Gave Up...Planning to make some bucks and go back

Danp,

The confusion for going back to India will never end for generation which came from India and is trying to settle in US. It will be there till you die.

Here is how I see being in US

1) Good Expensive Medical Service if you can get it.
2) Value of life. By that I mean if you get hurt in accident 911 will try to get you to the hospital. May or may not get that in India. In India if you are lying hurt, you are on someone's mercy.
3) In US we pay tax dearly. In India you will pay bribe dearly.
4) In India you will have your family member around you. But everything comes with price.
5) Experience tells me, don't count on your US children to support you in old age. They will have their own life and you would have to spend your life in nursing home.
6) Comfort in life - with that I mean car,bunglow,a/c etc. Possibiliy you can get in India too.

On personnel note
Danp, don't let this GC take over you. You would be sick. Live your life. Don't let tomorrow worry you too much. I understand you need to plan but you as human being can do so much. If you can change the tomorrow do it otherwise which is not in your hand forget it.
 
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danp said:
One of my american friend has 200k already in 401k and he says...it is too late for me to start and build the asset...
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Is this guy your friend or enemy? He seems to be depressing you(purposefully or otherwise).
--Naveen Oshos
 
danp...seems 2b infected with catdog virus !!!

Great Nasty Job... Catdog.. you are getting kaamyaab making us confused. :mad:

danp said:
Thanks...Guys...

Pour in your thoughts, motivation, encouragement

I need it....as I am getting confused in America

Sometimes it looks like it is a big mistake I came here at 35

and in the rat race........

One of my american friend has 200k already in 401k and he says...it is too late for me to start and build the asset...

Man....the future is going to be tough...not the GC but retirement etc

Social Security will run out and Medicare will lose steam

But it will be too late as my kids are raised here...and I cannot go back

Only GOD knows the answer.

Another thing...all my friends in Hyderabad are enjoying, earning good too...and I am in Trap.

Hopefully God will take me out....and show me the light
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MDGUTS1307 said:
Dont pack you bags !
Each place has its ups and downs. No place is a bed of roses.
Once you go back, you will miss this place and then want to come back.
Get your GC and then pack your bags and go ! In this way, at least you can come back.
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Pack your bags and go and you will lose the GC. If you leave the US for a long time you need citizenship if you want to come back without needing another visa.
 
danp said:
My relative says...these are not problems...real problems are problems when you kids grow up here...
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I would never attribute my failure to my kids.. kids are reflection of their parents ..i have seen very competent kids here is US doing very well in their studies ( and getting into Harvard, Stanford, MIT ) and respecting the parents ..on the other hands you also get Delhi DPS kids on SMS.. in general character has nothing to do with their country ..it is important to do some self evaluation and see where we might fail as parents.. I find USA less forgiving and if you are lost in making money ( or not making money ) chances are very high that your kids will end up on streets..
 
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MD_ROCKVILLE

You are right...I would not rate success of Kids since they are doing well in studies....they better do that ...since they got the facilites to get whatever they want here. It is not a big deal.

On the other hand USA has different problems....attitude...attidute...attidude
which is very difficult to handle.....the kids become adamant and inflexible...may be they are Harvard or MIT...but materialistic success is only a part of the game.

Kids here are very independent and in India they are very dependent...both are wrong.

DPS MMS Scandal---yes Delhi is CC of US. Here they start doing that in 8th grade....Parents cannot question that. Scandal everyday........
Since it is a rich country everything is hidden here....You hide ....I hide....
 
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blister1889 said:
Why do you guys put so many ..... in your sentences and then leave them incomplete ? There is a specific use of ..... . You should not be using this anywhere anytime you want.
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those extra "...." that we put are sentences of silent prayer. and the same "...." are silent curses for people like you.................................................................................................................................................. GET IT?! now go start writing book of knowledge.........................................................................................

now do not question why we put "?" and "!" together. the answer to that is ..... we are confused about you .........
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now ask us why we put "...." in increasing order in each sentence in the last paragraph...... because you are making us mad increasingly....
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Ignore posters like blister1889..thats the way to shut them down!

Akbari said:
those extra "...." that we put are sentences of silent prayer. and the same "...." are silent curses for people like you.................................................................................................................................................. GET IT?! now go start writing book of knowledge.........................................................................................

now do not question why we put "?" and "!" together. the answer to that is ..... we are confused about you .........
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now ask us why we put "...." in increasing order in each sentence in the last paragraph...... because you are making us mad increasingly....
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Danp!!
Don't worry...u can try to do this simple solution...
I firmly believed & still belive that the recent retrogression (PD back to '98) was only temporary halt as USCIS was re-accessing some procedures. I always said that very soon the PDs will move back to june '02...& believe me, it'll be done soon.
Once this happens...wait for another year...get ur GC...file for 2 year exempt..stay in India for 2 years. After 2 years, if u feel like coming back, u can do it or else u can give up ur GC for a 10 year multiple entry visa.This way u will have both the options open..

About staying here...well...I'm one of those ppl who heart is truly in India...

I've a friend here, u bought a very good house...spend millions on buying it & decorating it...but so farhe has only 2 close friends who have some to his house...they are just 3 families who are together on every occassion of the year....(general freinds don't matter)....he feels so frustrated..there is no one to use those 5 bedrooms he has...no one to praise the decoration...no one to fill the house when there is festival...all year pass in a flash of an eye.....there is rush on diwali..no color on holi...

well..the ultimate decision rest on u..
take ur time & decide..
 
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