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Phoenix2003

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My U.S. girlfriend lost her husband a couple of years back. We have been friendly since and gone thru lots together. They had been married for a long time and naturally it's hard for her to get over, although she's getting there.

I am a UK resident and we now after constant Atlantic trips want to be together permanently. Thing is she doesn't feel ready for marriage - what her family will say and still in grief herself. I totally respect this.

In normal circumstances we both agree we would just live together - no problem. But this isn't normal circumstances as we are in different continents.

Any suggestions - anyone??? We certainly cannot continue as we are - its crippling us both financially the phone calls and flights.
 
Did you guys discuss whether the both of you want to stay in the US or UK? Since the 2 of you aren't ready for marriage, you would need to qualify for a US visa on your merit.

1. Work visa - You would typically need at least a bachelor's degree for this. Also, you need an employer to sponsor you for a work permit.

2. Student visa - You can consider going to school in the US while the two of you try to sort things out.

3. Investor's visa - You must invest US$1million or US$500,000 in some areas in the US in order to qualify for this visa.

4. If you are world renown in your field of work, you can apply for permanent residency based on your extraordinary ability.

Feel free to post if you have any other questions. Many of us in this forum are in long distance relationships and understand what you're going through.

Good luck :)
 
Many many thanks for your comments Gabby - It's so nice to know that you are not alone. Location is still very much undecided. We just want to be together - but most likely USA.

Bit old for student, certainly not a millionaire or world renowned for my occupation. Pretty high up and skilled at what I do though. Guess I just keep looking on Monster etc for a job then take it from there.
 
I totally understand what you mean. At the end of the day, being together is what we all want.

Given your circumstance, work visa might be the best option for you. Unfortunately, this is not the best time for anyone to seek employment in the US. The job market is anemic, at best :( However, there are professions that are in demand (e.g. nursing)

You might have better luck working with a headhunter in the US. Monster.com is also known as the black hole to many over here.
Alternatively, your gf can consider spending some time with you in the UK.

Good luck :)
 
Pheonix mentioned that they were not ready to get married yet. In order to qualify for the K visa for fiances and fiancees, they have to be married within 90 days of his arrival.
 
Thank you all for your help, ideas and encouragement.....we find this forum of great help and comfort, knowing others are in the same position.

We still cannot decide which route to take, maybe it will be here in UK or in USA. Either way I will keep you informed.

Why can't life be simple? lol - if we were in the same country we could get married, live together whatever and no one would worry.

Thanks again
 
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