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Ever had second thoughts about the whole thing?

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eddy89

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I've been applying for many years, and when I was chosen in DV-2013 I was incredibly happy, and I succeeded in the interview and got my visa to fly to the US within 6 months. As time goes by I began feeling less and less enthusiastic about it and for the past few weeks I've been wondering if I should do it or not. Anyway, just thought to ask if you have had second thoughts about it at any point in time?
 
I think you should stop and consider if it is the right thing to do or the right time to do it. Having been there before and having no fears about money or finding work I STILL have doubts that I am doing the right thing - that is only natural. However, My wife and I (seperately) both were the type of people that took our shot before. I think we still have that spirit within us (although being older I am also keeping some property in Europe - just in case ;-)
 
I think the most important thing is to find out what you really want by moving to US? Better career, better education for your kids, better future of your next generation (at least giving your next generation a choice), better lifestyle and other stuffs you might want to achieve. Once you know what you wanted, do some research whether it can be achieve and for how long? To me is that, if we do not have any goal and just moving blindly to US and hope that everything will turn out your way is way too risky. Leaving your home country and go to a new place is not easy, it even harder if you move with family. If you already have a good life in your country then you should really think carefully because moving to US you will have a different set of challenges. In US, everything are more competitive but of course if you think you can face all those challenges with a clear goal set in your mind, you will definitely have a better life in US because indirectly, it will bring you into next stage of your life.

This is just my thought and hopefully it also make sense to others.
 
If you only have a high school diploma and you're from a third world country, your life can only improve in USA, especially for your children. If you're already living comfortably in a safe country, then it's not such a straightforward decision.
 
kayend said:
I think the most important thing is to find out what you really want by moving to US? Better career, better education for your kids, better future of your next generation (at least giving your next generation a choice), better lifestyle and other stuffs you might want to achieve. Once you know what you wanted, do some research whether it can be achieve and for how long? To me is that, if we do not have any goal and just moving blindly to US and hope that everything will turn out your way is way too risky. Leaving your home country and go to a new place is not easy, it even harder if you move with family. If you already have a good life in your country then you should really think carefully because moving to US you will have a different set of challenges. In US, everything are more competitive but of course if you think you can face all those challenges with a clear goal set in your mind, you will definitely have a better life in US because indirectly, it will bring you into next stage of your life.

This is just my thought and hopefully it also make sense to others.
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I'm completely agree with you
 
Listen i have the same feelings than u , i live good in my country, but i still living with family, i will move next week to US, the country that i know it since i was student there. I get used to the life back in my country, we have villa and stable job with average salary, however, i am thinking about my kids, will they have brighter future than me in my country ? the answer is unsure, coz once they start going to school i will need to pay half of my salary only for their education, knowing that basic school in US is free and much stronger and knowing also that in US there are more opportunities, i just took the descision to go head and give it a chance, i took one year off in my work and i will go try my chance like early immigrants.

I know very very well that my first year in US will be very hard, get used to a new life, hard weather, new people, hardworking society, very huge country, is not easy, i feel that the first year will be so hard, but once i succeed on it, am sure the rest of my life in the US will be easy, i already got the US diplomas, language, i just need courage , i can recognize i am lazy now because i live with family, but i do not believe in this fake life anymore, time to improve my life to better, time to be a real man in a real society in a real country.
 
Princedriss what an honest and inspiring answer. I look forward to hearing so much how everything goes for you in the US. Time now seems to be going so fast, it is amazing you will be there in a weeks time.

As always, all the very best to you :)

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thanks qewty for ur feelings, i do need encouragements and i need my moral to be up, i am like a warrior a commando who is going straight to the objective, no place for laziness
 
eddy89 said:
I've been applying for many years, and when I was chosen in DV-2013 I was incredibly happy, and I succeeded in the interview and got my visa to fly to the US within 6 months. As time goes by I began feeling less and less enthusiastic about it and for the past few weeks I've been wondering if I should do it or not. Anyway, just thought to ask if you have had second thoughts about it at any point in time?
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You don't have to make the ultimate commitment immediately. You can enter the US, get your GC, and scout around for a month or so, just to get and idea if it is made for you and if you are made for the US. If you decide you are not prepared you can get a re-entry permit, which allows you to stay out of the US for two years and still maintain your GC. You will have two more years in your country to think straight and decide if you want to make the ultimate move to the US.

That being said, a friend of mine once said that his friends back at home would ask a lot about moving to the US. He told them that I find one thing in common among all the people that successfully moved to the US, that "they wanted to make a change in their lives". Do you want to make a change in your life?
 
Very good replies and great thoughts here. I think I don't have the drive since I am pretty happy with my life and career, and don't have a family and I intend never to have one (I'm nearing 40 so I know what I'm saying). I will do as you people say, get my GC then have a look around for a month or so then I can make a decision. Thanks for your great advice everyone :)
 
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