Got interview Notice, but living in separate places

PriyaB,

To make you feel better.I was also in same situation as you are now.My husband and myself lived in different places and we have been called for interview after 5 months of our marriage.We didn't have enough proof to show our interviewer, but everything went well at the interview.

Just be honest with the officer why you both living in different places.It also depends on the officer, some are nice and some wants to give trouble.I suggest you to be prepared with all docs and be honest.
 
Hi Siri,

Thanks a lot for the reassurance. I have been looking to see if there are any other people out there in a similar situation and what the outcome of their interview was. Its good to know that you made it!

Can you post a little bit more about your interview and what documents you did take with you?

Thanks! And good luck for the name check!
- Priya
 
Hi Priya,
Only Us, who are going though this process and our spouces know our stress and mental tension. I think the bottomline is what type of an officer you get, in your case gather as much as possible stuff that prove your relationship... :( . Last Night after viewing some BAD experience people had in our district office both my wife I were sleepless...arrrghh I cant believe we are going though this saga...
 
Hi Hogwart,

Yep - agree completely. Been doing a lot of reading of other folks' interviews and documents they had etc. Yep - it does depend on how the interviewing officer will understand the situation and make a determination, I guess.

That said, I did look at your post yesterday - and you do have a lot of joint documentation. So, good luck to you! I think you are going to be fine :)

And thanks for posting - it really helps to share and gather the info to go through this.

Take care,
Priya
 
Hi Priya,
Thanks, I will really need it, We will be having our interview before; hopefully we will have good news. In addition to your evidences that you alraday have (you list seems very good btw), just try to add potential job offerings in your husband's area or something similar. Eventhough I understand in such a short notice you have barely have time.
 
PriyaB,

All we had as joint docs is just Bank acount, other than that we don't have anything together.But we showed the officer lot of pics, plane tickets almost for 3 yrs i.e since we were dating showing how frequently we used to travel. But officer didn't even ask for one joint account proof, so I guess we were lucky. It's always good to be prepared with all docs you have.

The officer just asked me my passport, I-94, and ID.He didn't even ask for my husband's ID.So it was simple then I thought, but unfortunately he said he couldn't stamp my passport because of pending security.Hope this helps.
 
Hi siri - Thanks for the info. I guess it depends on the interviewing officer in the end - what they want to look at. We will try to take whatever we can to show the proof. Thanks!

Hogwart - yep - that is an excellent idea. I haven't started looking for jobs yet (only preliminary research on the internet). So, I'm not sure at this point what I can do. Let me think about it - thanks!

- Priya
 
Same situation

Hi,
I'm gonna post my interview experience on friday or saturday, since our interview is coming up on the 27th of april and we don't live together!

I have a nanny live in position and he lives in san francisco (our interview is gonna be there ) but we've been together for almost 5 years and I'm gonna bring all our pictures (when he came to visit me in germany etc. ), refrences, phone bills, car title etc.!!

I'll let you know how bad/good it was was, if you don't read anything, I'm probably on the Golden Gate Bridge taking my life....O.K. I'M KIDDING!!!!

But I'm really excited/nervous and don't know what to expect since our case is "not normal"....
good luck to everyone and thanks for always being so helpful..I hope I can give you some advice after our interview!
 
Pillango said:
My question: how they would know you don't live in CA? Just make a Driver License there. Your employment status is not important anyway, since you are not eligible to work....yet. I wouldn't rush to share with them my separate life.
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Well, you need to give a home address in that State to get the drivers license, that's the address where they're gonna mail the actual license too (in some States, in others they give it to you right away.

I am in a similar situation. My husband an I went to the same school, he graduated last May and moved to CT, I'm graduating this May so I'm still in MA. We were a little worried since we're not living together for like 5 months. We're moving in togehter April 29th. :D VERY excited about it.
The more I read about this situation, the more people I find that are going through the same thing. School, Jobs, etc...
 
Hi Sonjakrabetz!

Your post made me smile and made some of my stress go away :)
No - you won't be taking your life on the Golden Gate ... ! I'm positive you are going to be living it up that evening and celebrating!!!

Good luck to you - and do post after the interview about your experience. It would help us a lot.

Payala - yep - the more I read about it, it sounds like there are a lot of people who have these "commuter" relationships. Its good you will be moving in soon and will have a joint residence before you go for the interview. Good luck with the move and have fun moving on to the next stage!

- Priya
 
Thanks Ari! And for your prompt answers to my questions!

Its great that you are around to help the posters on this board.

Cheers!
 
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