S.

[mamamiax]

He is cheating you, you did not see in him since you loved him..

Hello all. I'm in a terrible situation. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

I married my husband, who is from India, 9 years ago and he became a citizen through marriage to me. He has an ex-wife and 2 children living in India. Everything was fine until we applied for his children to come here. They have been approved to come to the U.S., but their mother does not want to send them without her and they don't want to come without her. As far as I know...there aren't many options for her to accompany her children until one of them turns 21. (Son is 17 and daughter is 14). My husband is so desperate to have his children with him he has suggested that I divorce him so that he can remarry her to bring her into the country so she can be with her children. Is this insane or what? First of all, if no one reports it to the INS, I would think that this situation would raise red flags with any immigration officer. I can't believe that he would want to risk his own freedom and jeopardize their chances of ever being allowed to come here.

I think his children have let the time expire on their window of opportunity to come here (I believe it's 6 mos. after approval). Wouldn't the INS wonder why he would be applying for them to come here a 2nd time and this time with their mother? I would think they would want an explanation as to why they didn't come the first time. Also, in their divorce papers she doesn't speak too highly of him, so if they read them carefully they would want to know why after all these years she wants to be with him again.

Well, needless to say, I'm not going to do this. It's not right no matter how you sugarcoat it. Thank you in advance for any input.

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It is a pity that you have to go through this situation. In short what I think is just by pointing his kids he wants to be with his ex. May be she is more tasty than you.. sorry.. for the harsh word. This kind of people should be kicked in their ass and put in the jail. If I where you I will ask him if he wants me or his ex and when it is your life you should be more strict. If he still wants his ex kick him out.Life is short dear, I don't think you want lead a horrible life with him when his ex come. The whole story he is playing for a divorce is a game. He wants to getrid of you. You should think twice before you agree for a devorce. Consult a good lawer without his knowledge.

 

[baltimore2006]

Jyoti05, you have a good heart. But sometimes, good heart is not appreciated but taken advantage of. This guy is trying to do that.

I agree with all other posts said. If he wanna go, let him go. You deserve someboy better. Just make sure he pays alimony and child support.

 

[ari4u]

Note for Ari4u:

Ari, I knew you have a great heart and you'll offer to marry the ex-wife and solve all the problems.


Sorry Jyoti05, but Ari offered me this opportunity, I couldn't pass on it.

Very funny Suzanne... If you are willing to adopt the kids, ill clear up the rest

 

[Jyoti05]

Just To Keep You Posted

I just wanted to let you all know that I have contacted an attorney and I will be meeting with him tomorrow re: child custody, child support, spousal support etc...

I know I have never met any of you, but I want to thank you for your advice and for your candidness. Through the support of my family, friends and people like all of you...I have become empowered and confident to take my life back and let the chips fall where they may. This is his baggage and I'm not going to let him unpack it on me. It won't be easy, but I have to do it.

I will keep you posted on what transpires from this day forward.

 

[Suzy977]

I just wanted to let you all know that I have contacted an attorney and I will be meeting with him tomorrow re: child custody, child support, spousal support etc...

I know I have never met any of you, but I want to thank you for your advice and for your candidness. Through the support of my family, friends and people like all of you...I have become empowered and confident to take my life back and let the chips fall where they may. This is his baggage and I'm not going to let him unpack it on me. It won't be easy, but I have to do it.

I will keep you posted on what transpires from this day forward.

I'm not backing off from what I've said.
But keep in mind the second option I was thinking of:

MAYBE HE'S JUST PLAIN STUPID

Not that this alternative is much better for you, but at least is less vicious that the general consent here and requires as a "remedy" less vengeance from your part.